His brother said what!?!

He was cheated on his last long-term relationship so since then he's been very scared of it happening with me. He's not real close with his brother, they're step-siblings and they get along but I wouldn't call them close. I did see his brother at the store but I didn't say hi because I find him awkward. I even told my boyfriend that I saw his brother. Why would I say I saw him if I was trying to sneak around with guys? Obviously that's not smart and it's not what I did. I'm just upset because I don't know if it was a mistake on the brother's part or if it's him being a jerk.

Ack. I'm so sorry I didn't get the email about your response. Well, that make sense. I am sure that he was just nervous. I wouldn't think that he would have wanted to get engaged if he didn't trust you, but I know even if you aren't cheated on the nerves can set it. I remember when we went to boot camp graduation, my husband was gone 3 months, only around guys. I was nervous. When he went to MCT and they mingled with the females I was nervous. Then he went to California and he called & texted non-stop (which was annoying lol). Now, I total trust my husband. I know he'd wouldn't cheat. I have never been cheated on. Still made me nervous. I hope things worked out.

He does trust me but of course what his brother said sort of made him second-guess things. I would never do anything like that to him but since he's been cheated on in the past he just gets really scared about stuff like that. I told the friend his brother saw me with and she got upset too because she's engaged to a guy in the army and she knew that we weren't with guys at all that day and that she would even talk to my boyfriend about it because we had nothing to hide. To make him feel better, I showed him those texts just so he could tell himself for sure that nothing happened. I get nervous when he's away too, especially after basic training when he had to go to AIT. He was still with a bunch of guys, but they were given a bit more freedom on the weekends and I would just get a little nervous. I know he wouldn't cheat and I do trust him, but sometimes I just can't help but get nervous. I think I worry about other girls coming on to my boyfriend or trying to flirt with him. As long as he doesn't do anything bad I guess I just have to let it go and not worry too much.

I was a bit upset but after my boyfriend ended up believing me I felt better. NOw that he's in the army and away all the time he gets worried about us and doesn't want anything to come between us. He knows I love him more than anything and I reassured him that everything is fine and nothing will happen to threaten our relationship.

I think that's what it was. I texted my friend when my boyfriend told me about all this and my friend was upset because she knew that neither of us had any reason to be hanging out with guys. I knew he wouldn't believe my friend if she talked to him because he would think my friend would cover for me. So I showed him my friend's conversation when she was telling me we weren't with guys, etc. and he ended up believing me for sure. He felt bad afterwards for not believing me. I'm just glad he did and he felt better about everything and it didn't ruin our time together.

I know it's hard for him, especially when we first started dating. But after 2 and a half years he trusts me and knows I wouldn't do anything. Now it's kind of hard for him sometimes because he's away in the army and sometimes worries about me since he's always gone. Deep down he knows he can trust me but he just can't help but worry. I told him what happened that day and I didn't do anything and I wasn't with guys. He saw my texts to my friend and he ended up believing that I was telling the truth.

Exactly! First of all, I wouldn't be hanging out with guys or cheating on my boyfriend and second, even if I did, I certainly wouldn't be dumb enough to go where his brother works. I said the exact same thing to my boyfriend. Because the day I saw his brother I told my boyfriend that night on the phone. Next time he asks to video chat while I'm busy I'll just say ok and have my computer or phone on and either make it face the wall or ceiling lol he can't complain if I'm video chatting

He does trust me but I guess now that he's in the army and gone all the time, I think he just worries. And after hearing his brother say that he just got worried again. He ended up believing me though after he thought things over. I was able to talk to him about it and things were fine between us

I really don't know what to think about the brother. I'm not sure if he was just trying to upset my boyfriend, say it to make him hang out with me less, or if he's just jealous that my boyfriend and I are in a relationship and he's not. I really don't know but it made me mad that he would say something like that the day my boyfriend flies in to see everyone. My boyfriend was a bit worried at first but I showed him texts from my friend just so he could have peace of mind and not have to worry about anything.

I just don't understand it. I don't know if he did it out of jealousy or just because he wanted to get a rise out of my boyfriend. What made me even more mad was the fact that my boyfriend seemed to believe his brother and not me. I shouldn't have to prove myself but I showed him my friend's texts about how we weren't even with guys just so he could feel better and know for sure that nothing happened. Cheating is a very big deal to my boyfriend since he was hurt badly in the past. After seeing the texts he felt bad about not believing me first. I had even told my boyfriend the day I saw his brother before he even came home. So why would I supposedly be with guys, see his brother, and then tell my boyfriend about it? If I were even with guys I would try to avoid his brother's work entirely and not go blabbing I saw him to my boyfriend. Luckily, he ended up believing me and got a little ticked his brother would say that. I'm just glad he believed me and our time together wasn't ruined by it.

It's not that he doesn't want me hanging out with people. It's actually the opposite and he wants me to hang out with friends. He's away in the army right now and going to Korea, so he can't just stop by whenever and "check up" on me. He does trust me and he actually wants to get married. He was just cheated on in the past and badly hurt so now he gets kind of scared that it will happen with me. That day that I saw his brother my boyfriend wanted to video chat with me but I was at my house with my friend watching a movie and it was dark so I couldn't do the video chat. So when he heard his brother say that, he thought of when I wouldn't video chat and how I was home alone that weekend and he just got scared. I understand where he's coming from even though I was upset his brother said something like that. But once he thought about things he realized that I was telling the truth and his brother was the one lying. After realizing I was telling the truth, he felt really bad about not believing me first.

Thanks I hope so too. I went from being so happy to being kind of bummed out about this happening. I want to talk to both of them and get to the bottom of things because I wasn't with guys, I spent the day with my one friend who is a girl.

He ended up believing me and he felt bad that he didn't believe me first. The only reason why he sort of believed his brother was because I wouldn't video chat him that same night I saw his brother. Since I wouldn't video chat him he started thinking that I was with guys, especially since his brother said that. He ended up believing me though and felt bad that he didn't at first