I need my money back

We need to take care in lending money to friends. there is always the best of intentions once the money has changed hands but after that it is hit or miss that you wil see the money returned to you. alot of friendships are lost and destroyed over a matter of lending money I hope that your friend will have the kindness and trueness of heart to return the borrowed money to you but forcing the issue will wear on the friendship as well.

I remember a friend of mine in college, after being friends for two years, she need to transfer to another school. And because of that, I was ahead of her for one year. So after I graduated, I got a job for a few months after graduation. Then she's on her last semester in the university and then graduation. She approached me, asking for help on her tuition fee. Since I already have job, I lend her money and told me that she will return it (and so I just expected to have the mmoney back when she got to have work). After a year, I never heard anything from her, even a single text. So I sent her a text message, and even left a message on her FB. Then I heard, she got a job and I told her I need the money back but she said that she just started on the job and had a little salary (which I don't believe, because she's a programmer). And more excuses for many months passed. After almost 3 years, she will completely paid the money she lent me but still with many excuse sigh* (I promised to myself that she can no longer borrow money from me).

Your friend is really avoiding you , she may also be furious that you are calling her for your money lol . Some people do not pay back at least not on time . Hope she get your money to give you back and next time you know dont lend out what you cant afford to lose because you may never get it back .

i had similar experience like you she had borrowed my money last November or october last year... And until now she didn`t give back to me.. iam frustrated with it.. i don`t know why she think it`s easier for her to escape from the fact that i need too the money the respond is still same, iam sorry, i try to give back..give me more time.. so don`t she think that i need the money too??

A hard lesson learned. People abuse friendship in this way all the time. There was a discussion a while back asking everyone's opinion of loaning money to a friend. Different topic than this, similar subject matter. It's never a good idea. But when a friend asks for money you feel as if you can't refuse. Of course you want to help a friend. But suddenly this friend seems to be a friend no longer. And sometimes they even have the nerve to become indignant or angry when you keep pressing them for the money! As if you didn't need it back. That's why it's called a loan. The bottom line is you were there for her but she doesn't care to be there for you and fulfill her obligation to pay you back. Not the actions of a true friend. I really have no advice except that I truly hope you get your money back and hope you never loan money to anyone again. It's too bad this happened, as you were kind enough to loan it when other people probably wouldn't have. I wouldn't.

It's wrong not to reply to one of your messages, but as your friend there are also reasons to re consider. I understand that You needed the money and You did not just lent her your money but you also gave her a Trust. Just be calm and don't humiliate her or you will loose both, your money and a friend. maybe she have a valid reasons not dropping your money at the bank. I also lent money to some of my friends, some of them until now are not paying, but I understand why they couldn't afford to pay. When my Son got sick I also tried to borrow money to some of my friends for the hospital expenses and promised to give it back after a month or two. Unfortunately after a month a same illness came back and have to get my son back to the hospital and paid another thousands of dollars, and again after two months my son got sick again and stayed to the hospital for a month. A series of unfortunate event really hit my Family badly that I couldn't afford to pay my friends on time. I paid all my debts after a year and thanked my friend for understanding. I hope your friend may have honest reasons too.. If she really value your friendship,You will get paid. Just be patient.

Really, there are people who are not so sensitive enough with regards to the feelings of others. They are the one who has taken advantaged or has benefited from us but still, they don't have the guts to repay what they have owed from us....I have the same story with my office mate, he goes to the office late in order to avoid people who are running after him.

You don't say how much money she owes you back but you should have made her sign a promisory letter stating that she would return the stated amount by such a date. She would have a copy and you have the original. I actually did this with my brother who had recommended it to me. He borrowed 2000 dollars from me. He promised to pay it back by the end of the year. He didn't pay it back to me in time and since he was my brother I couldn't really do anything about it. He was dealing with hard times. He did eventually return 500 dollars to me and then I said forget about the rest of it. All because I felt bad about his situation. However, with your so call friend you could have taken that paper to a small claims court and she would have had to pay it back to you. Never loan money to a friend if you want the relationship to last. To many people in this world borrow and never pay the loan back which ends up with broken relationships that youcan never get back.

That is the problem with some of our friends. They never thought that we also need the money we lend to them. That we just do it because we are friends and they end up abusing this friendship. I cannot recommen you to run after her at the court because I presume you did not even let her sign anything, right?

Unfortunately not only have you lost a friend who wasn't really ever a friend to begin with in my opinion, but I'm afraid that you can say goodbye to the money that you lent her as well. There is no other way that I know of that you can force her to give you your money back. I would most definitely drop her as a friend & I would be a lot more careful in the future of who I lent money to from then on.

it is hard,perhaps she has reasons,such as she lack of money,if you need it ne necessary,you can meet her face to face and tell her your idea,i think she can understand,i hope it can help you,good luck!