Do you tell a lie to someone just to keep things better?

I don't think there is a white lie or a black lie, as such. A lie is a lie and one lie is just as bad as the other. It's a sin and the degree of offense can be measured by the amount of harm it produces. There is almost always, an object behind every lie. Sometimes we want to achieve something through a series of lies, which is wrong. Sometimes we lie just to avoid some embarrassments, which is also not right. Lying can be dangerous in the long run. Your first lie is your first knock on the doors of hell. Then you take the stairs, by lying continuously. I lie, and I do it frequently. I hardly every felt any remorse for it. I don't lie when I need money. I don't lie when I want a better job. I don't lie instead of asking things. I lie, when I don't like a certain person, and want him off my tail WITH IMMEDIATE EFFECT. I lie when people ask me why I unfriended them on Facebook. I lie when drunkards ask for money. However I don't like it when other people lies.

I do white lies sometime.. But if i look that the condition is getting worse and worse, i prefer to tell the truth instead of telling lies again.. Because the condition might getting more worse than now.. And the purpose of telling the white lies before is to make a better condition.. But if i as the side of someone who being told a lie, like when my friend tell me a lie just to keep my good mood and she don't want me to angry .. But we are all know that the truth can't be hide forever, so at the time i know that my friend was telling a lie to me i was so angry, more angry than i think i would be if she said the truth from the first time.. So, the conclusion is, i don't really know do we should lie to avoid something but what called a lie, even though its a white lie, is wrong..

There are some things about myself that I'd rather not reveal to anyone. I don't want to bear the consequence of lying to anyone if I can keep it to myself. The truth will set us free but it may make us miserable at first.

hi zip, White lies, bad lies whatever we call it still it's a LIE Well I do but I think I need to be a Liar to save a relationship besides I don't want to barge into their relationship though I feel guilty not telling the truth but for me I better stay away from them than to continue telling lies. happy mylotting

No I don't tell a lie or lies I don't see the need of it. I can't say telling the truth and being honest is appreciated by people. Most hate you because of that since they just want to hear what they like to hear. They can't deal with the truth or don't like to face reality. I don't like to fool myself or other people. Only if I face my problems I am able to fight them and find a solution. It always worked for me and since I am only responsible for my life and my kids why should I lie? My kids should learn how to deal with problems, how to find a solution, how to ask for help, how they can use their creative minds to help them out or get their mind of problems. This will only be to their benefit in their future life.

Well thank u for posting this discussion. Of course, in order to keep things afloat i would always like to prefer to say a lie and later on when things will get better and when there is a right time, then i might opt for telling the real truth. I am sure this is the general tendency of most of the human beings in order to keep things hassle free and trouble free for some time. What say?

We lie. Then, we have to tell another lie to support the first one. Wouldn't it just be easier to tell the truth in the first place?

The longer you keep a lie, the worse it will be when the truth comes out. So just tell the truth to start with. Short term pain, long term gain.

is there such a thing as a innocent white lie? i think most of us do it ,tell a white lie everynow and then if we feel that it is a more realistic approach ,human nature.to a degree it is cause and effect.meaning if for sure we know that bending the truth a bit may actually do some good and telling the truth will be very damaging to some situations.Then either be a liar or listen to sanctiminious people who will tell you to be a saint which you yourself know is practically impossible.

I have been a pathetic liar, lol, before until i realized it would only cause more trouble when reality checks in and it caused a lot of embarrassment and a lot of frustration from people who put their trust in me. No matter what, better to stick to the truth as it will be really reflect who you are, gain respect, and hopefully a better person.

I agree, with the usual caveat that "you can't handle the truth!" (what was that move? with Tom Cruise & Jack Nicholson ... A Few Good Men?) That is, sometimes there are so many 'things that are true' to know that one little 'lie' (or Super-Truth, or whatever)--if that Super-Truth serves the same purpose as all those little factoids--that it just makes sense to believe the Super-Truth and to let the little things fall away. For example, it may be "true" that you thought about sinning this morning and that I'm making you regret having so-thought and/or -I'm making you plan to sin again, and that you'll have to repay your past sins, and that you'll have to plan to repay your future sins etc.; but you can cover all that thinking with 'showing your love for Jesus by following His commandments (those two upon which all the laws & prophecies hang),' and the little 'true' things'll take care of themselves.

By "white lies" do we mean telling someone "they don't look fat in that dress"? I see nothing wrong not telling someone they look fat in a dress. Its usually not the dress and it won't make a difference. If its an ugly dress and they're trying to make a good impression say for a date or a job. There are nice ways to suggest something nicer to wear without lying or even commenting on "the dress". So, the point is 'white lies" to spare someone's feelings is justified. Lying to avoid embarrassment, about a job, or position, usually leads to more embarrassment when they find out the truth. ALTHO, most people embellish on resumes and today I don't see how else to get a job. As long as its not stuff employers can check, how else do you get hired? If something embarrassing happens to you, or you do something embarrassing and telling the truth will negatively effect your self esteem....you probably shouldn't have to lie.....NOT disclosing "the truth", is perfectly o.k. Its usually no ones business anyway. Including what you do for a living unless the purpose of telling someone is to get a better job, or do business. Other then that, its no ones business. Neither is your income. So I said all that to say simply, don't lie about things that will come back to haunt you and hurt you more then being honest in the first place. But there's also a whole lot of stuff that people don't need to know anyway--- true or false.

Personally, i already decided in my adult age that will be more hi honest and true on my feelings and words. p When i was a bit younger i use to tell white lies, but now i am more mature and you are right, truth will set us free. Now i always let my self to just tell everything honestly even it will takes for someone to ge hurt. Pain will only takes for sometimes, but if you tell lies, it could be result to a biiger trouble, so it's better to say hinestly what you have to say than tell lies or just better kee quite...

Lies beget lies. Why? When you lie, you have to cover previous lies with new lies. As you lie, more and more lies are covered until to self-destruct on the weight of those lies. My point is that tell the truth as early as possible. It will set you free.

I remember when I used to lie a...lot--it was usually to save myself (and mostly my trouble making friends)from getting in trouble. Eventually, as I was growing up, I realized that the more I lied the more it kept elevating to another lie and another lie to cover that lie and so on and so forth. It even got to the point where I felt like I was being a hypocrite for wanting people to be honest with me and yet I was lying to them on a constant loop, and the guilt kept on building up and up. One can only keep lying for so long. I felt too guilty, and my conscience kept haunting me so I gradually gave up the horrible addictive habit, and kept telling the truth--even if it was hurtful (but not in a blunt way). As already stated, honesty is the best policy even if painful or heartbreaking...the truth is the truth, but whether the person can handle it or not is a whole different story. Lying is an awful habit and I encourage everyone to tell the truth, and be honest (not blunt, but honest) :)

hi, sometimes back i also had to tell a lie to make my friend smile and i also started a similar discussion. Thugh my nature is never to rely on a lie but that day the situation was such that we were in public vehicle and she was almost crying. I told her something which was not true but then she could smile on hearing me. Though after that incident she now knows that why i told her lie and she is thankful to me as she felt that as a its ok pat on the back. I always make sure to be honest and don't believe in saying lies. To hide one lie we may add on more lies and end up caught so better have the confidence to speak the truth.

well, i don't talk too much, so the chances of saying lies are less, i feel, because, the person who go on taking or boasting himself/herself may arrive at a point where they have to hide certain points and so they try to say some lies , with the fear of loosing people, now i don't say that if we speak less we can completely avoid it, but chances are comparably less, well any ways it depends on us on how we tackle the situation and the talk . The person who is used to talk lies are and remain like that, and it comes or happens just in a fraction of seconds and to cover one lie they have to go on saying some other ,the chain continues..lol

I think we can get into a habit of saying "white lies" to people in order to get our of situation or conversation..If we try to build a foundation through white lies then eventually, it will fall down..It will be better if you told the truth and then have that person get mad at you about it, but it will only be for a little while; but at least he/she will respect you for it.. The rules is that the only time you may tell a white lie is that if you are literally saving that person's life..

No I'd rather not lie, because people can tell I am lying to them just by the look on my face while telling a lie. Instead, I like to remain silent when I do not want to make things worse or making a person feel bad.

I think white lie works in some case .if u encourage a demoralized person you should take the help of white lie.if you tell him the truth if may work as a negative to me which become harmful.