Girls Secretly Hate Each Other - True or False?
By hopefoo
@hopefoo (1145)
Malaysia
October 3, 2012 5:36am CST
Recently, I've been hanging out with a group of friends. Most of them are older than I am. Actually, all of them are older than I am. They consist of couples mostly, friends with their wives. In the group, I'm the only single person. The rest of them are all married and/or divorced.
So lately, I've been getting really weird vibes from the group. A little bit of background first, I've always been a strong advocator when it comes to "not speaking your mind too much" (except on mylot cause it pays) and "staying out of it all" so I personally don't think I've offended them in any way by speaking my mind.
I also try not to hang out with them too much, because groups can tend to have it's own dynamics and i believe that by hanging out too much with the same people, conflicts are sure to arise..somehow.
Recently, I went out with them 2 nights in a row and have been given the cold shoulder by mostly the women folk. I'm not sure if the topic above is appropriate..but that's my story. What do you think?
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11 responses
@bdfreelancer (518)
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3 Oct 12
I agree with you to some extents that girls hate each other, specially when they suffer from inferiority or superiority complexes. If you are in a company of women, some of them might not like you simply because they find you not interesting even though if you are a very agreeable and pleasant person. Some girls will never like other girls because they will always find faults with them. It is better to not give attention to these kinds of girls who are filled with hatred.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
I don't think the girls secretly hate each other. But I do believe that there are people who hate you even if you didn't do anything. They just hate the way you are and everything about you. So if you keep on thinking about it then you'd sure live life full of negativity.
As long as you're sure you didn't step on anyone's toes, then it should be fine.
Perhaps the main reason why you thought they hate you or gave you the cold shoulder is because you haven't hung around them that much before and they can't share anything with you because you seemed "detached" from the group. You know how 'groupies' are.
I think there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. I'm doing the same with my part time job, I am not associating too much with these people. I believe that mystery keeps them fascinated about me and keeps me off the circle of idle people.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 12
laydee, you're probably right. I do try to detach a bit, not because i think i'm better but like you said, you know how groupies are. I wish I could say that I could spend more time with them but lately with work..and trying to earn the extra income from my sites and this..there's just not a lot of time.
thanks for your feedback!
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
4 Oct 12
People will just hate you especially when you have a mind of your own .
I experience this also , I normally have a group of girl friends and we have sub division in that group . I am always speaking my mind and I dont mind if people dont like it. They probably dont like you because they see you are not their puppet .
I dont think its necessary a girl hate but just people personality clashes and ego .
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Maybe you just don't have common things to talk about. Your question maybe true or maybe false. For me it maybe true to some specially those who are competing with each other. Most common are women in the office, there are those who happened to compete with some of her officemate. There is that kind of person who thinks that she is superior and does not want others to overpower her. But in our division, there is no competition, so your question might be false. Maybe it depends upon the kind of persons.
@Shazooo (296)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 12
i don't think girls secretly hate each other, some are just probably jealous or they envy you. And sometimes, they may also look down on you if they, but I don't really think many girls secretly hate each other. Perhaps its the age gap ( you mentioned that they are older than you) that makes it weird or awkward to talk to them? I've been into situation like that before...it is truly awkward and uncomfortable. But that just how it is.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
3 Oct 12
i certainly agree with that fact and is exactly correct and its the wonderful fact,they cant hide it for longer time thought,their inner emotions
@Ivy_Bubbles (169)
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4 Oct 12
I guess girls do have the tendency to outdo each other, it is somehow normal. There are always issues around girls. I'm not sure if it is really in our nature. That is why we need to be confident and understanding to avoid conflicts among us girls.
@carloscourtney (17)
• United States
3 Oct 12
well from my personal experience, i think that when certain women get together, it always ends up in any of the following : gossip, backstabbing, and competition. This is all normal because this is what people do, i wouldnt take it to heart, and my advice to you is just dont worry about it. If anything confront them calmly and ask them whats wrong, the worst thing to do is to go about it discreetly. If they are your true friends, they shouldnt have a problem with your sharing your feelings.
