If someone spends a certain $ on a gift for you do u feel u have to do the same

I do get a little like this at times. I have a group of friends and we usually go out for a meal just before Christmas. In the past, this was supposed to be as a replacement for buying gifts as none of us could afford to buy for the whole group. However, in the past couple of years they have tried to change things and have started buying things for me even though I asked them not to. I feel bad because I am not able to get them anything, but I did tell them well in advance that I didn't expect a gift, so it is not my fault if they choose to ignore me.

Ahhh this is the problem with gifting. When someone gives you an expensive gift and expect you to do that in return, it is really not fair. I said it's not fair because everyone has his/her own financial commitment that he/she needs to settle every month. Some receivers don't earn as much as the givers, so the rule 'pay back the gift with gift of the same price' if applied, will only produce a materialistic society. Gifts should be given from the heart and it should be within our means. Hi kemak, you should just find gifts that you can afford to give and that you feel happy and comfortable to give to your nephew. Don't force yourself to spend more if it only hurts your monthly budget. I have experienced this situation before and looking back, I really hate it. If my friends, relatives, or in-laws are not happy with my gifts, they just have no choice but to accept or throw them away. I don't care what they do with the gifts. Many times I think they are just being spoiled by receiving too many gifts. I've also made the efforts sometimes, like if my birthday is approaching, I'll tell my friends that "I don't need gifts" or "don't buy gifts" or, "your presence/ frienship is more important". Sometimes words are more powerful than a mere physical thing. You should try it. Happy mylotting!

No one in my family would spend $200 on a gift. I think that it way too much. Normal amount for us would be something between $50 and $75 and I think that $50 is perfectly acceptable amount. If we want to buy something expensive a group of us buy the present together. When my niece was baptised my parents, my grandmother and my husband and I bought the present together, but we didn't spend more than $75 per per couple. Some of my friends have more money than I do and I have received expensive presents from them, but I am not able to buy the same kind of expensive presents for them and they understand that.

I don't think you need to spend that much for a gift if you can't afford it. I'm sure they will understand you. But if you have enough money, then why shouldn't you? I don't know what you can buy with that amount on your place but here in my place, 200 is a big money already.

Sometimes people will spend more money on gifts that is really unnecessary. I wouldn't spend more than 50.00 on the gift. As long as you buy something that is tasteful and looks nice it shouldn't be an issue.

You shouldn't feel obligated to spend $200 just because they did. Spend what you feel comfortable with. I think $50 is a perfectly acceptable amount. I think $200 is excessive.

The only way I could ever see spending $200.00 on someone is if I was buying parts of the gift all year round, or it's something like a gaming system they really wanted. For a baptism $50-$75 is much more acceptable and common then $200.00. I can understand how you feel though as if you spend too little the parents might think badly of you but if you spend too much it's not fair to you.

it is not practical to spend too much on a gift just because they gave you that much before.it is not the price that counts, it is always the thought.if you buy a gift worth $200 or up but cannot be used by the person so what's the use? Or are you going to tell him/her "hey! my gift costs $200" upon giving it? for me, whenever my child attend birthday party of his friend I let him choose the gift he wants,he usually pick the cheapest but nicest toy.