Weekends are supposed to be family day
By ching128
@ching128 (27)
Philippines
September 22, 2012 11:50pm CST
A friend has been married for almost 4 years to a husband that is always busy. Not all the time but most of the time during weekends he is infront of his laptop working. My friend doesn'tcomplain on weekdays and almost praying for weekends to come so that he would be home with her and their son. But if he is not working, he is watching tv or sleeping. Sometimes he acts as a family man and play with their son and sometimes take them out on the malls to eat and just wander.
My friend is feeling so bad about their marriage now. She's tired of him. He doesn't help her in the household chores, there are some things to be done like electricals and plumbing but he kept on delaying them. She ends up doing the electricals (she's a graduate of ECE). She feels neglected most of the time. Smetimes their son wants to play with him but he's so busy. That is why the kid is not so close to him. He doesn't want his father to read him bedtime stories and would cry until my friend is beside him.
The thing is, his husband is sweet and would kiss her and hug her if he's mad and the she'd forget her sentiments until it happens again. She stopped working to take care of their son, she does all the laundry,washing of dishes, cooking, groceries. She even acts as his son's teacher every morning. I wonder how she gets all the energy everyday. But it seems like her husband Don't appreciate what she does.
What do you think she should do?
2 responses
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
They say that men are okay just knowing that their wives are there with them unlike women who wants more than physically present. They need to be loved and cherish. They need to see and feel that they are important. They say that this is one of the reason why women fall out of love. They feel neglected. They often think that their husbands have changed.
She should talk to his husband about it but normally, they won't understand and might think that this is just a part of girls' drama. But who knows, her husband might listen to her. If not, try to make things that would fulfill her as an individual. Maybe his husband would noticed those changes.
@ztuberi (395)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
I super understand what you're saying. I also feel that way.
But I also read somewhere in the internet, that men do not think or assumes what women want. To solve it, women should tell men what they want them to do specifically. Yeah, its like spoon feeding.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
23 Sep 12
She needs to talk to her husband. He may not even realize anything is wrong. Unless she talks to him, there is no way to remedy the problem.
