Is she just nice or trying to nice to the point of being a hypocrite?
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
Philippines
September 28, 2012 7:54am CST
Now I am thinking if she really is an honest / a genuine person or a hypocrite. waahhh, I am confused. I've known this person for quite sometime now. Maybe more than five years or so. She is nice and undoubtedly posses a very pretty face. Let me put it this way, I have been surrounded with friends/people who are very expressive, straight-forward,transparent, what-you-see-is-what-you-get type.They don't care what people might think of them. They are who they are.No pretensions at all and they don't project an image,too.
If they don't like you,they wouldn't waste their time being nice with you or pretend to be your friend or something.So I have no doubt that they like me because of who I am.
They are just honest-to-goodness. For example, they wouldn't say I look gorgeous, if I look like a wasted bug.They would commend my actions if it is not praise-worthy in short they are not smooth-tongued hypocrite.Birds of the same feathers flock together,so obviously I am also like my friends.
Now, this person laughs at B's actions,agrees with me that B is some kind of a lunatic and weird.Even mentioned that she wanted to remove this person from her fb contacts.We talk about B occasionally because we hang out quite often.
But to my surprise,I saw her sweet comment to B on her fb wall.Now, I am bothered and I am doubtful if she is genuine or not. It's hard to explain the way I feel. I don't feel jealous or betrayed at all. But I am sure that I will never be as comfortable as before with her company.
This also made me realize one thing some people project a nice image of themselves.Sweet,gentle,discreet but deep inside they are hypocrites.Do you agree? Have you met this kind of person? How will you feel if you were in my shoes?
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@JinBinLai (52)
• China
28 Sep 12
I suggest you pay careful attention on this person. She is a hypocrite without doubt. If she gossiped with you about B then made a sweet comment to B on fb, maybe she will gossip with B about you ,I guess. People of this type are not deserved you to make friends with.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
She actually didn't gossip or something.We just both laugh together about B's stuff and all.
@JinBinLai (52)
• China
29 Sep 12
Well, she is not sincere at least, so I think it's better to keep a proper distance from her, hypocricy won't make real friendship.
@madhuvamsi (1185)
• India
28 Sep 12
First of all I would like to say to you that I have came across such a people a lot. What I have learned out of this experience is that no one is perfect and many show off that they are perfect in the their behaviors and actions. So, once I had bad experience I just stay out with discussions like gossips or talking about some x is not good person discussions with the person who had cheated me or an hypocrite what ever the word you like to put in. 
One big lesson which I learned is never to judge any person. I started accepting a person the way they are because we cannot change them and thinking too much will spoil our attitude. So, leave them the way they are. Only time or someone will teach them a lesson. If I am in your shoes all I will do is I simple do not change my attitude on that person and will not talk about this lunatic B with this person anymore. If we ask any question about his or her action on the comment which they posted on B's profile page. They will simple tell all the stories which does not exist and all we have to listen is lies.. So, this is my style of dealing with an hypocrite person.
One big lesson which I learned is never to judge any person. I started accepting a person the way they are because we cannot change them and thinking too much will spoil our attitude. So, leave them the way they are. Only time or someone will teach them a lesson. If I am in your shoes all I will do is I simple do not change my attitude on that person and will not talk about this lunatic B with this person anymore. If we ask any question about his or her action on the comment which they posted on B's profile page. They will simple tell all the stories which does not exist and all we have to listen is lies.. So, this is my style of dealing with an hypocrite person. 1 person likes this
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Thanks Madhuvamsi!
That is what exactly I am thinking about;do not bring up discussions about B.
@shaggin (72190)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I am always nice to everyone but I do not kiss a$$. If I dont like someone I will be nice to them but I dont go out of my way. I wouldnt post all chummy on their facebook wall if I had just been talking about how I cant stand them etc. Makes you wonder if she is just being a kiss a$$ or if she lied to you about how she feels. I try to just stay away from people lik this. It bugs me.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Hello shaggin!
I think we have same attitude.I would be polite and civil towards the person but like you I would not go out of my way.
I don't know if she was just sarcastic when commented " Thanks,I really admire you,my idol." When I know that she laughs at her voice,videos,photos and so on...Was she just trying to give B a boost of confidence or what??
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Better try to observe that friend.
Yes, physical appearance can easily deceive, but knowing the inner person of a person is not easily detected.
Some people are very good when it comes to pretending- so beware of those kind.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yeah! There are bunches of great pretenders out there!
@deazil (4730)
• United States
28 Sep 12
This person is not trustworthy. If she can make unpleasant remarks about someone to others but say nice things to the person, how can she be trusted? She may do the same to you. There are people like that everywhere you go in life. I worked for a woman like that once. At first she was very nice. Everyone liked her. People took her into their confidence. She was the manager. Her office was at another of our plants in a different city. I started to hear things about how bad she was to people. I couldn't believe it. But it was true. She was a very mean, wicked person. And I've seen people that you think are good friends but when one leaves the other one starts talking about them badly, behind their back. Five years is not a long time. And you never really know most people. There are some people you can say this is how they are and it's true. But many people have a side that doesn't come out, maybe never will, until the right circumstances are present. I don't think you should trust this person.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
That's true.Some people can be all nice and good in front of you but can say ill remarks behind you. People do wear masks on their faces. I think I wear them too.lols
@eklind (96)
• United States
28 Sep 12
There are two scenarios that could've taken place. One she and B could've talked their issues out and are now okay. I learned that the only relationships we truly understand are our own. Next she could be an instagator, if this is the case, get rid of her. In my case I learned that it wasn't what they'd say behind peoples backs, some of these people will go so far as to say you said something that they said.
Great Discussion!
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Honestly,they don't know each other personally.They just met on facebook because B used to be on my network.I have photos on my wall together with this person and B used to put comments on our pictures. I haven't even introduced them face-to-face. I blocked B from my contacts last year because she maligned my reputation.To cut it short,we were not friends anymore. And this person that I am talking about knows the root and details of it.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
There are people who are really speak out what they think and feel without fear of being judged by others. Although some of them might not be always the same. I know a few, and they are called backstabbers. I have found out 2 kinds of backstabbers:ONE, the one who tells you negative things about a person because he/she could not tell that person what that person really is and TWO is someone who just tell negative things about others whose intention is to be the center of attention among group of friends and would make fun of others.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 12
If I were you I will also have a doubt about her, like you said it sounds like she's a hypocrite after all. That person is untrustworthy and she may talking bad behind your back as well when you're not around. It's better to watch out and observe her, don't say anything of your important secret to her, although I suggest always try to keep good relationship with her, but if I were you will never trust her to know any my important things or secret.
