Do you mind who your brothers' or sisters' are dating with?
By Ysabel
@Ysabel (1201)
Philippines
September 30, 2012 11:06pm CST
I have 4 other sisters but we are living apart from each other because of our age gaps. By the time I reach my teen age the three sisters were in college and the eldest married already, living in the city from from us.
And so I have not experienced having to show to them my suitors and vice versa so I am wondering what is it like having a sibling telling you if that guy is good or not, and etc.
So do you care at all if you brother or sister is dating with this or that guy? Or you just dont mind it? And just let them rule their lives?
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10 responses
@GemmaR (8517)
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1 Oct 12
I always want my younger brother to be happy, so I would try to be friendly towards his girlfriend if there is any way that I could do so. However, there was one girl who he was with who I really didn't like at all. I had a fair amount of arguments with him about it, because he felt as though I was interfering too much. But she was treating him very badly, and just wasn't being the nice girlfriend that he deserves. She was making him spend far too much of his money on her, and he was only young at the time so didn't really get a great deal of money himself anyway.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I don't because am the youngest, if there's one thing I was told to and that is not to mind whom they are dating. they are mature and i think they know what their doing despite of their age. besides, i don't want to be some one being spotted on my siblngs if i ever get a date some day. thanks and have a nice day
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Oct 12
When I was dating, my brother and sister never hesitated to tell me what they thought about the people that I was dating. They didn't like anyone at all until I met the man that is now my husband and they made no qualms about telling me their opinion.
Based on this experience, I swore that I was never going to tell my siblings how I felt about their boyfriends or girlfriends. My sister is still single and my brother has been married for four years now. I don't really care for my sister-in-law, but I know that my brother loves her and that is the reason that I never wanted to hurt him by telling him what I thought about her.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
1 Oct 12
To be honest, I do. I am the eldest and I tend to be so overprotective of my siblings. They do know that I only want the best for them. And besides, whenever I "trash" about who they're currently dating, I don't use too harsh words. If they feel something for that person, that means they also tend to be concerned. And I don't think being so critical of them will do us any good.
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@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I see.. I had experiences of this. Either my siblings minding my relationships or me minding about theirs! haha:D
When I was 20, my sister who was 24 secretly talked to my bf who was 18 to end the relationship because he was still studying. My sister wanted him to focus on his studies first and just get back to me after his course.Yes he broke up with me without a word :D haha xD
Last year, me and my sister were against the relationship of my brother and a girl. This girl is know for being easy and indecent.
I think siblings just care enough that's why they say something about the relationship. Things they say maybe positive or hurtful-but for they just want you happy and secured.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 12
I never give comment to my brother although at first I never like the girl whom he was with when he was just 18. I know he will not like my comment, so I just kept quiet, until now he was with a more mature lady and she was a lawyer, she was kind and well manner, and that is the lady he should be with, i think this time I never oppose.
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Normally I don't really mind because even if they were told what to do, the heart is stupid most of the time and will still follow their own desires anyway despite warnings and advice. I sure don't want to be told what to do, I like to learn and make mistakes at my own pace. I feel a lot of people also are that way - they never learn until something not good has happened and has resulted from their stubbornness.
@Rasniki09 (183)
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1 Oct 12
I try not to get involved but as the oldest, I can't help myself sometimes. I am protective, especially when it comes to my little sister. I want to know who she is dating and make sure that the person is respecting her and treating her nicely.
Regarding my brothers, I usually feel sorry for the women because for the most part they are not the settling down type and I feel bad for the women that invest in the relationships knowing full well that they will not commit.
@keichan1412 (247)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I have a little brother who is 4 years young with me. I don't mind who's my brother is dating. I don't care actually because I know he knows what he is doing. He is big enough to think if the girl is the right for him. But I am open if he needs questions, suggestions or advices. :D