men doing the homework will increase in the divorce rate?
@quanquanzhang (504)
China
9 responses
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
I think that husbands usually feel demoralized if it is the wife who works and support the family needs instead of them. I think that they feel humiliated to do the household chores instead of his wife. They in fact have to bear what other people would say about their situation. They feel insulted and think of themselves as useless when in fact, doing the household chores are pretty hard. This situations can create conflicts to their marriage and can really ruin it if was not discussed and addressed properly.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
29 Sep 12
i think what you say is the reasons which is right,good luck!
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Yes, since this household chores like doing the laundry, taking care of the kids, cooking, etc are usually done by women. It is not usual to see men doing this kind of jobs.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
2 Oct 12
I would not accept that study as something serious. Every person is different and I don`t think that doing or not doing homework has any influence in a marriage. In a good marriage, both spouses are partners and each one does what he/she does best to preserve the marriage.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
8 Oct 12
if every spouses can do as you say,i think there is no problem.good luck!
@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Sep 12
I don't know whether this is true. But if men don't do the housework, it will also lead to have the divorce. Because no woman likes to marry to a man who doesn't want to share the housework. Especially today women also have their careers, and they have to take care of the families when they are home. It is not fair and it is also so exhausting. The family is build with a couple. So men are responsible to do some housework. Actually today I can see many men help to do the housework.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
29 Sep 12
quanquanzhang:
Homework -- is it related to house-- cleaning, cooking, maintenance of appliances(1) or
Homework -- men doing office work at home. (2)
In my view (2) may support your point because when men do the office work at home their family time is reduced causing tension in the family,. On the contrary in (1) women will enjoy and appreciate and the bondage in the family will be very good.
Please explain what you have in mind in a detailed manner,.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
8 Oct 12
lots of things which women do in the house is very hard.including cleaning,as you say.i hope man can help women,good luck!
@MANJET (84)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 12
In my opinion, it may really be related to the increase of divorce rate. This is because couples with men doing all the home chores may face the problem that the wife does not respect or look high upon her man. at the same time, men would always want to have a bigger things at hand. Perhaps a good career outside of house is still necessary for men.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
8 Oct 12
dose the wofe not respect or look high upon her man?i don't know.but a good career outside is important for a man,i agree.good luck!
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hi quan! I don't think that is enough reason for a divorce. Well, we don't have divorce in our country. But my husband, although he also have his own job, will do the household chores especially if I am assigned in another place where I cannot come home daily. Helping each other inside the house will surely build a stronger family.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
14 Oct 12
I suppose (and I'm assuming you mean housework) it depends on the country you live in as regards its culture. For instance, in some countries it might be considered unthinkable for a man to do what is largely thought of as a woman's work, but here in the UK those gender specific roles have mostly broken down and it isn't thought of as being at all bad if men do some, most or all of the housework. It is expected anyway that men (this is looking at situations where men and women live together) help at least some of the time.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
30 Sep 12
I think that depends in large part on the man. It can depend on how he was raised, what was expected of him when he was living at home prior to moving out on his own or getting married, whether he was ever taught to clean up when he was growing up...some men weren't taught.
If a man loves a woman, if he likes her, he is going to want to help her. He knows that they both live in the house, so the upkeep of the house is a responsibility that should be shared.
On the other hand, if a woman stays at home all day, and does not have any children or is not running a home business (and of course if she is not sick), then she should take care of most of the housework everyday while her husband is off at work. Of course he should help her with anything that she cannot handle herself, but for the day to day housekeeping, that's her job if she is at home, but it is his job if he is at home all day while she is out at work.
The divvying up of household chores should be discussed prior to getting married. Each person should know what the other person expects.