disgrace of the family

I'm willing to bet that you won't be able to say that once you lost your mind. Stress can make you do many destructive things--including temper. I don't say that it's enough excuse to justify their actions. Only that we are still responsible why people like this turn up near us time and again. Try to be sensitive to your surroundings. Listen to each people's problems, they may sound the same but each problem has a different impact on each one. And each person has some way of coping up stress. For those who can't cope up with their own problems, they sometimes turn killers and murderers--most of the time, they just kill themselves and not one of their family members knew the reason why. Try studying a little background of psychology and you'll see what I mean. Reading a little about these kind of people will really open your eyes as to what they've been through. Instead of judging right away that they are a disgrace to their own family, try and understand their side first.

Indeed, as long as we are living, we will always have problems. And that we also get to choose, which among those problems we make our own problem. But you can also choose to just let the problem run after you. "It is not the fault of other people if we choose to be drowned by our own darkness inside." I agree, they are responsible for the consequences of their decisions and actions , but we are still responsible for them to a certain extent. (Look into Morals for this) He/she maybe a total stranger but if one would look at the world as a very big picture, one's actions somewhat affects other aspects of the world such as the life of another total stranger. (This is true in Economics and the Ecosystem--Biology.) A person going crazy or had gone berserk may also not be his own decision. So can you say that going crazy is his will thus his fault? I do not mean to impart to you that those labelled as criminals are the ONLY victims of the society and the other thing you added in the end. But you've got to admit, you must be thankful that you are in better place than they; well off than they--mentally,psychologically and possibly physically--not knowing what they've been through; what decisions they have to make; what thoughts they've been burdened with. Let's just say, putting yourself on their shoes; Can you be certain that you can do the right thing? Or choose the decision they took? I know if I answer that I'll say, "I don't know". If we people are judging these criminals (right away)...etc. I do not mean that. Here, let me clarify: Because word goes out that the person is a criminal because he did something--people already judge the person as a whole to be bad or evil right away (excluding the judge and the jury). I do not mean, the current society extracting vengeance right away. Nor the absence of the judgement of the court and its corresponding punishment. Geez. Seriously, everybody knows that there is always a trial for people unless if you're living in a different society that doesn't have their "common" justice system.

There might be reasons why they commit crimes but "ends don't justify the means". Having a miserable life is not an excuse to commit crimes and harm other people. We are civilized people, we are rational beings. We have the capacity to think, and so to do the right thing despite how cruel life may seem. It's not always getting what we want "whatever it takes". This is the life in the temporary world. We struggle, we act responsibly, we have the freedom to be happy without harming other people. Thanks for your response Rose.

That is so true paper doll. You can never choose your family. Each act according to his own choice/free will but the consequence strikes everyone close to him/her. I feel esp. for the parents of these crazy people. Though we don't have the right to condemn them, it is but normal to hate them and their actions. Many factors do influence our decisions, and most are not because of genes. The thought of having a criminal in a family is very disturbing..as bad memories can't be forgotten that easily. It's like an disease without cure inside people's minds. Thanks for your thoughts:)

You're welcome :D

Blood is always thicker than water. No matter how wrong they may be, they will still be our family. Despite the pain they've caused us, we can't just turn them down and leave them. No matter how far we are from them, we can still feel them and their need of your acceptance and forgiveness.

That's correct. Yet people can't help but be judgmental. Such that one should think of the consequence of their actions before doing them 'coz it's still the family that suffers most.

Indeed. It's just too easy to condemn other people of their wrong act, like we haven't done any wrong in our entire lives :(

No matter what they have done, we will always accept them and comfort them. No matter how it hurts us, we will always find ways to help them get through and most important of all, let them realize their wrong doings. I'm sure your son has learned his lesson, he won't disappoint you again:)

True. We can't lose our love and care for them no matter what they've done.

You're right. It is always easy for them to do such shame without thinking the effect of their actions. But still their parents can't do a thing but accept them.

yes they put fear in us, but we can't just reject and disown them 'coz they're still our family.