Giving or Receiving?

Good morning to you and good night to me! &(*._.*)& It did help. I remain firm with my decisions and make sure that I show what I preach. I do my best not to get too personal. I was not choosen to do the job to make friends but to improve or enhance their abilities. My trainees are not all certified or graduate of education. So, I make it clear to the trainees that I am not judging their diplomas or whatever credentials they have shown earlier. Since they pass that part, it means work for all of us. They show to me that they could be an asset to the company then they have a big chance for the position. Friendship is allowed but it won't be a basis too. I am glad I am in China and the people I train are in the Philippines. I am glad we are not near or else I will see little gifts in my office. You are right, it is so hard for me sometimes to decide but I told them honestly if I will be soft or dishonest about your performance, sooner or later we will discover that you are not good for the comapny then you will be fired and all the chances that should be for the right person is wasted. I have someone whom I consult also if I don't feel the words or decisions I have said were right. I make sure I check my own performance and also seek guidance from my superiors. Have a great day! I will go to bed now. Good night to me and good morning to you again!

Oh. Thank you. They say I am that's why the pressure is too much. I do need advices from you and the others. I need to hear what people really think because I cannot ask the trainees ... we might build a personal attachment which is not good. We mean only business.

Wow! You do a really good, thorough job. You're really a big asset to that company. I'm sure they appreciate you. I am very impressed. You didn't need any advice from me! Good night.

I agree with your opinion. I also enjoy receiving feedbacks not just to the older but also to those who are more experienced than me. I love to listen to people's personal experience and how they overcame their obstacles. As what I've told my trainees, I may be here right now and guiding them, sooner or later I have to let them go an dthey have to work with minimal or no supervision at all. The trust we give to them must be maintained as they earn it every day o fthe training and by teh time they are hired. Honestly, when I was younger, I hated receiving feedbacks from my parents, relatives and especially my teachers. As I grow older, I understood they had a point and though they are irritating, their role is to reitirate to my brain and heart how life works when they are not around.

Life really sucks when we were younger. We want to have our own criteria without the age gap comparison but it's not possible. The more experienced people which are our parents are more responsible and know better. I am one of the rebellious type but my mom gives me some time tehne evntually I follow her. She wins all the time!

Of course,sis,when we are children,we want to do everything that we like to.We at that time hate feedbacks.As we grow up,we realize that we have to improve ourselves.We are mature then.So feedbacks begin offering us a chance todo away with our minus points.Thanks,sis.

That is true. if my comment or message is for their improvement, then even though it's not good, it isn't a bad feedback because it will make them better.

True! I agree with you. Whatever the comment is ... it's for their betterment!

Thank you so much. I will keep that in mind. I wouldn't feel guilty whatever the result is because I know I did my bets for them.

Thank you! Sometimes I don't feel like giving feedback because there are bad feedbacks that I have to say and people are very expressive, I will see immediately that the effect was negative. There are those who accepts negative feedbacks pretty well and learns from it and there are those that don't. Also, what I don't like when I give good ones too is because some people become immediately proud or relaxed instead of maintain the good feedback given. It's so difficult to hadnle people.

That's the challenge for you,you can also improve yourself when dealing with these problems,you can make it,come on!

Thnak you so much. In a way or the other as I train them every day, even without asking personal matters it comes it in our conversation. As much as I wanted to avoid because sometimes it affects my judgement, I can't help but close my eyes and really pin point what must be improved no matter what. I am glad so far, none has come up to me and said: "You are wrong, only if you saw me more." They are very interesting and talented peopel. You are right I am learning from them too. I take notes on all the things I learnt and also share it to them or to others to come.

I will trust you and would be very observant on that matter. Usually I don't follow up when I let them go. I just hear positive or negative progress from the bosses if there are any. I just hate it so much when they become boastful and don't work hard anymore.

I enoy what I am doing now because there are peopel who really appreciate the feedbacks I give to improve them. It's just that there are peopel who really thinks they are talented and/or skillful BUT it doesn't show. In my case, I have to see both, when you say you are good, you've got to show it. My boss would wnat only to hire a doer not a talker. You are right. It's better to experience both. Being able to really give comments based from experience is better than just by the book.