Being a father and a friend..
By obe212003
@obe212003 (2299)
Philippines
September 24, 2012 1:38am CST
I'm really having a difficult being a friend to my sons especially my 17-year-old son who seems to be much into hip-hop, rap and all the recent fads nowadays. Being conservatively brought up, we just seem to argue on a lot of things.
Being a father, I have always been keeping an open mind and try to understand him as much as i can, and to resolve such issues, we just tend to compromise each and everytime, lol!
The great thing about father/son relationship is that he considers me as a close friend, which I am trying quite hard to cope up with.
Being a father and a friend, any thoughts?
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3 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Sep 12
I have to admit I don't understand what your problem is. Fact is you don't need share the same interests to be good/close friends. A good friend is there when needed, with an open ear, listening to you, willing to help you out if that person is doing the same for you. Since friendship has to come from both sides. It sounds to me your son sees you as a close friend no matter if you like his music. You are safe and someone who will try to be there for him (no mater if you understand him or not.. understanding someone else is one of the hardest things to do since nobody is exactly the same or had the same history, feelings, character etc).
So I can only advice you to live your life, with what is important to you and let your son live his life. There will be times you are the father and have to raise him, there will be times you are the best friend he has. I think you (two) are doing fine and there is nothing to worry about.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Actually you're right, there is no problem as I know no matter what, I would always be his father. There are only instances that there would be somethings that he would hesitate to dwell on, and probably that's the part where i want to be a part, of. Anyways thanks for the response.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
24 Sep 12
it is hard for us to make friends with our children,but we must try to do it,good relations will let you happy and help your children in some time,we can't do prectly,it is usual,but we will do better with the passage of time.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Yes, i do agree. Time.. it's what the best thing i can give them, time to listen, time to talk, time to share, time to do things together... I just want them to know that i would be always be there, to have time with them, day in or out all the time.
Thanks for the response.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Communication plays a very vital part, i think, on father/son relationship and that's why i talk to them (7 sons) one at a time if i have the chance everyday, day in and day out. But on the other hand, there are some things that they can't really be honest of, especially "girlfriends", lol! Thanks for the response.
