Where do people get off thinking that they can judge people?

True. There are really some people who easily pass out their judgment. I don't know why, maybe they derive pleasure from doing that. They should just try putting themselves in other people's position so that they would be able to realize that what they're doing isn't good. If they are the ones who are being judged and treated badly, of course they wouldn't like it as well.

Not only is that mean, but don't they get tired of always telling people off? Of being mean and noting comes out of their mouths but discouragement and criticisms? I also don't understand how people "enjoy" it whenever they make someone down or unhappy, it's just beyond me. I mean, who do they think they are?

Sometimes it is necessary, to protect ourselves, it is necessary to tell some people off. If possible, even that should be done in a kind and gentle manner. I had a friend who wanted to help to the point that I thought she was taking over my life. My husband even began to refer to her as my boss. I quietly told her that I preferred to handle my own affairs. We're still friends, just not as close.

That is the reality on the society that we are living in, my friend. There are people who is judge mental and never think the harm they implicated to somebody else. They are happy damaging someone reputation...

Depends. First what do you mean by judge? Do you mean someone who is cheating on their wife, and you accuse them of adultery? That's judging actions, and I support that. Your action is bad, and you are accused of what you are doing wrong. That's your problem. You want to not be accused, then change your ways for the better. Or do you mean judge, as in you see a guy talk to a woman who is not his wife, and you judge them as planning to commit adultery? That's judging intentions, and I don't support that. You have no idea why so and so did such and such. You do not know what is in their heart, so keep your mouth shut. "Well the reason that rich guy did such and such, is because he's greedy." Oh really? So you are omniscient, and know peoples thoughts? "Well no but..." Ok then shut up. You don't know why they did that, so keep your mouth closed. Now aside from this, sometimes you need to be blunt. Sometimes you have to tell it like it is, for the good of the other person. For example, a had a friend, whose cousin kept ruining her life with bad men, because she jumped in the sack with every guy that came along. This cousin asked my friend why her life was horrible. The friend told her... because you are a sl*t. Stop being a sl*t, and your life will get better. Shockingly, she stopped being a sl*t, and unsurprisingly, her life got better. Now perhaps you would say she was being a jerk, or being rude, or whatever. But the fact is, this girl had been complaining about her life for ages, and all the nice sweet, soft touchy feely, things people had to say to her, didn't work. Sometimes people simply won't change until you get a mirror of their life, and shove it in their face, and say: "See this?! This is what you are! Don't like that? Change!" And truth does hurt. And yes it does cause pain. But some people will simply never change until they are hurt by the truth of what they are, and change because of it. Now I agree that this doesn't justify being a jerk. But I choose to consider the claim instead of just complain about jerks. I think, ok is what he said true, or false? "You are lazy!" Am I lazy? If yes, then I need to change. If I refuse to change, then the problem is mine, and I deserve to be insulted. If I change, then I have made myself a better person for life. If the claim is not true, then I ignore him. No point in getting mad about someone who is wrong. There will always be wrong people. Then I move on.

Hi happy! I have a personal policy which I want to apply most of the time if not possible all the time, that is not to talk if I have nothing good to say. But of course giving a feedback especially if asked, I would say what is needed to be said.

well, if their bad behavior is disturb me as well, I will tell them It is not my right to tell them what should they do but at least she/he knows that his misbehave annoys me

I had seen plenty of people like that, and as matter of fact, I hate those people who running around their mouth like they knew me, or they knew everyone, and they can make judgment on them. I just don't like them at all. First of all, they are no better than anyone, and they simply running their mouth to make them superior. Actually, they are not.

I agree, it is downright annoying when there are some people who can't ever keep their mouths shut to this kind of behaviour. It is just easier for them to be negative than positive and encouraging. They never learned how to be tactful or have the common sense to know we're not all perfect and to just critique someone for the sake of critiques is just wrong. I try not to do this although I must be complaining alot on this site. In real life I don't do that much, I hold it inside of me til it gets to be to o much.

I believe that everyone in this world do judge people regardless of what some may say. Whether they judge a person openly, meaning saying it out, or judging someone inside his own heart, its still the same. Its inevitable for us to judge or so called have a certain opinion about someone, since this is human nature to evaluate everything, including people. I find that judging is acceptable, but it is wiser to keep it to yourself. If you must, then tell the person politely about their shortcomings or whatsoever.

If they ask my opinion I would tell them, but not you smell, or your ugly. I know many comment on a lady I use to work with because she's so short. I can't believe it, she knows if I say anything it usually a joke, but some people she doesnt even know will say things to her. I am very open with people but I will soften the blow, with it lightly. I remember in college a guy had diabeties and stunk just had this musty odour. The supervisor told him right to his face infront of everyone that he smelt.

The opposite of talking behind your back. Some people believe that they are so right and you are so wrong that they just have to tell you. They just can't keep their mouths shut. Those kinds of people have very few social skills and are not usually popular. I worked with someone like that once. She was obnoxious. Most people would walk away when she started her ranting about you this and you that. Those that didn't ended up in a shouting match. And she was worse than anybody. She was told a few times what she was like. Once by me. Her face got all red but she didn't change. I don't see her anymore but I hear she's worse than ever.

I think your attitude here makes it difficult to answer your question objectively. First, you are not neutral die you are of the opinion that you should be corrected when you long so long as it doesn't touch on anyone else!

I agree. Judging other people is lame and I try hard not to do that to people. If you don't like someone you really don't have to deal with em; just cut em off or whatever and move on instead of throwing words around. Judging should be left up to God and not people. People sometimes may think they're better than the other person but of course they're wrong. I prefer to just let people be who they are.

Yeah I guess. Even if we think badly about a person, it's not just right to go and tell them in their face although actually if that's some constructive criticism, it'll be good to say though not everyone will appreciate that. But outright judgement to people is not very good of course. We can't judge other people just because they are different from us. And the other thing that I hate is when people judge dan then talking behind that person's back. I don't like that kind of behavior and I'm sure many people also don't

I look at it this way if I have a strong thought about someone I ask myself is it really my problem what they are doing. I think everyone needs to respect the fact that everyone is different. Just because I don't like something doesn't give me the right to put someone else down for it. It's no reason to tell someone else off. These days people can be so rude it is sad.