Quick Option.
By Erynn14
@Erynn14 (357)
Malaysia
October 3, 2012 1:06am CST
Hey, her I am again. :)
I am a person who use a long time to choose an option for things from people. I takes a long time to choose an answer between just two option sometimes. Which is like, people gave me to option to choose, stay or don't stay. It is actually a relationship problem. We are having exam now and all the period before recess, we have the same exam and after recess time, he have no exam and I have. This happen because we are in different stream. And what happen is, he ask me to choose whether I want him to stay until the time I go back or don't stay and he will go home. It is a hard option for me. Thinking about that if I choose him to stay, he might not be having anything to do during the time when I'm having my exam which is like 2 hours. Probably he will go play basketball, but 2 hours seems to be too long for him to just play basketball. People will tired too, even they always play since they formed a basketball team. For the option on choosing him to not stay back, I feel sad that I won't be able to see him after my exam and have to wait for the second day. Sometimes it was a pain you know. But if I choose to ask him to go home, he will be able to sleep more and play games probably. At least not as boring as it is in school right? So I asked him whether he want to stay or not. Follow his heart. But he said he is okay with both option.
With this situation, I'm thinking on how am I going to be able to choose an option. A very quick option with no regrets. Probably this is because of my lack of self-esteem? But is there any way to improve my choosing option speed, people?
2 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Oct 12
If he asks you what you want you have to decide what YOU want. Not what is the best for him, if he might bored, has nothing to do or no place to go or whatever. You are not responsible for him but for your own life, sake, etc.
He will only respect you if you give your opinion, based on what you really want. Otherwise you will only have fights now and in the future about "nothing". Things you always agreed with because you never took the time (or did find the courage) to say what YOU like or want. I can assure this will only make you more angry or mad. So say what you want for you.
@ScrubJ (126)
• Sri Lanka
3 Oct 12
It's OK friend... don't worry... in this relationships... we all have to take such decisions.. In my opinion.. I suggest you tell him to go home... I know it;s hard.. but it'll be better... for him probably and for you if you need more concentration in exams... always try to focus only on exam while it's on the way... Call him and share your thoughts with him.... after the exam.... tell everything you feel... if the exam is gonna held for some days... tell him to stay 1 or 2 days as he like... Always try to clear your mind... do not be stressful... this is a common prob.. actually I don't have that prob with my girlfriend because our universities are far from each other... so she can't tell me to come.. and I can't visit her though I'd love to... but we share all our thought by a phone call.... Do not worry... Follow your heart now.. after reading this :):)
Good luck !