Big age gaps between couples

The big difference of age gap between couples sometimes work. I think that would depend on one another's personality. And yes, I have to agree with you that age difference of 10-20 years can be understandable but beyond that, we begin to think of something else. Is it love or just the money that they are in for. Just take for example celebrity couples -a woman in her mid 20's marrying a man in his 50's. They stay together for a couple of years then split up. A huge money becomes involved coz a certain amount should be given to the party who doesn't earn as much!

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and we are very much in love. In relation to your discussion, he is alot older than me. It is hurtful when I read people saying things like 'They must be in it for the money.' and 'They're just a gold digger.' This is far from the case. My partner isn't a millionare by any stretch of the imagination. I am with him simply because I love him. We have so many things in common and he makes me feel wanted. I am attracted to him and he is attrated to me, so I really don't see a problem. I think it is very shallow to have such an attitude about age gaps and while I most certainly don't want an argument with anybody about this, I DO think that some people should think before they post. Thanks for the discussion. :)

There is nothing wrong with an age gap in my opinion, although I do agree that it becomes very significant when you reach a difference in excess of 25 years or so. Age is less important as life progresses and what seemed like an important difference gradually starts to disappear. For example, a 10 year age gap between 2 people aged 16 and 26 seems large, but the same age gap once they reach 36 and 46 seems far less significant. Of course the real important factor is the relationship between the 2 people concerned because they are the only ones to truly know whether the age difference matters or not. As long as they are both happy with the arrangement then I would not assume to have the right to make a judgement of any kind. If they have no desire to criticise my life then I have no reason to criticise theirs.

Hi melissa, I too feel that the age difference should not be too much..as you say the outer limit should be 20 years either way or better still 15 years .When there is a huge age difference it is difficult to imagine that it is possible to have mental compatibility .However, it is a personal choice and people do marry those many many years older than them for various reasons and I wish them all the best...

My partner and I have a big age gap with me older by about 10 years. None of my friends or his friends commented on the age gap when we started dating. They didn't seem to mind and neither do we. A few months from now will be the 5th year anniversary and the relationship is still going strong. Perhaps, only time will tell what will happen to the relationship and since we are not married, there is nothing to prevent him from finding someone in the future that is within the same age group. I am quite practical with these matters and will have to accept whatever the future brings. In this time and age, a greater majority no longer mind age gaps. Even couples of the same age suffer from broken relationship like what happened with my own marriage. I think it is no longer the age that matters but other factors like maturity, compatibility, respect and of course love.

Sometimes they marry older men for financial freedom. I mean let's face it, women are wise and that they want to marry someone that will give them the life of their dreams. But I also think that the lady may learn how to love the older person. I will not be that worried about it if its just like 10 years gap but 30 years gap is something very confusing.

Some couples with a large age difference will have enough other things in common to make it work. But even the best of those relationships will eventually break down simply because one partner is going to get so much older than the other, that it will be impossible for them to share much of their lives. One partner may even die while the other is still quite young. Still, we don't know what people may learn from such an experience and as long as the partners are happy together, we should be happy for whatever time they have.

I think 2 decades gap is not comfortable to me . I dint mind seeing 5 years apart and maybe 10 years . I think if you love the person it would not matter and if the woman is older and she want a younger man and maybe in love it doesnt matter . Most time money is a big motive in those huge age gap relationship

I think we will see more of this for financial benefits. For me big age gaps doesn't matters as long as the couple are matured enough to know their obligations to each other. For example a woman on her 30 to marry a woman in his 60 will likely succeed rather than a woman on her 18th marrying a 48 years old guys. And how much age gap a couple have, I don't care cause it's their life and their relationship. Cheers!

Age gap doesn't matter when love's attack. All it matters is they love each other sincerely but their opponent in their relationship are people around them that can destroy their love relationship. They must be strong enough to face all challenges they may encounter.

I think that people should get involved with people that are about the same age as them. It is okay for one or the other to be a couple of years older or younger than the other one. I do think that any age gap that is ten or more years is too much. I mean I believe that the couple will not have that much in common with one another because by the time one of them was born the other is already finishing elementary school. I know that most men seek much younger women than themselves because they feel that they are more "beautiful" and "fresher" than older women. These men also put in their minds that younger women are more desirable because they can have babies as opposed to older women whose biological clock is ticking or has ticked away. A lot of women do pursue a relationship with a much older man for mostly one reason which is, financial security. They don't care about the age gap, they just want someone who can take care of all their financial needs no matter how much older he is from them. This scenario can even go vice or versa, some men date much older women so the women can be their sugar mammas. Just look at Ivana Trump, and Linda Hogan with their much younger men who are young enough to be their sons. It's really horrible to see such relationships where one partner is just in it for the money.