getting up early
By nupur
@nupur123 (392)
Hyderabad, India
September 26, 2012 12:25am CST
Every day in the morning when I tell my daughter to get up and get ready to go to school she start crying and saying I don't want to go to school. I need to become a little criel at that time otherwise she will never go to school
I am really fed up of all this as repeatedly she do this . I really remember my days and I was a good girl in this case .
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38 responses
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I'm sorry to hear about your difficulties. My children are just the opposite. They love school and wake up in a good mood every day, ready to get the day started and get to school. Does your daughter like school? How old is she? What grade is she in?
I hope it gets better for you. Hang in there. Try to make sure she gets to bed earlier, maybe that's the problem.
Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
Its wonderful to here that your kids are in such good shape. Usually kids are really wary to go to school and all. i think your kids must be doing well in school. That must be the reason they are motivated in going to school.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
26 Sep 12
It is very hard to get up early in the morning, especially now the mornings are getting colder again and it is clear that winter is on the way. Does she get enough sleep during the night? If she doesn't like getting up in the morning then perhaps you should be trying to get her to go to bed a little earlier so that she can have some more sleep. If it is school that she doesn't like then there is every chance that there might be something worrying her about school, and you should try to get to the bottom of this as it might be something that could be solved easily.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I think these are some ways to try out. If you are taking her early to bed, you see that you be besides her. Asking her to sleep and then moving away will not solve the problem. You be with her till she sleeps so that she feels safe and secure. Just try to know if she has some problems in sleep.
@dilshan555 (36)
• Sri Lanka
27 Sep 12
its not easy to get up early.you can tell her.her need to study.and tell her her can make lot of friends at school..
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
You do not need to be angry with your daughter because you have been a little girl once.She just need some guidance so that she would be lively to go to school,by telling her some stories that could make her want to attend school.Children likes story telling,that is why tell her stories during her bedtime,so that in the morning you could let her remember your stories of enlightenment just to make her go to school and avoid to be late.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
You are differently raised before,and now give an ample time to your daughter.The best things to do was make a story that inspire her to go to school,as what have been
happening to you before.Then,let her see some videos about children going to school,
so that her little mind could realized that schooling was never boring and have lots of fun.I think you have to do this because if you do not fix it now,time could be different the next morning and your child still do no like schooling.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
The problem with being angry is she would feel isolated. her only solace might be home and you if she is not liking the school. i f you also start scolding, then things might really go off hand. just sit with her and try to know what is the problem.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I think this must be the case of some sort of bullying. If her teacher had scolded her once or twice, the issue would have been vanished in a week or something. But if still she persists in not going to school, then it must be something serious.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Sep 12
Wow, sounds like a big trouble though. Anyway, most young girls, even boys might have their acting up everyday morning somehow. For me, I am a grown man, so I won't cry out loud to get my parents attention, but I knew that I must get up early in the morning to come to work. I just have to make money, that is my current priority.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I really dont think that child is acting or something. Either she has some trouble with some sleep or some other issue at school. anyways nice to know your parents no longer wake you up. believe me when i go home for vacations, they find it real hard to wake me up. i never get up at all.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Could it be that she's still sleepy , so she cries upon waking up?
I think you have to talk to her about sch attitude, because it could have some underlying reasons.
My daughter when she was still a kid would wake up early and be so eager to go to school in the morning. That's because she loves going to school, since she have lots of playmates.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I was just talking about this very same thing in some previous responses. Today's kids just love to go to school. They build up friends and want to perform well at school.. So it falls in odd when someone says their kids dont really like to go to school.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
26 Sep 12
You should talk to her after school and find out why she doesn't want to go in the mornings. Maybe she is having problems with the teach or the others kids, she may miss you or possibly she isn't getting enough sleep. Kids do go through phases where they are extremely clingy as well.
If she has a good day at school on Monday, when you wake her up reminder how great of a day she had, how she will see her friends, ect. Give her something to look forward to.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
i concur with your statement. i guess she might be having some problems at school. Usually kids doesnt want to just stay away from school like that. there must be some reason that you need to find out. i would suggest you go with her to school once.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
1 Oct 12
My sister used to do this to my mom. She finally had enough and set her bedtime back 10 minutes each time she would throw her fit. It did not take long for my sister to quit fussing. She ended up having to go to bed 30 minutes before us. As she did better mom gave it back to her the same way. Three months later she was back to going to bed at the same time the rest of us did.
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@elmiko (6630)
• United States
27 Sep 12
i must admit i had the same problem when i was younger. i just wanted to stay in bed and sleep. however, i was a night owl and it was hard for me to get to bed early. i literally hated getting up early. luckily i had good parents that were there who made sure i didn't miss too many days of school.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
i liked your usage of the term night owl. It takes a lot of maturity that your parents did try their best to get you to school even though it meant some scolding or stuff. But I wonder how much these days kids take it. They are far more intelligent than we were and so has many issues like ego even at this tender age.
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Yeah... I think it's tough, I remember I was good when I was in school too, I didn't stay in bed for long once my mom woke me. I think you just gotta give her a lesson somehow, maybe tell her the coming weekend, you guys are all gonna stay home and have no activities if she doens't get up? something like that?
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I think that would be a very good way of dealing with it. Instead of beating up and scolding, you can convince her this way pretty much well. I hope she would get better as days pass by.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Hi, I suggest that you ask your daughter her reason for not going to school. I remember my youngest sibling was like her. She would always say that she doesn't want to go to school and would start to cry if we tell her to do so. After so many years, we learned that she is being bullied by her classmates that is why she doesn't want to attend her class. Not all kids do not really want to go to school, it is just sometimes, school isn't really a good place for them or they aren't feel safe in there. Another experience is what has happened to my brother when he was already in high school. All of sudden, he has been cutting classes and we learned that he has failed one of his subjects. When my father asked him why he didn't attend this specific class, he told my father that his teacher told him he is bobo (stupid) and she would often humiliate him in class if he can't answer correctly. I was really angry after knowing that. So you better ask your daughter first.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I think at this age the kids might not reveal if there is sometime really terrifying. I mean they might just move around or cry. In midst, you would never know what is the problem. My suggestion is some day you visit her school without her knowledge. Just try to know about whats going on.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Sep 12
Hey thanks for the discussion. Your post also reminded me of my school days when i used to annoy and irritate my parents to wake me up as i used to sleep late night due to completion of my homework and the interesting part was that everyday i used to say i do not want to go to school. This is pretty normal with all the children and i am sure your daughter is also doing the same thing.
What say?
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
In old times, we were pretty lazy of that sorts. But I really find today's children more enthusiastic. I have a cousins kid who is six years old. he gets up on his won and get prepared and stuff. he is really fascinated about his school.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
26 Sep 12
Is there any reason that she doesn't want to go to school? Or just that she wants to sleep more. I think you had better know the reason. When my daughter was in kindergarten, she didn't want to get up in the morning, I think she needs more sleep, as she always closed her eyes when I dressed her, but she didn't cry as she knew she had to get up or she would be late for school. But once in a while, she would cry when she was really sleepy. I know she likes candies, so at this time I put a candy into her mouth and she felt happy and no more cry.
I think if the teacher often praised the child at school, the child will be eager to go to school , too. My daughter liked to go to school as she was often praised by her teachers. Sometimes when a child was scolded by teacher she would not feel like going to school.
Anyway, as parent, we should be patient and find out the reason , and try to solve it.
Good day!
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I really dont think sleep is quite the reason here. i think if that had been the reason, it should have been clear by now. it seems the kid says she doesnt want to go to school. This means there is some problem for her back at school because of which she is backing off.
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@ChinthyD (18)
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26 Sep 12
Yea, many hate waking up nearly. Even me. But it has many goods too. Its advised to all scouts to sleep early and wake up early, because it is a good health habit. So you must persuade her about the goods in waking up early, and bads in sleeping through out the time.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
These days most people have the habit of staying awake till night. When you stay awake till midnight, you cant expect your kids to go to bed and asleep. they might want to be with you. They might want your hear some bed time stories and stuff.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
27 Sep 12
I understand the fact that your kid doesnt want to go to school. But I would say you shouldnt compare her with your childhood days and start thinking how good you were. The problem is this can really annoy you and putting those things in front of your kid and can make her worry too. maybe advise her softly and try to know the real cause of our problem. give her a bit of counseling and let me tell you scolding would never solve the issue. Sending forcefully to school actually hampers the very purpose of sending her.
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@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
How old is your daughter? Maybe she hates going to that place because there are some things that she wouldn't want to encounter there - eg. bullies, scolding by the teacher, recitations or afraid to speak in front of the class, etc. Ask her why she does not want to go to school. That way you will find the solution on your daughter's case.
@allknowing (137775)
• India
27 Sep 12
You need to visit her school and find out what it is that she hates there. If you can try and correct that, probably she would look forward to going to school.
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@Cricket127 (548)
• United States
29 Sep 12
Hi! I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. I just wonder if there is something going on at school that she is unhappy with whether it be the teacher or the kids there. Has she said anything or can you find out? If this is the case, talk with her about it and see if you both can come to an agreement.
Just a thought. :-)
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@liguoping (179)
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27 Sep 12
I'm sorry to hear that your daughter don't like to go to school,but i think there are maybe some reasons exist,which you should pay more attention to,is she get well with her classmates at school?or she is dislike studying?or her academic is not good?i think you should have a talk with she when you have time.
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@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
I think the best way to your problem is to motivate your children to go to school by preparing the food they want to it.If it will not work, try to ask what is really the problem why she did not want to go to school.Inspire her that going to school,there she can win a friend, there she can learn. I think communicating with her in a nice way is the best answer.
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