To Friend Or Not To Friend....That Is The Question....

Why don't you just ask him, that way there is less chance of your attention being misunderstood. Tech is good but I still think face to face is best.

Do what feels right....if you think you are ready to friend him then go for it....you don't have anything to lose right?

Hello dear. Yes, seeing how many friends he has, one more would probably be indifferent to him in the sense that his is very likely to accept your request. However, maybe if you talk again you can even mention it as a side note that you'd like to add him on facebook so... you can talk online sometimes ? I think it would me more worthy for a future relationship (either of friendship or otherwise) to do so in person. But if you are too shy about this, just go ahead and try adding him directly online and that's that.

Is he someone you can relate to well? Does he have what you need and want in a man? What does he have to offer you? Do you like him as a person or are you attracted to him as a man? Let him come to you. How many of those 800 friends are women, family, or what? If alot of them are women he could be a player. Why is he at church? Is he really there for God or ...? I would learn something about him and see if he is worth getting to know. Do you know what you want and need in a man? Does he meet all of this? Do you have anything in common with him or just attraction? Does he seem interested in you as a person or just as a woman? Do you want to get hurt again? I would play hard to get. Be nice but not overly so. Let him do the persuing. Only if you think he is worthwhile and has items you need and want in a man.

How often have you communicated since then? If you have built a good friendship even for just a short time, I think it is okay. Otherwise, wait for a more appropriate time to add him up on Facebook.

Hi singlemommy, I do not see anything wrong with you adding him on facebook since you were already introduced formally and both of you are in the same church now.You would always see him there,right?Do you think all his 800 friends are close friends of his?I guess another friend would not hurt:)

Tr sending him a personal message first, to see if that will get the two of you talking.

give it a try, why not, at this point you don't have anything to lose.

I don't think it's a big deal at all to friend him. I doubt he would think a thing about it.

I would actually wait to send a friend request. Talk to him a bit more in church and see how that goes. If everything looks good, then ask him if he is on Facebook (I know you know that he is, but this way you don't look like you've already been in his information) If he says yes, ask him to send you a friend request. This way this will progress naturally, and not seem like you are crowding or stalking him, as you put it. Plus, after talking to him one on one for a couple of Sundays, you may not want to be friends with him after all lol