Do you always buy what your kids wanted even if it is not important?

I grew up in an average family. Everything we need were provided by my parents. And i would say they brought me up in a way to know the importance of money. I have four kids and as they grow up they would naturally as for things that they see from TV or from friends or from their cousins. I always tell them that it is much better to use our money in buying for their food than buy the things that they want. So what I tell them, if they really want to buy something and that I don't think I necessarily have to buy them, then they must learn how to save their own money and then they can buy what they want. At 10 years old, my eldest son started selling his trading cards. He bought his first cellphone from the money he earned from selling the trading cards. Not once have I bought him a cellphone. He just learned to do something to be able to earn and buy his own stuff.

so it`s the right time for telling our kids, that it`s not important things so we should not buy it..

Hello blinjk. When my kids were home I seldom bought those foods that were advertized on TV and no many of those toys either.For one thing we didn't have the money for those silly things and they knew it, I didn't have to tell them no about cell phones or other electronics because they weren't around then but other things were. The boys did get some hot wheels sets and other games for Christmas and the girls dolls and dishes, It was easier then because there wasn't the choices that there are today. Kids think they need every thing they see on the TV. I know my granddaughters do.

Hi Blink I also do the same thing I told them I am not a millionaire who can afford them to buy everything that they need They can understand it as well since they know I am only a part time earner

It's right that parents always meet the children's needs.If so ,children will be spoiled.And spoiled children will do nothing in the future.Parents should teach their children nothing is free.If you want to attain something you should work hard for it.

I think children should be given those things which are useful to them when they ask.and if they ask for what seems unnecassary , then dont buy them such things.

I almost never can buy what my son wanted. I always give meaning to my child, why I do not buy that my son wanted. Lucky, my son understand the state of her parents, who do not have enough money. We should train our children, not wasteful, and taught to choose is really important. So that, our children are not living lavishly.

my kids tell me to buy this and buy that..they also want to buy toys and foods they see on tv commercials.. i always tells them WE'LL SEE, specially when our budget is limited.. we only buy toys they want that is safe for them and is suitable at their age..also for the foods they see on the commercial,I choose the healthiest.. my son once saw a commercial of chicken nuggets and he wanted it.. instead of buying, we made some our selves.. he didn't just loved it, he also enjoyed making them.. then he saw a moose cake on tv..mommy let's bake a cake, and i said "we'll see", if only he knew i don't know how to bake..LOL!

Is good to make your child or children confortable you supose to make all your efort to make your children feel specia but let them know that not everyday is festival so anytime that your pocket is not sweat then surpose to know and accept it like that.

Well, I don't have kids yet, still single, but I have lots of young nieces and nephews. When I'm out with them, especially the little ones, they'll always see something in each and every shops we enter that they want, and they'll ask (sometimes demand) that I buy it for them. But I don't believe in spoiling kids and letting them have everything they want, especially if they're going to just forget about the item once they see something else they like. Children are fickle that way. I do try to observe though the things they really need, or want that they'll take good care of without being told. In which case, I indulge them a bit and buy it for them. After, I was a kid once, and every child need a little indulgence now and then, in my opinion :)

If my son asked for something that I thought he needed, then I would try to get it, but we never bought our son anything he wanted just because other kids had it or because it was a going trend. I don't believe in trying to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak. When my son was very young he learned not to ask for anything every time we went to the store, like you we didn't always have the money and if we did I would ask him if he wanted to get a little something. When he got older and everyone was buying Air Jordans and some of the other high dollar name brands, I told him he didn't need all that stuff. He would get his aunt to buy it for him. Now he and his aunt hardly has anything to do with each other. She criticized me for not getting it for him and now he resents her for criticizing me. I don't believe in spoiling a child by getting them everything they want. I think kids should be taught at an early age that they don't get everything they want handed to them. If they want some of the finer things in life they have to work for it and it don't always come easy. I have nieces that like to go stay with another sister, because she takes them to town, or takes them out to eat, etc. I don't because I can't afford to go like that all the time. My sister asked me how do I do it, why don't they want to stay with me all the time. I simply told her that it's because I don't baby them, don't coddle to their every whim and spend all kinds of money on them. I can't afford it. She said she can't either, but she don't want to hurt their feelings. I told her to be honest with them, they're old enough to understand. They're 15 & 16. It's better to tell them than put yourself in a financial bind. So, no I wouldn't get my child something just because it was new and they wanted to try it. If I thought they would eat the new food, I might get it but if I had any doubts I wouldn't. You have to do what you think is best for your child and what they want is not always what is best for them.

I think we just need a balance. For me I would want to teach my child how to spend wisely. Especially, she's not a rich kid. But as a kid, they also need some prizes if they have done well or something good just to show them you appreciated what they did. But if we dont have any money for other extra stuff, I think we're not suppose to borrow money just to buy what our kids want. A good explanation is I think enough. And material stuffs will never replace your love. Just always remember what the Bible says "Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it". Its a whole training process while our child is young, its a preparation of how we want them to live as they grow up.

yeah,this is a wery nrmal thing,each person will encounter.After all he is a child,he does not understand a lot of things.As their parents,I think I would try my best to give them the best.We all have our childhood,so their longting we should also understand. Having a fun day,your family will be very happy.

Yeah, most of the time i try to buy something that my son need..but if his wants are not important, then i will advise them "this is not a good one babe...because....and i will buy something alternative to them...:)

I do find my self in this situation sometimes but like you I explain my situation to my son and he co operates me. Something he had seen on TV and asked me to bring it I would occasionally buy for him. Being a parent is a very challenging job but I enjoy most of it.

Nope, as parents we also have the responsibility to teach them to prioritize, to let them know what is important, to teach them to wait. So that is what me and hubby do, if it is something not important we tell them to wait for it when we have the extra money and most often they do understand now

I don't think so... I think it is nice to give them little treats sometimes but if it develope as a every time shopping habit, it would be bad for the money and for the kid's behavior then they think they can get all they want when they want - but we all know it is not true. It's better to say NO to them. My kids are still small so I decide to buy what is necessary for them and what not like food, clothes and stuff, my bigger kid which is two year old has been pretty good about not asking when he sees toys at the store and I hope he stays that way.

if i have money to spare then once in a while i buy what my little sister wants even if it isnt a necessity. but it is important to teach children to save money at a young age so they dont have to struggle when they grow older.

Hi blinjk, i do not have yet a kids but had a 2 nephews and one niece whenever i come to visit them in the province i always made sure to buy all the things or toys they requested since we only see each other thrice or twice a year. But when were going to the mall before leaving the house i talked to them and inform them about the limited budget i have and we only buy foods and no more toys. I am glad that they understood and enjoy the play house than asking me to buy toys.