Staying in contact with family or not.

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Okay. My life, hasn't always been the greatest, nor has my relationship with my family been so since, hmm, I guess, since I moved out back in 1996. I've lived out of state, and have lost my (adoptive dad) Daddy. I'm just so tired, of holding everything in, and biting my tongue, just so noone's feelings are hurt (especially mine). I went down to visit last year, my adoptive mom, had only time to see me for lunch one day. And didn't want her picture taken with her grandkids or be a grandmother really. (Like spoiling them or hug and kiss.) Now, my sister, didn't even want to talk to me, let alone meet her nieces. Even though hadn't seen each other since my daddy's funeral, (which by the way was all about her and her daughter, like I didn't lose anyone too.) I saw my biological mom twice and my biological dad almost everyday. Even visited with my best friend (who was like a sister to me) and her family for a couple of hours. Why do I bother to reach out to them? It hurts, but family is important to me, even though I didn't have the greatest childhood. I was a daddy's girl, and was very close to him, yet when he died, I was in the room with him at the hospital (because noone offer me to stay with them), and yet, it was as if I was just paying my respects to them and not as if my hero and reason the family was together was gone. (Of course, it didn't help, that the day he died, his divorce with mom was finalized. As if he was waiting, for me to come home and for that final problem to be resolved.) I'm trying to keep us together because of him and how he loved us. But noone else seems to care. While I've never visited the family before then, I still would call and try to keep in contact, but it always hurts me in the end. Getting lectured and put down, criticized, embarrassed, and just being told that they can't talk. Should I continue, taking this abuse or just drop all contact with my sister and adoptive mom? I'm having trouble breathing and keeping the tears at bay, while writing this. It is just so hard, to forgive and try to reach out, in order to keep a family together for our children to have that connection, when noone seems to care. I'm ready to just say, that I don't have them, but that's not me. I do love them, yet I don't deserve to continuously getting hurt. What is your opinion and counsel on this? Would appreciate any prayers and blessings, too.