My 5 yrs old WONT listen!!!
By niairen01
@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
September 28, 2012 1:48pm CST
I know it's normal for a kids to be super playful, naughty and mischevous. But i think my son was first in the line when God sprinkled these gifts in the land!
Anyway, i'm really having trouble with my son. He won't listen whenever i told him to stop. I honestly don't know if he is exactly NOT listening or just wont follow! It's driving me crazy!!! I tried almost everything, i tried talking softly with matching eye to eye contact, i tried the strict type, the monster mom style and yes, even the begging style!
You see my son is super hyper and i think i've spoiled him to much and his grandparents (both side) spoils him to much too ( he was the first and only grandchild and it lasted for like 4 years. Even at school, he is giving his teachers a hard time! Like for example, he would walk around the room whenever he wants to, he would laugh loudly and would not stop. His teacher told me that he is already disturbing the class and all the class time is only wasted with them trying to discipline my son.
At home its the same thing. Whenever i tell him to stop playing cause its past his bed time or when he is not allowed to go out and play (bec. He's not finish with his assignment) he would throw a tanturm and would always... ALWAYS have reasons and complaints! Sometimes he would follow but the next day ita the same old drama once more!
Anyway, i'm really having trouble with my son. He won't listen whenever i told him to stop. I honestly don't know if he is exactly NOT listening or just wont follow! It's driving me crazy!!! I tried almost everything, i tried talking softly with matching eye to eye contact, i tried the strict type, the monster mom style and yes, even the begging style!
You see my son is super hyper and i think i've spoiled him to much and his grandparents (both side) spoils him to much too ( he was the first and only grandchild and it lasted for like 4 years. Even at school, he is giving his teachers a hard time! Like for example, he would walk around the room whenever he wants to, he would laugh loudly and would not stop. His teacher told me that he is already disturbing the class and all the class time is only wasted with them trying to discipline my son.
At home its the same thing. Whenever i tell him to stop playing cause its past his bed time or when he is not allowed to go out and play (bec. He's not finish with his assignment) he would throw a tanturm and would always... ALWAYS have reasons and complaints! Sometimes he would follow but the next day ita the same old drama once more!1 person likes this
7 responses
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
28 Sep 12
It seems my niece was standing with your son in the first row to receive these gifts of being super active and not listening to their mom and be a tantrum king and a tantrum queen.
Seriously it appears as though you are describing my sister and her daughter's condition. This is exactly how she feels and is dealing with her daughter. My niece is a super drama queen. Whenever my sis would say anything to her she would run downstairs to her grandparents' house and would just not come up. Even teachers keep complaining about her. Imagine she is only 3 years old.
My sister has yet not come up with any ideal tactic to deal with her. As soon as she'll come up with something on how to make such kids listen to you I'll surely help you with this. Meanwhile, if you find some ways to deal with these kids do let me know. It will be a big big help.
Till then Good Luck.
Seriously it appears as though you are describing my sister and her daughter's condition. This is exactly how she feels and is dealing with her daughter. My niece is a super drama queen. Whenever my sis would say anything to her she would run downstairs to her grandparents' house and would just not come up. Even teachers keep complaining about her. Imagine she is only 3 years old.
My sister has yet not come up with any ideal tactic to deal with her. As soon as she'll come up with something on how to make such kids listen to you I'll surely help you with this. Meanwhile, if you find some ways to deal with these kids do let me know. It will be a big big help.
Till then Good Luck.@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Geez... Luck and much more! My son is really a headache! As much as i want to deny it but he really is. It is as if he is really draining my patience! But of course he has good points also and even if he is like that i cannot live with out him!
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@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
29 Sep 12
Whenever I tell my sis to send my niece here for a few days so that she can take some rest this is what she says, "I cannot live without her even for a single day".
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Sep 12
Well i can understand how mischievous your son is and normally small kids do the same thing as yours most of the time as they want to enjoy and have fun all the time. Especially while going to bed, they throw a lot of tantrums as they are very well aware of the fact that after they sleep, their parents would have a huge sigh of relief. Ha ha.
i hope u should deal with your son with care and affection and try to divert his mind in such a way that he does not throw tantrums all the time and listen to u and respect u all the time.
What say?
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yes, that is exactly my hope and goal too. But it will be one heck of a job for me. I din't want him to be hard headed when he grows up or it'll be much bigger problem for me.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
29 Sep 12
Hi... Looks to me that you've got a suoer active kid... First of all, please stop blaming him or complaining about him... Punishments won't do any good! If you think of him negatively, then no one else will be able to help him or you... I was like this kid when I was young... My parents could not realize or understand; they resorted to punishments... I'm still recovering, my friend... Seek professional help, if you can't handle it dear... Good Luck to you....
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I'm trying my best Mr_Pearl. I'm his mom and I love him with all my heart. But you know sometimes, when the day isn't really going my way, I really loose it but regretting it afterwards. I don't like giving punishment with kids, I don't even like spanking and when times when I really think he needs one, I only give him one on his butt!
I guess you're right. I'll stop blaming him and complain about him, cause I know, him being like that was partly my fault. =(
@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
29 Sep 12
I would start taking privileges away from him. He is old enough to not be allowed to watch TV or play with his favorite toys or video games. And if that doesn't work or he defies you outright its time to either spank or time out in the corner (depending on what type of parent you are) He will get tired of that routine and start paying attention in class. He has to learn that he goes to school to learn, and not to play. And kindergarten is the best place to instill this lesson!
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Thanks for your response Drknlvly. ^__^
I've already tried. This week "NEW" rule is that he is not allowed to play the laptop, his psp or even his iTouch when it's weekdays. The old rule was he can play his video games, after he studies / review his lessons. His usual drama about this was he wants only 1 lesson and would start throwing tantrums when there is more ( he wanted to play already ).
He usually defies me, he hates it when a person is mad at him. when you're mad he is mad also! I tried the time out first, but he would not stay in the corner and would follow me around screaming. I got tried of this so I tried spanking... he would cry but would still go with the usual tantrums!
White hair is growing like crazy on my head, and I guess wrinkles too! and i'm only 30!! ___
@rajesh_111 (595)
• India
29 Sep 12
Your son's behavior is very much unacceptable but you have to gradually turn him to right direction. I know this is the long process but for the good future the kid it is very much necessary.
I had attained a "Happy Parenting Seminar" where the trainer said that kid's won't listen to you because you are/were not ready to listen them. He also added if you can't teach him good way of life the hundreds of dollars you earn for him would be worth nothing.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I know you're right.. I wish seminars like that would be that affordable here at our place. =( All I can do was to browse the internet and search for possible technique or advice about how to handle kids like him.
@ztuberi (395)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Please dont misunderstand me. But maybe If you think it's not normal anymore, you should ask a doctor's advice.
My brother has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, diagnosed when he was 2y.o if I remember right. It doesnt mean "abnormal" but a behavioral deficiency only. Some parents are not open to these discussion, but actually, if we were not able to be aware of their situations, we're just bringing them in the wrong way. His doctor/therapist teaches us what should we do or deal with him on situations. He's in high school now and my mother still talk to his class adviser to explain my brother's situation, so his teachers will know what to do or understand him and considerate.
Maybe you can try reverse psychology, like when he's laughing loudly and annoys you, tell him "go on, make it louder, dont stop". Some kids just want our attention. And you really have to be firm. And dont tell things to him that you wont do. Do what you say. So he'll learn that your consistent and you mean what you say. Because sometimes they do silly things just to "dare" us.
