How does a break up from a relationship taught you a lesson?

Obviously, when you break up, there had been problems between the two of you that have become irreconcilable. So when you entertain a new love, you make it a point not to commit the same mistakes or atleast make better decision next time. Then love is much sweeter.

Hi. I haven't really been to a break up. I have an 8 year boyfriend which I think will last forever. LOL. :) I love the song you made me stronger by regine velasquez. Have you heard of Breakeven by the script? It's a good song too and the message of it is good. People who just had a break up could maybe relate to that song. But just a little tip, maybe if you are still suffering for the breakup, don't let yourself suffer more and the other is moving on. Let the feeling be mutual. If you think that the other person is not hurting from the break up then move on. That's the best thing to do. And don't let yourself down by just one person, let yourself up by the people who love you more than the one who broke your heart. BTW, after all by peter cetera is a good song too. :D

I think that each failed relationship taught me something about myself and what I was looking for in a partner - or maybe what I wasn't looking for would be a better way to word it. I wasn't too sure what kind of man I was looking to spend my life with but it didn't take me long to make up a list of things I didn't want. And then when i was contemplating dating someone new I just had to know what he wasn't and not worry about what he was.

i had a breakup with my last bf (before i met my husband) some hmmmm 10 years ago? well it was a positive effect for me. because i already felt like i was choked by his being over-protective. and he was so insecure because during that time he lost his job. he found a new one but i earn a higher salary than him. i do not know why he was so insecure about that. i was always telling him that he can find a better one if he will just keep on looking. he makes petty quarrels a serious one. and he is jealous on everything i have. he even became jealous of my time for my family. so when i was at the point of like running out of air to breath, i let him go... but we are still friends now. though we do not talk regularly. he also has a nice job with a high position. so i told him, see i told you you're gonna find something better if only you were patient that time. he just laughed...

I never experienced this honestly. Coz my first boyfriend was my husband. I suggest maybe a person should learn how to pray for someone who deserves your love and affection. Sad to say a lot our just entering into a relationship just for fun and has no serious or good intentions at all. I believe that if a person really loves you he will try to accept and deal with your imperfections.

It taught me that the greatest gift God gave to us is LOVE. I experienced it and realized that no matter how painful it is, the love that hurts you will be replaced by another powerful love that will heal your soul and your being. This also taught me to care for more and love more because not everyone stays in your life and I don't want to feel I have not given my best even I know it might hurt me again if the guy in front of me is still not the right one.

I hope that just after getting out of one relationship you don't jump right back into one. That is the worst thing you can do. You need to give yourself time to re-evaluate yourself and what you want from an relationship. So many people just jump into something and before they even know a person or understand what they need from a relationship and so it fails. It's always a good idea to evaluate what you need and who you are before delving into something.

It is always hard when we just get out of a relationship as we spend a lot of time trying to think about what it is that we do wrong. However, breaking up isn't always somebody's fault, and it is just something that happens. The best thing that we should be doing is trying to move on because just continuing to go over things is never going to help us to be happy again. When we have had a break up we should try to get in touch with our family and friends and spend some time with them to remind yourself of the people who are the most important to you.

I think the lessons we learn after a break up depend on several factors. Such as: -maturity you are, and the ex -reason for the break up -how long the relation lasted -and etc There is one thing for sure, if the break up is over an argument I'm sure you learned not to bring a topic up or you learned that there are just some things you shouldn't do/say to girls of certain personalities. From a general perspective a good portion of relationships don't last because of bad communication, bad karma, and/or simple misunderstandings that elevated.

We always have a choice to prolong the agony after the break up or eventually move on. it's our own choice to dwell on the pain or find something else to overcome it. As long as we have friends and family to depend on during those dark times in our life, we could always move forward and see the light again. It's our choice whether to do it immediately or later in life.

i like to think that when we breal up we can look back and reflect and see what went wrong but i do believe that at the end of every breal up it makes us into stronger people. I have personally learned alot fom failed relationships and used those experiances to enrich my life.

I only experienced break up once (thank goodness, second bf is my now husband). And on that break up, I have learned to love myself more, not to settle, and that I shouldn't let love hinder my personal growth. Because love isn't like that. Basically I learned what love really is in that relationship.

It pans out differently for everybody as every one has their own tendencies to different situations.I was in love with my ex but realized how deep that affection was after the breakup.I was shattered & could not think about any other for almost a year.it took me a long time getting over her.But now i realize i have come out of that extremely mushy phase of my life stronger ,wiser & a better person all the way.We actually become more wise with age after suffering pain of some broken relationships .That pain might be unbearable at times but we somehow someday comes out of it actually knowing ourselves better,becoming more aware about what we want from life & eventually we become our own 'doppleganger'.

i think it is right breaking ue can give s a lesson,at least the person who is not suitable for you,you will look for more suitable,you will get differdent lessons from it,we will grow up,good luck!

Hi friend, i don't have any break up in my life, but some of my friends encountered this and they just made them to be strong. Surely break ups will give frustrations at first, but day by day we forget about our love activities and concentrate with our work, we try our maximum to divert our self with other activities, time have the ability to heal all the wounds and make as more stronger

it is true that we become stronger after break up. I do also. Next time we try to be better and better till we find the right one. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.