A marriage proposal turned down

Hi, Not griping but I was turned down, not once but twice and I know the feeling. In the end, I was thankful for it, having spared me the trouble of a married life, the endless nagging, the prisoner's life being confined at home, the toil to have money just to please the wife. The process of divorce and the alimony. I was spared of that, for the meantime.

Hmm...well personally, that really is sad, as in it sucks men..(sorry about the words), but hey if you ever propose you should make sure that your partner feels the same way as you are. Make sure she only thinks of you and nothing else. If it do happen, and she said no. Then a man should face it bravely,, learn to face defeat.. and get out of the situation graciously. Maker her feel she made the wrong choice..

If I were to go through that trouble to pop the question and the girl said no, yes I would be hurt, I would not be embarrassed. I would accept her answer and never speak to her ever again. I would basically write her off. I would move on and find the right person to be with.

I would be upset and start crying but I'm a women and I wouldn't ask a guy to marry me. I'm on the old fashion side for myself so for me it would always be the guy asking me to marry him. It would suck to be the one turned down and I don't think I would be embarrassed I would just be hurt over all but I would get over it.

See I'm just not that brave. I didn't ask my wife to marry me until I was absolutely certain she was going to say yes. I think if she says no you obviously haven't prepared for the moment properly. There is more to it than spending a whole lot of money for the occasion.

That's an ouch! a painful one. If I am the guy I would certainly find some ways not to be embarrassed in front of many people. I will not let them recognize what I really feel. I will ask the girl why? and if the girl will say I'm not yet ready then I will say I'll wait until you are ready.But, if the girl will say I'm falling out of love; though it hurt but I would say thanks for that honest answer darling. I think it's time for us to have some space and find our true love. At least people might think half way, I love the girl or do I really love the girl in answering that kind of answer to her knowing that she doesn't love me anymore?

It would be horrible if you asked somebody to marry you and they said no, but there is nothing that you can do about it and the most important thing that you can do is to find out why they said no. A lot of people will turn down proposals because they are taken by surprise and they find that they don't want to commit to marrying that person at the time. But if they were given a little time to think about it then they would change their mind and decide that they would get married after all. There might well be a very good reason that is nothing to worry about.

I have a friend who was rejected by his long time (6 years) girlfriend when he proposed. This happen in 2009. He was devastated and didn't have a serious relationship after that. Until now, he remain single. I really hope that he would eventually move on. Hopefully by 2013 This is a very tough situation. I am not even sure if I made sense in answering on this discussion.

This definitely would be traumatic experience for me... but then, I wouldnt dare going this far until I was sure of the yes. but then, the yes is also sometimes not the last answer and I have seen worse situations on this one- like one where they decided to say NO in front of the priest!!! It would be painful that very moment, but the good would be - to come out of it graciously - definitely difficult but never impossible.

hi, if that will happen to me of course it is a such an embarrass when my partner answered me no,and aside from that it is really hard to move on if that will happen and will make you afraid to love again,i have a movie that i have watched and the story was like that.

Well, dear friend, I'm sorry if I tell you, but these things, at least until now, I've seen only do in the movies! It seems unthinkable that one of them says no, at the time of marriage. yet, I who have blind faith in you, I believe. And more and more I wonder how strange the human mentality! Of course, be able to handle such an incident polite way, I suppose it is not an easy thing. But I wonder how it is possible get to know, love each other, prepare for the wedding, and then get to say NO!

I don't know how are you feeling when your marriage proposal turned down, because I haven't meet this situation. I am a moderate and kind man, I am afraid let myself be in embarrassed condition. If that would be happen, I feel my world must be crash. So I admire you can cross this limit and suit you favorable girl. Although you received reject decision, but you have tried and get to know result. Finally, you have no any regret for yourself. Well down for your dream and perfect girl.Don't be afraid. I just there support you.

Wow, that would be awful, not to mention embarrassing and heart-breaking. I don't think I will be able to answer their questions or even hang out with the people I hired to help me out. Maybe I will need some time to lick my wounds, and mourn over my lost. After that, I should move on and the next time around, no more crowds, lol!

Wow that would be a heart breaker, but then life most go on. Yes I would be embarassed and I am sure it will take me a long time to recover but I would dust myself at some point and move on. It is not an easy situation to deal with either way.It will really affect your self esteem as well.

Hi toni! It will certainly be very disappointing and disheartening if someone turns down the proposal at the last moment and specially when all arrangements have been made. It will be very shocking why the proposal was put to rest at the last moment.