They don't clean up after themselves after eating meals

It is horrible when people take you for granted in this way. My parents are allowing me to stay at their home free of charge at the moment, but in return for that I do all of the cooking and washing up, and will do most of the washing and ironing as well. I feel as though that is the least that I could do for them because of the fact that they are always there for me; I don't want to take them for granted. You should tell them that they either help out around the house or they are no longer welcome, because they are abusing your hospitality at the moment.

Awwww give then money to buy at least a little shame :/ If the children of a family are responsible enough to do chores, I think those who belong to extended should be more sensitive in helping out the home owner. My mom always tell me, if ever I am on vacation , well even if it's a vacation at my relatives' house I should be responsible enough to help. Even on little efforts of sweeping , washing the dish, cleaning the table, preparing the table and etc.. It's what we call the "delikadesa"..and even now I'm 26, whenever I get to visit them I still do the same.. It's good to learn good manners :D

I know hoe it feels.....It also annoys me to witness such insensitivity with regards to helping with small house chores despite providing temporary shelter to some "visitors". I don't know what they have in mind, but I think it is utterly rude to be acting that way.

It is not normal to everyone to clean up, to give a helping hand. Some only do if you tell them so. Even get mad if you ask why they don't do it, since it's normal. What is normal to you is not normal to eveybody. If you are not raised like that, if you find it normal someone (mostly the wife/mother) is always serving you. So if you want something of these kind of people you have to tell them to wash all the dishes including the pots and pans! But probably also have to tell them to dry it and put it into the cupboards and clean the table afterwards and wipe the kitchenfloor. You can not blame them for doing nothing if you don't tell them you expect them to help out. Make a scedule who will do what when. It's the only way. If it's too disturbing/annoying to have those kind of people into your house, to tell them each time over and over again to clean up their own mess or to give a helping hand tell them to leave. Since giving someone a free shelter doesn't mean you can abuse someone or you should feel annoyed day in and out. Set rules, tell under what circumstances people are allowed or can earn this free shelter.

"Clean as you go" is a must in my place. A little even how small it is mwill go a long way. Respect is the main thing here, as everybody should have in order to have a peaceful environment. Respect to the one providing us food, the one who prepares the food and the one who really expects us to do what is right. Being orgainzed is really I should aimed to do now, make it habit as they say. I still recall, when we are still living in a relative's place, we used to do our fair share with those chores, do the errands and stuff like that. Sometimes, we do more than our share, but it's ok, we being fed there. I'm glad that we have a house to call our own home now. Thanks

These are the people who are so irresponsible , giving your hands for them to eat but they include eating up to your elbow , you know what i mean. They should not be tolerated , discipline them , teach them strictly. They might have not been taught , so why not teach them . Who knows you could make a difference in their lives by teaching and showing example.

It took a second reading for me to understand what you were talking about. Why are these ungrateful people staying at your parent's house? Your parents need to post some rules, and those who do not adhere to them should be shown the door.

My sister has to remind my cousin regarding helping wash the dishes and cleaning the table too after eating. She stays in our place because her mom and dad both have separate families on their own and she couldn't really join either of them because of the new spouses. My sister would often tell our cousin to help around the house in exchange for free food, free shelter, etc. Sometimes it just takes a single reminder for everyone to help clean up, but it can be frustrating when reminder is being ignored.

Are these your relatives or guests? Just the same, I agree with you that they are a bit inconsiderate, not to mention sloppy eaters :) I think this may have something to do with the way they were brought up. People taught at a young age to clean up after eating almost always do it even when they're staying as guests at other people's homes.

Who are they? Are they adopted ones, your relatives, guests ?

sorry to hear that. maybe that is what thy were used to. maybe you could solve this problem by confronting them. or pointing this out to the owner of the house (that would be your parents, right?) just what giftsandbags is saying, there is no one doing anything about it. your "visitors" in their part do not notice this since they were not used toit. they'd think that there is nothing wrong to what they're doing. so i guess it's up to you to make them realize your point. if after telling them and they just go on the way they used to, well.. then it's up to you too.

Okay that is some serious issue. How can they be so inconsiderate?? Well very bad manners. one should know what to do and not to do when in someone else's house. Tell them to help you if they are going to stay for long because it will affect you later. So try telling them to just give a helping hand in sweeping and washing and other things. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead

Well they don't know what human being is and they are just there to have a mejestic life. Well its not good to blame others maybe we also do the same at others home and be at our mejestic duty.

Are they guests or relatives? I would not consider doing that even in dreams. People should be considerate enough when they are staying in someone else's house. At least they should not burden the house-owner or their hosts with cleaning jobs caused by their inconsiderate messy activities.

You didnt write who this discussion is about. My kids dont even tell me they are done eating they just get up and leave the room I keep trying to teach them good manners hopefully eventually it will sink in. My husband would do the same thing. He was an adult but he could have at least scraped the scraps into the garbage and rinsed his plate off and set it in the sink.

I just can't understand why it happens all the time to many families.So i suppose i'm the deligent one and feel uncomfortable leave this to other people.While just be ourself and find happiness things.

I understand how you feel watching them leaving the table without cleaning up. Maybe it's you who does the cleaning. I experienced that too.

if you love them,just help them to clean the table???if you dont like them,beat them~