Giving allowances to the Family

Yes, that is funny. You giving allowances instead of the other way around. It's very good that you can help like that. You must have a very close family relationship. I'm old and do not have much family left that is very close to me. But your post made me smile because you sound so cute and happy. And pleased to be able to help your family when they need it. You are a good person. I hope as you get older the harsh realities of the world never change you.

I am 22 and have just come back from University but have to live at home for a while because I don't have the money to be able to get my own place just yet. I am not paying much rent at home because my parents are very generous in that respect, and because of that I like to try to pay for some things for them if there is any way that I can do so. Like, I always pay for the food shopping which is about $50 per week and I will pay for the television which is $60 a month. So I don't give many handouts but I do like to help whenever I can.

Surely we feel very proud of ourselves and also happy for our family members when we're already the one giving money to them. The time I received my first ever paycheck, I treat my mom to eat lunch at restaurant and we both felt really proud of me and I am really happy to make her happy.

It seems that the responses you will read here will depend a lot on the culture of the people who write it and of the personal situation of them. I believe in helping each other in family (or even with vey close friends) when they are in need. But it would depend on my means and about how much money I can spare. I read in your answers that your mother doesn`t have enough money of her own as she doesn`t work. If you do, you might give her some of what you can spare to her. But I don`t think that your sister should have bought a laptop for herself if she did not have the money to pay for it. Yet, I insist, it depends on yuor culture. I have seen here many young people from other lands talking about their parents "making sacrifices" for them. Excuse me, but they chose to have them and it must have been their joy and goal for life to give the best to them. There`s nothing to repay.

Did they pay you back? Why do the other people in your family not have their own income?

I do give some money to my parents and my siblings, but only when I want to. They never asked me for it, all of us in the family have work. Besides, I'm already married and whatever money we have goes to my and my husband's savings account. We were raised to be self-sufficient and not to ask for anything that we need as much as possible. Whenever I give some money to my family, it's usually in a way of gifts. And it's not a regular thing.

as a mother i don't believe in giving my children money for doing what they are suppose to do around the house. I don't think what you are doing is giving a allowance, you are loaning them money in hopes they pay you back. My grandmother gave me some great advice growing up. "don't lend out more then you are willing to give away." If you don't think you are going to get it back, then don't give it away

we are the poor ones in the family so that doesn't happen us. we are the ones that people give money to!

I don't give allowances out at my house, but I know it's coming as I have two children. They are still quite young (my oldest is 6 and my youngest turns 3 next month) but I know in a few years I will be handing out allowances as long as they do their part to help out around the house.

Well I used to share to some expenses in the house like electricity, water and food. I think it is the responsibility of the child to give back to their parents for all their sacrifices and hard work that they have done for us. I helping them and lend money sometimes eith out expecting anything in returns.

I wouldn't call that an allowances sine that would be done and a regular base and it would be the same amount. I don't give my parents money but they help give me and my husband money from time to time. I have never had an allowances in my whole life it's just money to get things for my kids that they need like diapers.

Hi powerpuff! There are times that I would also run out of cash, and my 12 year-old daughter who is very thrifty would also lend me some cash but I would pay her when I was able to withdraw already. Sometimes, I would tease her that she is richer than her mom.

I think when you have more than enough then no harm in giving to family because after all they are your family. i am away from my family and my in laws are much better off then me ans hubby so we need not to give them since we are still struggling.. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

Before I graduated college. I promised myself that after graduation, I will never ask allowances to my parents anymore. And I kept my promise. Though of course when I'm still single, I still live with them, and just share some of the expenses at home. And now that I'm married, they are the ones to transferred in our home, well just for practical reasons, to help me with my baby, and my brother's school is a block away from us. So it feels like Im the one supporting them already. But it doesnt matter, we're a happy family.

;hi powderpuff girls yes indeed most families do that it goes back and forth with different members borrowing but we always all paid it back too.I have done this with my adult son and him with me.we all care for each other.yes I have done it and my son has done it too.

I hate when my older family members ask me for money especially the ones who never call me until they need something . A entire year can pass and I never heard from particular family member and whenever it get close to Christmas the person would call me and they dont even call me for my birthday . *sigh* I am sometime shock that the person have such nerve because they dont even ask how I am doing . They think I have a easy life so they never care to ask me if I am ok just want to take me for a ATM .

hi I am professor, retired after teaching for 45 years, Here most of the families are combined families, where you can find 3 to 4 generations live in same house together peacefully, i never ask for money from kids; though they are having high paying jobs

I am giving monthly allowance to my family of origin and I have been doing that for almost a decade now. My parents have already stopped giving me allowances since I was in College and the year I started to work, I was already the one giving them allowances. That has been the case until at present.

Wow.. it's good to have a family member like you :D:D I mean for them :) so sweet of you !