Remember to Say I love you
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
September 29, 2012 11:58pm CST
Life is short and sometimes we take it for granted that the people we love know we love them. Then many times when they die we regret never having told them.
I love all my family but I was never one to tell them that. I hadn't spoke to an uncle for years, not because we were fighting or anything but life she kept passing by.
Finally he died and I never had got the chance to speak with him or to tell him I loved him.
I took it really bad when he died and I vowed I would tell everyone I love, family and friends that I love them while they are still alive and I have kept my vow.
any thoughts?
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16 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Remind myself to tell my mom that before we go to sleep. you know one time, i thought about imagining living with out her, and some how my tears started dropping endlessly, but i stop that thinking. didn't realize that would be hard with out her, but your right and thank you for your advice i will tell her that once i she gets home.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 Oct 12
It will make her very happy to hear you say those words. Yes it will be hard to live without her but you will do it when the time comes.
@nivorn (33)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Yes. You should learn from your past regrets. To not be able to say "I love you" to someone who means so much to you would is regrettable. I agree with you when you said that life is so short and we should tell everyone that is important to us that we love them. However, let me add on that. We should not only tell them how much they mean to us but we should also show them how much we love them. In my personal opinion, more than words, our actions should show a person how much we love them. Because sometimes words are easier to say but actions are harder to fake. So go on, tell everyone how much you love them... And on top of that, show them how much you love them. Cheers!
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Sep 12
You just never know when your loved one will be gone. My grandson comes upstairs several times of the day and tells me he loves me. And we just tell eachother that through out the day. It is always nice to hear and I enjoy giving it back to them too.
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
at this point in time, there are people who had disappointed me. i know, forgiveness is a process, and being wronged could be enough reason to be angry. but without any reason to keep one from saying the words, that is not understandable. we have to be telling the people close to us before it's too late. someone even said, it only takes 30 secs to die in an accident, and so on, therefore we have to tell them we love and care for them.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Day in and day out, I always utter those words to my wife. With family and friends, a warm hug or a soft tap on the back would surely let them know or realize I am always there for them. Uttering those words would surely mean a lot unless there is insincerity, lol!
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@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
30 Sep 12
"I Love You" are the three magical words which express love and affection for someone. These words can be used to express our emotions to our family, friends, cousins, lover just anyone. Sometimes when we use these words to convey our innocent feelings of affection towards someone, that someone takes these words the other way. He/she gets the impression that we have fallen in love with them. Here these magical words create utter confusion.
I therefore think that "I Love You" should be uttered only to your family members or life partner. For friends and cousins of opposite gender there should be other words to show affection and care.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 Oct 12
we understand the context in which the words are spoken. A friend who has always been a friend understands it does not mean I am in love with you.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 Nov 12
Personally it is Best to let everyone know how much you care about them and that you Love them as we are never guaranteed tomorrow, and if something was to happen to them and you did not tell them then you feel bad. That is why we should never stay angry and try to make ammends where we can as well.
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@GardenGerty (160488)
• United States
1 Oct 12
This is part of the reason that I try hard to visit my dad a lot more often. I also e mail him and we speak by phone. I have regretted missing some visiting time with other friends and relatives who have passed away. I try to always spend time with them now.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
4 Oct 12
Hi Winter,
I wrote a similar discussion a few days ago after having lost a very dear friend unexpectedly. I learned this lesson years ago after losing my dad unexpectedly. My brother and he had been arguing and their lost words to each other were not very kind at all. To this day, my brother has a hard time even talking about my dad.
I have always told my girls to never leave the house or go to bed without at least saying "I love you" even in moments of upset. The same goes for friends and other family. Make a call or drop a line...take a few mins. and pay a visit. NOw with the internet, even in these busy times, it can be done. Just let people know you think of them and that you care.
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@biancacorreos (199)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I admit i'm not the expressive type. I don't say i love to the ones i love. I don't believe in words, i'm more on actions.
Yes, life is short and i really must say i love you to them. But i can't utter it personally. Probably in a written i can do that.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 Oct 12
Then do it in writing as long as they know you love them that is what counts.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
30 Sep 12
winter you are so right...a lot of people are in that same
predicament..
People are so eager to say. "I don't like this", or "I hate
that", but to actually take the time to tell someone "I
Love You" they take for granted that people already no that.
I have no problem telling those I love that I love them..When
I am told that I know how warm and fuzzy I feel so I think I
can do the samething for others...
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@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
30 Sep 12
One must always remember to tell family members and loved ones that you love them on a regular basis, even though they know you love them. I never got the chance to be with my dad and tell him that I loved him either before he passed away. I was angry at some things he did when I was younger and also thought he would be around "forever." I know he knew I loved him, but in his dieing days I wasn't there to say "I Love You." Now with today's technology, you can live 1,000 of miles away and you can still call, email, IM your family member or loved one that you love them.
My husband and I start each day with a kiss and an "I Love You". We end each day with a kiss and an "I Love You."
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 Oct 12
that is great that you do that, I make a habit to tell my boyfriend that I love him all the time. My son doesn't mind hearing sometimes but doesn't want to here it all the time.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Nov 12
that is great and you should say I love you to your parents and family too.
@apoota888 (51)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Nov 12
It is very true what you just said. I'm a very shy person. Though I say "I love you" to my boyfriend who eventually became my husband, after years of being married we no longer say that to each other. I seldom tell that to the other family members as well. Now that I'm in Dubai, saying it every now and then became important to me. I guess it is really true that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
hi winter,
I believe that we must tell or show how much we love someone
Cause it will be useless telling them how much we love them if they can't hear or feel it anymore.
happy mylotting
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@june2248 (154)
•
11 Dec 12
Hi Winterose, How are you doing? its really quite long i am not coming to mylot because i was very busy but i missed you all, finally today i got time.
Yes, your words are very true and i am really sorry to hear that.You know rose i always love my younger brother and i treated him like my baby but he left us just because of one girl,he blamed us for so many things which we never did, and he got married to her and started living next to two doors.
Also like to share that in my country we celebrate one festival called Rakshabandhan, this is a kind of prayer which sisters do for her brother and tie a beautiful Rakhi (thread) to her brothers hand and if girl don't have brother then she tie Rakhi to God. Now my condition is i have a brother but since two years i tied Rikhi to my God.
My god knows i still love him, i love him so much.
Tk my dear friend
Thank's