Long distance relationship...a stupidity?

For me,a relationship is not about the distance but how you feel for each other.Love makes you both closer no matter how far away your partner.When you really love someone you have to love each other.It is not stupid.It is stupid when there are third parties but what like I said the love,understanding and loyalty are important to this kind of relationship.

I have seen long distance relationships work and fail. Usually when they fail it is because both people are not committed to making them work. One of the other decides that they have to have someone that is close to them. I have a very dear friend that met her husband online. When they met, they decided to try the long distance thing because he did not want to leave his job, which was a very good paying job to move to where she lived. She did not want to leave where she was until her youngest child graduated from high school. They would take turns traveling to see each other every few months. They eventually got engaged and married. They lived apart one more year after they married. They are now living together and things are great. I also work with a lady whose husband has lived in another state due to his job. They have been living about for several years and see each other about once a month. In both cases, each person is committed to the relationship and it works. I think typically long distance relationships can work for older people more so than with younger.

I was really not in favor with long distance relationship because it can be very risky. Before my husband and I got married, I asked him if he has any plans of working abroad because if he has, I won't continue with our relationship. I just personally do not like my husband and I living separately. Like your boss said, I want him to be the very first person to be with me when I am need. But I know a couple who have been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 decades. It is actually their choice because the guy wanted to become a US citizen like some of his family member. The wife on the other hand wanted a good life so they agreed. But of course, there are disadvantages/consequences. Their youngest has been constantly involved in troubles and though they have money, he was not able to finish his studies and was imprisoned twice. Well, we cannot really tell if the situation would be the same if the father is around. This has been their problem eversince and not infidelity or third party. So it is really up to you.

Hi friend, long distance relationship is not a stupidity, but i agree with your boss point, we don't have the ability to meet our beloved person whenever we want, if they are in long distance, but distance is not a factor for true love. If the person is in real love with you, s/he have the ability to help you even though s/he is in the long distance, i.e he will help with his local friends or family friends.

hey friend long distance relationship is not stupidity because i am also in long distance relationship and my partner always calling me and she give me idea what to do and not what to do. she help in many ways she give me moral support, she give me money when i needed this enough for every one when he/she in a long distance relationship.

The thing is, you must know yourself first. For me, it depends on the people who are on that particular relationship. If that long distance relationship causes more fights and stress, than happy moments, better call it off, but if the distance is not minded and still happy with the relationship, then there's nothing to discuss about it.. at the end of the day, you and your partner are still the boss of it..

Long distance relationship is a totally different ball game but it is still basically a mutual relationship between 2 persons who are committed to it and to each other. It is true that there is a void as far as personal presence is concern but that should not be the obstacle or reason for a relationship to breakdown. If you look around, relationships do breakdown despite 2 parties are seeing each other almost everyday. So, like all relationships both parties need to be mutual and committed. I do not have anything against long distance relationship like your boss and personally I feel that it is whatever one deems fit and comfortable. I know for a fact that in such a relationship, couples actually have more personal space to work with and that's where distance comes in. However, it is never an obstacle as far as communication is concern because we have the state of art modern technology like internet phone, Internet voice and video chats to help us. Imagine watching the sunset or opposite together with video chat at 2 separate ends of the earth or having a meal with each other on video, are just some of the ingenuity committed couples can come up with when they miss one another. Issues about trust and honesty are also taken further to another level especially when there's no other party to validate. So, it is really something as far as personal attainment and achievement is concern. As for the presence issue, I think it is even a better platform where one can travel to the others' place to meet which is more of an enjoyment and if I may add almost like a holiday trip - new places, new people, new culture and airline food if the distance allows. So, don't let your boss's judgmental negativity put you down on this and I felt that your boss is just being too fast and one track mind. No offense.

He might be true in his opinion but there is no long distance about love. Love is always makes two people nearer... Long distant relationship is depend on both lovers to stay or not. Even do most of those relationship is not successful and turn into nothing. There are few that stand still and love is still the same... It's depend on you to decide if your boss, is right or not. Because your in the relationship. With my experience, it's really a kind of stupid because it will makes my life turn into hell.

koko i think your boss talked a bit in a unsensitive way. i mean you like your lover right? you are in a long distance relationship only for a few time right? or are you always far from her? if you like her then you are working so someday you and her can be happy together. and have a life. but even if you are far from her im sure she still cares for you. you can always see each other on cam. its not the same thing than touching her but at least you can see her. and you can tell her your problems and everything. if you love your gf dont give up just because your boss thinks thats stupid. is it stupid for you? if it isnt then keep your relation^^ soon you will be near her.

I think it's rude for him to judge something he doesn't even know. Not all long distance relationships are bad and not all long distance relationships started off being long distance. Unfortunately, I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 and a half years and about 5 months ago our relationship went long distance because he left for the army. As much as it hurts to be so far apart, we're staying together because we have plans for our future together and we were also able to have 2 years together in the same town where we could see each other every day. The distance won't be forever and in a few years we'll be together again in the same city. It's very hard, he's getting deployed to Korea soon for almost a year but we're going to stick it out. To me, long distance relationships seem to have a lot of feelings, why else would you be in one if you didn't care about the person you're with? It would be so much easier to date someone in your own city but a long distance relationship shows how much you really care about each other. Your boss shouldn't have made that comment. It's rude and he shouldn't judge something he doesn't know much about.

I have a long distance relationship too. I am married with someone who lives in Africa. It's true you actually live alone and have to deal with most things alone. But this doesn't mean you can share things/problems it all depends on how close you feel or how willing you are to let that person be a part of your life. It's not said it's easy but most relationships are far from easy and many people live a big part of their relationship alone (think of so many professions where one partner is not home for a whole week or longer). Most women do live alone, deal alone with most problems.

Long distance relationship isn't for every one. But for those who already have the foundation in their relationship, LDR might work. For example, have you and your bf already met in person and has spent some considerable time together? Do you guys see a couple of times a year to spend some time and catch up? If you answered yes in all of it, then there's a big chance that it might work. Of course it will take extra patience, trust and understanding from both sides. But if it is a relationship that started online and there's no meet up yet, no plans yet of getting together, then your boss does have a point. You are not sure of the guy's intentions, and who knows, you might be wasting your time being loyal to someone when you two are not on the same page.

Your boss just gave you a tip in long distance relationships. You and your partner can only say if your relationship is working or not. What is the purpose why he left and went far from you? Of course, there is a reason. Maybe he wants to have a better future for the two of you. We should not put colors in different things. All of the things we do has a reason.

Hello! I've been in a long distance relationship before, at first, it was hard on both of us and not sure if it will last forever or not but we believe and trust each other. We've been open on every day's we've been through. We talk sometimes but texts all the time. We meet sometimes and after so many years my bf now is my husband :) Long distance relationship is not a barrier if you do trust each other, being open and love each other. Have a great day!

I still believe in understanding and self control could make you a strong believer that long distance relation could still work,as long as both of you have the assurance not falling to love another person except you and I are always in love.The problem is just communication that you should never lie to your love one and all dealings are discussed and let your senses tell to both your hearts that you still wanted each other.

It depends on what you are expecting from this relationship. If it is only friendship then long distance relationship should not be a problem. But if you want this relationship to turn into a marriage then you need to meet and spend some time together. Your boss could be right if latter is your idea.