kids seating and airlines

I ask to know the seat formation on the airline. Typically it can be two on the left, five in the middle and two on the right or three on the left and three on the right. I like to have a window seat and sit next to my daughter. I like my disabled son next to her. He is unable to walk and heavy to carry. For those reasons I like to have him in an aisle seat. If the airline wanted to sit either of my kids away from me I would ask them to sit next to me. I would not want my kids to sit away from me and next to strangers. My son is severely disabled and I am his carer. My daughter is just 3 years old and she needs my care too. If the airline said no I would refuse to fly on that flight.

This is something that is very unlikely to actually have happen. I've flown with my children once (at the time my son was an infant on lap though). For the main part of our flight, we were ticketed in such a way that I had the window seat, Kathryn had the middle seat and Tom had the aisle seat. On the short part of the flight (on a prop job plane) the seats were 2 seats and then an aisle and then one seat. Two of our tickets were together and the third was a few rows back on the other side of the aisle. So, I sat with Kathryn in the two seats and Tom held Paul on his lap in the single seat.

I feel the same like you. But I concern about my child may be disturbing for others and therefore I prefer him to seat besides me. As children are full of energy and it is not easy for them to seat and behave well during the flight. So I try not to let him bother other passengers.

I'm a flight attendant and when someone asks me to move them because their kids are separated I just tell them to ask the person sitting next to them. No one wants to sit next to a strange child either trust me so they do usually move. Don't be afraid to ask your fellow passengers to move seats with you.