Cheaters
By CosmoOwl12
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
United States
September 24, 2012 11:25am CST
I really cannot stand it when I hear about someone cheating on their significant others! Whether it be a boyfriend/girlfriend or wife/husband, I think cheating is wrong. Before my boyfriend and I started talking, he was talking to a married woman. At first he didn't know that she was married but she eventually told him. Neither of them seemed to care that she was married. I know they met in a bar and apparently my boyfriend "saved" her because a fight broke out and he kept her away from it or some crap. So I have copies of Facebook messages that they sent back and forth to each other from about 2 years ago.
Whenever she sees him in public, she comes up and talks to him. She acts like a giddy little school girl (even when her husband is with her) and I think it's very inappropriate especially when I'm standing right there with our daughter. She sends him Facebook messages every once in awhile but I always delete them. Recently she sent him one saying she saw him at a friend's visitation but it couldn't have been him because he was at work all day. He told her that and then blocked her before she could reply.
I messaged her and asked her to leave him alone. She was very rude to me saying that she had only sent him a message saying she thought she saw him at the visitation. I'm assuming she doesn't know that I have the other messages. She said I was disrespectful and stupid. SHE is the one who is being disrespectful. Do you think I should tell her husband?
6 responses
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
I say that she's a nasty flirt. First off, she should know her place and she should keep in mind that she does not have any relationship with your boyfriend especially now that she's married to someone else. Maybe the incident at the bar was an unforgettable experience for her, and from the looks of it, she "owes" your boyfriend something or she's really interested in your boyfriend!
If I were you, I would tell her husband if this situation gets too serious for me to handle. I will not tolerate someone who flirts and stalks my boyfriend, especially if she's married to someone else.
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
Okay, she's crazy and a liar too. The next time she approaches you and your boyfriend, do not walk away and face her. Give her a serious glare and do not leave your boyfriend unattended while talking to her even if she's with her husband. That will make her feel uneasy. I think her husband does not suspect anything because he thought that his wife is just friendly towards your boyfriend and is just making a conversation but your mind says otherwise. I can tell that she's into your man from the way she acts.
If possible, you may want to show the proof to her husband so that he'll get the idea the next time his wife makes another move to your guy.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
26 Sep 12
That's a good idea. I did send the messages to her husband and he pretty much said he didn't care. He claims he asked her about the messages and about the incident in the bar (which they talk about in the messages and she admits to kissing him), and he says that she doesn't remember any of it. Well of course she's going to say that. Lol He says that it was in the past and he wants to leave it there and obviously my boyfriend is a "low-life" for messing with a married woman. I told him that his wife is obviously in the same boat since she cheated on him and what makes him think she's not doing it now with someone else. He didn't have anything to say to that. The way he was talking made me think that it's not the first time she's cheated so I'm sure it won't be the last.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I just think she's crazy. She claims she hasn't spoken to my boyfriend since the incident in the bar, but that's a lie. She's sent him at least three Facebook messages that I know of and she saw us at Family Video one time. My boyfriend stood there and talked to her (she was with her husband) and I walked away as soon as I saw her coming towards us. I can't stand to be around her, let alone have a conversation with her. She kept asking our daughter which I don't think is any of her business and she even asked about my boyfriend's other daughter from a previous relationship. She only knew about his kids because she saw pictures of them on Facebook. That's one reason why I blocked her in the first place. I don't want her having anything to do with my child.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I also hate cheaters. But in your case, I don't think it would be wise for you to initiate contact with her husband. It's like you are lowering yourself to her level, giving in to what she wants for you which is to be bothered big time about it, plus, we never know she might be planning for you to do this first to make you seem the troublemaker. What you can do however is talk to your own husband about your feelings regarding the girl. Let him be the one to tell that woman to stop messaging him. She might not stop immediately when asked to do so, but at least it came from the right person.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
25 Sep 12
He has asked her before to leave him alone and she refuses. Everytime she sees us in public (even when she's with her husband) she will speak to him. She completely ignores me and only talks to him and asks him about our daughter. I don't think it's any of her business. He only speaks to her in public because he doesn't want to seem rude. I'm sure her husband has asked who my boyfriend is and I'm sure she lies about how she knows him. She's almost 40 years old and I think she's being very childish.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Sep 12
Well i totally agree to your point. Cheating has become very much common these days. There is no such relationship on earth now which is devoid of cheating and all. This is so unnatural and human beings should rather trust and have faith on each other and not cheat each others. By doing so they are reducing themselves at the animal level and they are also not repenting for harming the emotions and feelings of the people they have hurt. They just need a lesson or two in order to realize how dangerous the business of cheating is.
What say?
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
26 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, really the girls activity is not a good one. As you mentioned you already contacted her and warn about her activity, but still she is giving troubles to you, there is nothing wrong in contacting her hubby about this issue, hope it will help you a little bit.
@wonderfull1300 (15)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Sounds like you got yourself a CRAZY AWKWARD situation- what does your boyfriend say about all this? Maybe he should be the one to talk to this lady and tell her to stay out of both your lives.
Have you run the scenarios around in your mind? If you get her husband involved it could just mean more headache than anything else. If this lady bothers you, your boyfriend should tell her to leave you guys alone.
Good luck
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
25 Sep 12
He has asked her and she doesn't listen. So then I asked her to leave him alone myself and she said I was disrespectful and stupid. She claims she doesn't know what I'm talking about and the only message she has ever sent my boyfriend was to ask him if he was at a friend's visitation. Obviously, that's not true and I have the proof.
@Celestemy (8)
• Dominican Republic
24 Sep 12
I think cheating is not fair. It's so sad to see when you love someone and care for him, and you do everything for him, and this person makes you suffer and cheat on you. You feel disappointed, unloved and insecure. It's not fair! Nobody has the right to play with your feelings. A man should cherish a woman who takes care of his things and who does everything possible to make him happy. Cheaters should think twice before doing this, since we should never do to others what we don't want for them to do to us.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I think you're confused. My boyfriend isn't cheating on me. I'm talking about a woman who cheats on her husband and thinks it's okay to stalk my boyfriend.
@Celestemy (8)
• Dominican Republic
25 Sep 12
I'm sorry! I misunderstood the situation. Well, I don't think you should talk to her husband because this might cause a greater problem, and her husband might think your boyfriend has the fault. What your boyfriend should do is to keep on ignoring her, and she will get tired of his indifference and will leave. I suggest you not to talk to her anymore either, so that she doesn't offend you; and I don't think you were disrespectful. You have the right to protect your relationship.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
25 Sep 12
My boyfriend and I have both blocked her from our Facebook accounts. I just hope she doesn't see us in public anymore. I know she moved to another town and she got a different job, so hopefully we won't see her anymore. She's just annoying.
