Why dont I feel I am being bad..

@vandana7 (100225)
India
September 29, 2012 8:20am CST
Old news. My relatives are bad. Update One of them is divorced..the drunkard abusive gambler cousin of mine has been divorced by his wife. FINALLY. Yippeeeeeeee I learnt it today and it has made me very happy. He deserved it. One down, a few more to go.. Dont I sound bad? Why dont I feel I am being bad..
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11 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 12
HI Vandy! How does it affects you if your cousin has been divorced? It is his life and let him face the consequences of his ill deeds. Don't rejoice, he might come to your house to take a shelter, as his wife has deserted him.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 12
Did you check your mail?
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 12
Don't feel scared, he is not going to see your discussion and my response. (I wish I could see your scared and nervous face seeing my response.........lol!) You know it better whether you have any reasons to get injunctions against him?
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
29 Sep 12
Bad boy Deepu..out to scare me.. Look I have better reasons to get injunction against him, dont you think? Moreover, his wifey revealed the 30 year old truth..lol So Vandy has overnight turned into poor thing..lol Not that I ever relished it. But I realized how important it is to be "poor thing" without being poor in this society..lol
@MagicGuy (157)
• United States
29 Sep 12
Because some people will benefit from another's absence...
@MagicGuy (157)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Not really. What I meant is; It looks like he got what he deserves and you don't have to worry about 'her' anymore (she's safe without him?)...
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
30 Sep 12
Oops ..I am sorry if I reminded you of your pain. But let me assure you my benefit is essentially my physical, and emotional security apart from some bit financial security which has come from more than 25-30 years of hard work, starvation, and self-deprivation. I must add it was because of my relatives. Sorry once again if I seem to have hurt you. I am sure our stories are opposite.
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
30 Sep 12
Sorry..I didnt word that well..It should have read ..I must add all those pains and fears were because of my abusive relatives.
• India
14 Oct 12
Hello my friend vandana7 Ji, Well, Goods and Bads are two sides of same coin. If one compares them with life, on ewill understand them like Nights and Days. Both are equallyu important. It is natural ways of balancing. After churning Occean, everyone wanted Nector, no one dared to take poison, only Lord Shiva took and HE is worshipped even today. Why do you not accept truth of nature. May God bless You and have a great time
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
14 Oct 12
That is nonsense ..lol The more we accept, the more it increases MGB.. So are you saying..if my cousins are gamblers, drunkards, and pedophiles, just accept it, and keep quiet, and suffer it AS TRUTH OF NATURE..get a life..
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
29 Sep 12
I think I'll join in..do you mind? Woohoo!
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
29 Sep 12
Not at all my dear...I would open a Vodka here..
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
29 Sep 12
Even better!
• India
6 Nov 12
I don't think it's about you being bad. Firstly their choices were not correct at some point of their life, which might have resulted in divorce. Coming to your side of the story, I guess any other human being at your position would have thought it in the same way. After all we are human beings and hence we can give back the same thing what we get from other. If a person is bad with me always, I guess I would be bad to him/her too.
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
21 Dec 12
I feel exonerated for my sin. :) Yes...but it is conflicting feeling. What we are taught as kids, and what are actual feelings. :)
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
2 Oct 12
Hi my vandy! You are ok to feel happy about your mental relief but keep in mind that it may be karma from a past life. Perhaps now you and he are even once more. So now, just try to be happy but not too happy. OK?
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
3 Oct 12
How come a demon like me has a holy friend like you in my books..lol I know...but I guess the effect has already started waning. It always does. It is only the initial stages when you feel great, god is on my side, sort of feeling. You feel thankful to god, but yes, we must remember, we are no less sinners.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
6 Oct 12
LOL! I am far from holy, but I do think!
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
29 Sep 12
You want whats best for people, even if the person isn't related to you. That's because YOU are a good person...
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
30 Sep 12
Well this joy was more from personal benefit with this than altruistic reasons. Now, it becomes easier for me to keep him and his brothers and uncles away from me because of the record that is established about abusive nature.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Sep 12
Some people are not bad so they dont sound bad. But then as opposed to this theory, some are bad... Let me ask - what about the kids?
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
29 Sep 12
The wifey was a doctor, he trapped her..she chose to have only one son. She waited for her son to find a decent match. As soon as he got married, she filed for a divorce..lol Both ex-wife and her son and daughter in law have relocated to another country. But before that she had quite a few buried secrets (including the one about me being abused) to reveal..lol Now more people are softer towards me..earlier it was an uphill thing all the way..lol And I dont mind sounding and being devilish in case of people like that.
• India
30 Sep 12
Hello Vandana, I have no idea which 30 year old secret has been revealed with your cousin's divorce case, but certainly I feel good for his wife who got freed from such a gambler and drunkard. There is nothing that you should be feeling bad about. He got what he deserved in life.
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
30 Sep 12
Yes...I am delighted..shamelessly gleeful. :)
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
30 Sep 12
I have similar case in my family. The wife divorced my cousin because of infidelity few years ago. She took all five kids with her and continued working hard to support them on her own. She proved to my family that he is really a good-for-nothing man. At the last family get together event when another cousin of ours were getting married, she was there doing really well on her own and still very much accepted as part of our family. As for the husband, he did not even show up for his own cousin's wedding; and it seems that no one in the family really care about him anymore knowing what he did to his own wife and children... No need to feel bad...
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
30 Sep 12
Wish more women would walk out, and walk out early.
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@loonys (418)
29 Sep 12
No u don't sound bad..
@vandana7 (100225)
• India
29 Sep 12
2012 is turning out to be a good year..