Signs of Cheating
By ChinthyD
@ChinthyD (18)
September 26, 2012 4:49am CST
Don’t you ever wonder how couples hit that cold hard wall of complacency you often find them in, the silent car rides, the not so pleasant dinners? Most young new couples who can’t keep their eyes (and hands)off of each other often have a hard time understanding how it’s possible to grow bored in a relationship.
It’s unfortunate that a significant portion of couples wind up in this state of misery and from the looks of it the reasons are as varied as they wish their lives could be.
1.Faded Love
2.Unresolved Childhood Conflict
3.Power Struggling
4.Pathological Boredom
What you say???
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4 responses
@GemmaR (8517)
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26 Sep 12
I know that you might get bored in a relationship, but I don't think that it is any excuse to cheat. If you feel as though you would be willing to cheat on your partner then you should not be with them at all, and you should certainly think about leaving your relationship if you aren't happy. I am sure that your partner would be much happier if you were honest with them about the way that you were feeling rather than just cheating on them, as that would make them feel bad and you would never be able to get them to trust you again.
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@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Hi ChintyD,
i agree that one of the "reason's used by people" in cheating is the "Faded Love" but personally, i don't think that is enough reason for a guy/girl to cheat especially when your married and have kids. Those things might be an excuse or a scapegoat of the "cheater".
in a relationship there will come a time that love for each other will fade but for me it's always on the person on how he/she handles that situation, i respected those people that would think of a ways to renew the love that they've once felt to the same person that they loved 5 or 10 years ago...
Happy Mylotting ChintyD!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
26 Sep 12
I think that as soon as a couple has to pick up regular life again things change. Especially if women want to live more their own life, follow their needs everything goes wrong. And if she is not, kids get born and the husband/father is not helping out it's frustrating also. This beside of the fact women and men want different things, speak different languages. Harder to understand is how come they don't remember the first time they met anymore. Worser is to ignore eachother to "teach a lesson", not to be able to give in and make problems who did not exist at the first place plus fight about it as if you would die at once if you don't win this battle.
@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
That's precisely why the love in the relationship be properly maintained. Like I mentioned in another discussion, think of a garden. If it doesn't get watered and weeded regularly, it dries up and looks ugly.. But when there is effort to keep it looking heavenly, then there's no reason for anyone in the relationship to seek happiness in the arms of another. It takes two to tango, I recall.. Both husband and wife should make sure that the passing of years be as memorable as their first kiss. :)