Frankly Honest or Back Stabbing?

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The issue of being a friend and having one was a serious matter to me. I grew up being a loner and sometimes I could not understand how to "dance with different kind of music" as they say coz one individual is very much different from the others. I remember someone we can name as Joe made a heroic deed of telling a person that we can name as Jack what had been happening around his back because Joe said he pity Jack being stabbed at the back. Joe could be considered a "good friend" material but then after sometime and they had some misunderstanding they began stabbing each other's back too. A group of aggresive executives having high company positions talks to each others like real good friends, giving each others advises, jokes and gifts, laughs everytime they meet and support each others as they have problems.Such a good kind of people and a good friend material upon knowing this positive traits. But they also make bad comments to each other or to anyone who is not in the group and is not hearing all their comments..again, a back stabbing gestures, huh. A good person that he is being known of, being admired by so many by being kind hearted and respected for being accomodating once advised a subordinate "Be an ally of the one infront of you no matter how good or bad they are. Strike them once they have turn their back around. They cannot notice that you are making something while they are unaware."- Another case of back stabbing? How come he had so many friends and believe me he was really well respected? He look soft but intelligent, kind and always smile. An underdog but intelligently good image he was possesing once said, Keep quiet if you noticed something infront of another person, better to tell the bad comment to others while the concern does not know. Sometimes its better to back stabbed than to hurt other people's feelings by being painffully frank and honest. Is it? How do you make friends? Do you show kindness to one person and talks about her mistake while she is unaware of it? Do you give her secret names so you can talk and laugh about him/her? Do you do this to your "friends".