I was dumped by my boyfriend because of gay.
By bembzee
@bembzee (768)
Philippines
October 3, 2012 3:00am CST
I had this one neighbor friend who is two years older than me. She knocked to my house teary eyed one late afternoon. I let her in while she was murmuring about being dumped by her boyfriend. I'll just try to nod and digest all the broken lines she delivered while sobbing. All the while i thought her boyfriend had another girlfriend. I was really speechless when she faced me and clearly said, "I was dumped by my boyfriend because of a gay." That hit me unarmed.
I don't know how to give an advice into such situation. Any effective advice? She's planning to get even. Please help.
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12 responses
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Oct 12
Hi,
I remembered my younger days when my BF cheated on me with my gay friend, I know my gay friend had a crush on him and I and my BF were just starting the relationship, I hadn't really fallen for him yet and then there is my gay friend who keep on flirting on him. I can't believe my BF actually give in, just because I don't let him go further in the intimate part of our relationship yet. When I found out I thought he was a jerk, so I broke up with him and didn't give him another chance. I know she is still hurting but I think you should tell your friend to just forget about her BF because he might be gay as well. She probably wouldn't want to be stuck with a man like him.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Tell her she's lucky enough to know that earlier, than learning about it when they are already married. that's more difficult because you can't just simply get out of marriage. tell her that she doesn't deserve the guy because his bf might be a gay too... and knowing that his bf is in a relationship with a gay, he might get some STDs and this might be transmitted on her too. So she should be thankful that he was dumped. It's a blessing in disguise... ![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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@marguicha (219883)
• Chile
3 Oct 12
I`m sorry for your friend, but the only thing to do is to move on. It is absurd to spend energy in "getting even". What does that mean? Probably her boyfriend hadn`t realised before that he was gay and did not try to cheat. If anything, she must try to talk with him to have things clear.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hello bembzee,
It was really good for you that you get the chance to listen and just simply nod to this person who is in tears. was there any other reason? I mean she must have done something because i can't conclude if the guy was a real idiot? we have teh right to choose the person who makes us happy the most. but it's really idiotic that he dump you for a gay, when he has YOU for starters. i gotta bad feeling he will be dumped or dump him, there are gays that are two timers too you know![](/Content/images/emotes/devil.gif)
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@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
You neighbor friend needs to move on amidst the turn of events. She needs to focus more on her betterment rather than wasting her time getting things even. Try something divertionary - travel, have fun together, as a friend, learn a hobby, go to school or try to be engage in riveting activites, such as surfing the net, contributing in myLot. Hope she can move on, life's really like that. Thanks
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@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Hello milkyung, it is true, life sometimes can be a really big painful joke. She is very down at the moment and she is out of focus. She's beginning to hate men in particular. I'll take your advice to let her try joining MyLot. It will divert her attention.
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@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
I pity the guy, he doesn't know what she's missing! Dumping your girl for a gay is not a good idea, for me. But we can never know what could be the guy's reasons, right? She should talk to the guy because she deserves an explanation for doing that!
As for the girl, you deserve someone better. Go find yourself someone worthy.
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@shaggin (71909)
• United States
4 Oct 12
Aww that is do sad what your friend is now going through but I dont think there is any way to get even. If he is gay he cant help it. Maybe he thought he liked women and realized he wasent. It is sad if he was confused about his sexuality because now he has hurt her in the process. I would rather be left for another man thrn another girl. I cant compete with another man bebut I woukd feel completely worthless being left for another woman.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Oct 12
hi bembzee whenone is dumped one ios dumped. tell her tpo move on as a gay is not going to want her as a girl friend or heaven help us a wife if anyone ever gets married anymore that is?she certainly deserves a man who will love her as she deserves to be loved so
tell her to move on and date again with men who are not gay.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Oct 12
second thought tell her not to get even she is too good a person for that and she will find a person who will love her for herself.
@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Yes, she deserves a man that can love her and protect her. That is a good idea of being open to dating again. Just move on, and get over it. Life is beautiful to be ruined by such person. He does not worth any of her time. Your advice can be of great help, thanks Hatley.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Oh. What can he get with a gay? Tell your neighbor that she should just move on with her life. If she was dumped then, she has to find a more deserving man. A man who will stay with her forever, for better or for worse. Getting even won't do any good. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
a pleasant day bembzee,
i could hardly think of a right word to say after i have read your post. though your friend's boyfriend perhaps enjoys the company of his gay friend but not the more deeper type of relationship. anyhow, i think it will be best to move on and step forward since it is not worth dwelling on it anymore.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
I think tell your friend better leave him because she doesn't deserve to have a boyfriend like him. If he can leave her for a gay what more for a woman. Keep telling her that there are better men around. Her boyfriend is not the last man in the world.
@lyricmemphis (260)
• United States
3 Oct 12
Tell your friend no need to get even it's better that he told instead of keep going behind her back and being on the downlow..way too many risks. it probably was a hard thing for him to admit to also.
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@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
I keep telling her that. It's kinda dangerous to make enemy with a gay. They can be very aggressive.It's true getting even is very risky since she is vulnerable compare to a gay. Gay is still a man figure and she can't win over them besides that's too scandalous.
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