job vs relationship

Romania
September 26, 2012 12:44pm CST
what do you do when you have more than 1 job and you don;t get to spend much time with your partner? I was talking to a friend of mine and he;'s really unhappy with the fact that he doesn't get to spend much time with his girlfriend. she's working two jobs right now. one of those is at a hair salon so she often gets to work at week-ends too. they moved together a few months ago but from what he told me they barely get to spend one hour together each day as she has to come home late. now he started working too and he has to get up early so it's even harder for them to spend time together
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@sona22 (1430)
• India
26 Sep 12
It is the irony of many of our fate that we are facing problem to have our time to spent with our family. Some of us have house, car, good amount of bank balance but no time for the family. We face the difficulties to manage job and relation equally. Only financial freedom can give the time to do all.
• Romania
26 Sep 12
and how do you achieve financial freedom? or when do you achieve it? I admire the fact that she's ambitious especially as he didn't need to work because he comes from a rich familiy. but her parents teached her not to take things for guaranted and work for what she wants. this is acutally a really good things. but maybe she's exagerating a little bit
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
26 Sep 12
It is not about how much time you spend with someone but about how you spend time together. So quality time! This besides of the fact that it cost less time/energy to text some sweet words, to add a small note into a pocket, lunch box etc.
• Romania
26 Sep 12
to tell you the truth I wouldn't like it either to see my boyfriend for hALF an hour each day and in that half an hour him telling me that he's tired and that he has to go to sleep because next day he has to wake up in the morning to go to work. I understand him and I think she;s working too much. she says she works because she wants to be independent but she's exhausting herself and ruining their relationship. and she doesn't have money problems either so one job would be more than enough. Aww and I forgot to mention that she also goes to college...she's kind of super-woman
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
1 Oct 12
i think it`s dillema and consequences that the life need much money i do hope they must be patient if they get the situation like that having a job is part or evidence that a man really loves his couple and with having a good job, the woman will survive too with him
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I was one of those people that had more than one job shortly after my husband and I started dating. This was something that was somewhat hard on our relationship because it did mean that we didn't have a lot of time to spend together. However, I also came to understand during the time that I was working two jobs that even though it is hard, if a relationship is able to overcome not having a lot of time to spend together, then the relationship will probably be able to hold up through almost every thing.
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
It should be balance. Work and love life should have the same weight in your life. If we are working everyday and don't have time with our love ones, would you think you could be happy. Likewise, When we spend too much time for our love ones and yet neglect our work, we would not be able to support their needs. So we should need to balance things out.
27 Sep 12
I guess, It's just a matter of priority. You're friend must know how to strike a balance between career and relationship. It would be really unfair for her partner to keep her hanging with her tight schedule. She needs to give quality time for a quality relationship. If both her career and partner are important to her, she must learn to give importance to both.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
I think your friend has to somehow realize that he needs to understand his girlfriend while she needs to get two jobs and just try to get that time together that they can talk to each other. they are no different from other couples who does not meet each other all the time. they should just find time at least one weekend or something that they both have set together as their "me" time.
@GemmaR (8517)
26 Sep 12
My job is actually interfering with my relationship at the moment. Because I work from home, I find it very hard to be able to switch off at the end of the day and stop working. I am saving up for a flat at the moment, and I just think that if I work hard for the whole of the day then I will be able to save up for it a lot faster and then be able to buy it and stop working for such long hours each day. I know that life is too short, I just need to take the next year or so out to be able to earn the money that I need to be able to buy my flat, and then I will be okay about everything.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Sep 12
It sounds like the relationship that my ex-boyfriend and I had in the beginning. We both had more than one job and we were hardly able to spend time together. I had one job from the 7 a.m. to 2 p.m. and another job from 3 p.m. to 1O p.m. My ex-boyfriend worked nights and when I got home in the afternoon he was sleeping. When I got home late in the evenings he was awake but he had to go back to work at midnight. We usually joked about it and said that we got along so well because we didn't have time to argue I was sad that we weren't able to spend more time together, but we really needed the money.