Making good decisions needs skill or instinct?

@besweet (9859)
Ireland
September 23, 2012 10:49pm CST
We're called to take decisions every day and we always decide what we think it's better for us. I used to take all my decisions based on instinct, I was 100% sure for what I wanted and all my choices we driven from my instinct and my will to do the right thing. As I grow up, I relise that it's not black and white, and what we think is the best now, might have adverse results in the future. So we also need to develop the skill that we can base on our experience and this can also affect the important choices that we' re called to make. What happens when the instinct and the experience tell us to do different choices? I think that when I have a dilemma like this one, I go with my instinct. Where are your choices based and has this changed through the years?
13 responses
@leahn011 (58)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
In making decisions in life I can't say I can go through my instinct because sometimes it may slip but it may based it through experience because it was a lesson on how you handle obstacles and challenges in life. Through experience you became strong to face all challenges and became a wiser decision maker. Also, I based my decision making on its advantages and disadvantages of the present that may cause the future.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
26 Sep 12
Nice! It seems that you're using both skills and instinct and you try to keep everything balanced and right! I hope we'll all get more experience as we grow up and we'll become better decision makers in the future :)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
yeah that's right. :)
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
You are telling the truth friend because our instincts are our conscience,that we all have it working well in our brains.Our instincts would also change as we are becoming matured,but it is the same we have decided when we are younger,yet our decision during these time is more on security than easy going.That is why you have to think and balance your decision not to cause a trouble in the future,that is must be beneficial to anyone.
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• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Extreme decisions are from your balanced calculations of your instincts,that is why your decision makes everything clear and no other problems are left unsolved.What is the use of your thinking in solving the problem if it creates another problem.You have to make all things transparent,so that all could be guided and knows what to do when they are having another project.If another problem develops,and you are not in the group,then you have nothing to do with their problems.They must do something to solve it.
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
26 Sep 12
Extreme decisions always have some risk, while balanced thinking and choices can be very beneficial as you said! Skill comes with experience when we grow up but instinct is something unique to every one of us, that's why everyone thinks in a different way based on unique criteria that each individual has!
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@dfollin (25387)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Of course that has happened to me many times.I think that has happened to everyone at some time in their lives.It's part of life.What is right for now may not be right a year from now,ten years from now or even tomorrow! Like you buy your five year old son a suit to wear to church that suit is not going to fit him next year.......unless you tell him not too eat.OK,seriously,you may have only $20 and don't paid for 2 more days,but rent is due in 8 days.So,you buy the food for the family for the next few days and worry about then rent then.You gotta' do what you gotta' do! Or you moved into a house and it has no stove.So,you buy one.Then the next place you move to already has a stove,better then yours.Now you don't need your stove.Oh well stuff happens.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
25 Sep 12
Yes, this kind of decision need to be taken quickly and we just do what's best for now! Like at the examples that you described or when all the bills come at the same time and you have to decide which ones must me paid immediately and which ones can b left for next month! There are also other choices that we can' t calculate so well, for example if you get a job offer to another city and you have to choose between career an d boyfriend/friends/parents etc. We ll always need to choose our paths in life and we will have to take responsibility for the positive or negative outcome! Thanks for your comment :-)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
25 Sep 12
I think it's a bit of both skill and instinct. Some people (re: skill) seem able to pull the strategy from themselves easily which is needed to solve even the worst problems, and some other people seem to just instinctively know what the right solutions would be. Those who possess both those skills together are the lucky ones.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
26 Sep 12
Yes I also believe that those people are very lucky and it must be a lot easier for them to choose right! But in the other hand, they're probably asked to take more difficult decisions. Sometimes when someone is good at something gets to be tested more than others on the akill that he/she has! I think that both skill and instinct are great as long as they lead us to the best choices. Thanks for your comment!
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I think it has to be a balance of both. If you have the necessary skills to fully assess the outcome of your decision and how it will affect your future, well and good. But sometimes, your instinct nags at you and you know deep down in your gut that something is a bit off. Just strike a balance between the two and I'm sure it will definitely help you make the right decision.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Sep 12
Thanks for your comment. I think that instinct definitely affects our decisions, first of all it can define the difference between right and wrong and lead us to the good choice, and that's where the skill will help us make the best choice. All that happen instantly though and we can never be sure, usually the clarity of our choices comes with time!
• United States
24 Sep 12
I agree that they do tend to blend together. As you get older its hard to mask your instinct especially being a parent. My motherly instinct takes over without a doubt. I try very hard to see thing with skill and go by my instinct as well. My decisions are instinctive backed by my knowledge and skill. It works well for me.
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Sep 12
I don't have children but my mother has talked to me about the motherly instinct, I think it's impressive. She says that when me or my brother were in trouble, or we were sick, she had bad dreams, or she couldn't sleep well feeling that something was wrong! Do you have the same feeling as a mother?
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
25 Sep 12
I would say instict, but sometimes it doesn't help and skill/experience/knowledge is the way to go. Usually for practical or less important decisions. Skill may be an important factor in instict but not the other way around.
@bloodmask (590)
• India
2 Oct 12
Its all start at very young age of three when we all are young and if we are met lot more tougher disicssion at that very young age then our skills would be beyound others level. Our analytical skill depends on how we try to improvise them from our young age and when we get adult we know what we have to do and the best result will decide who is better than whome.
24 Sep 12
I think you definitely need a mixture of skill and instinct to make god decisions. The fact is that as you go through life you learn lessons that you can use in future decision making processes. But there is a risk associated with always making decisions based on past experience and that is you can limit yourself to what you have always had in the past - such as in relationships, food, life experiences. You also need to allow yourself to make decision based on gut feeling and instinct as these will allow you to have different experiences in life that you wouldn't have if you always make them on skill. The real skill is in deciding when to be cautious and stick with what you know, and when to be a little risky and throw caution to the wind, follow your instinct and see where it leads. This is the real skill in decision making!
@nhieleiko (109)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Both of them are needed to make good decisions. You need skills to decide fast and and you need instinct to decide what is the right thing to do. It depends also in the situation that you will encounter. Therefore, skills and instinct should be combined to have a best decisions.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Sep 12
Both are important and they should be combined, some people might use more of their skills or more of their guts! I think I put more instinct, but I definitely use my exprience from my past to avoid mistakes. Thanks for your response!
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
I try to make decisions based on what really feels good to me. I found out that most of the time, they always turn out to be the right one. :) Those times that it didn't well, i realized that when I made those decisions, I was feeling happy but there were some negative feelings feelings nagging through. I realized that making good decisions really stems from feeling good about the decision first without a hint of doubt. It worked for me. :)
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Sep 12
When there is doubt we come to a dilemma and we have second thought. That's when it feels more difficult for me to decide! For example, you might not have an option that you feel completely good about it, how would you deal with it? Until recently, I was also like you, never had a doubt about my choices! But now I have been in situations where I can't make up my mind so easily and I always think about the positive and negative outcomes. This is when I follow my instinct and we'll see how it goes!
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
That's precisely why we are not only endowed with instincts but also with consciousness and wisdom from experiences. We ca not truly rely on just one to get to the best decisions. It is nice to consider the future, but then there's no guarantee that we'd get to see the future.. Mu judgment call, personally, is based on what needs to be done for the present. As for the future, I'll cross the bridge when I get there. :D
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Sep 12
I tend to think about the future more than I think about now, especially when I am taking very important decisions. It is said that we should live every day like it's our last day, but I can't stop thinking about tomorrow! :) Maybe it's like that for me because I tend to always follow a program and have everything planned in my life! You have a completely different philoshophy and I can see that it also works for you very well.
@iBizkut (80)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Yes but as you learn over the years skill and instinct can blend together because there are logical people and also realistic people. So they're instincts are really the skills they have acquired and knowledge. I tend to base of my instincts because I like to look at the situation as a whole no matter what it is as simple as choosing food (:
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Sep 12
I also want to have an "outside" perspective when I am about to take a decision. When we leave our personal feelings affect our decision, then we might be carried away and make choices that won't have a good long-term outcome. When skills, knowledge from past experience and instinct are working together then I am sure about my decision and I never turn back to think what would have happend if I had done a different choice.