Cheating Hearts

I would like to know it as well, but I would also find out if it's true what is said since there are also people who claim to see things that are not true. Envy is a nasty thing to deal with. I think there is no need to cheat. If you feel unhappy or not satisfied with your partner, if you don't feel the need to work it out or this is not possible just end the relationship. This way there is no need to cheat.

Oh yes, I would want them to tell me. I understand it puts the friend in a bad position, but you can't just let something like that go. Of course I'd make sure I knew for certain it was going on. I mean if I just had suspicions I'd make sure they were absolute. But I'd want to know.

If my partner was cheating on me, then I would absolutely want to know about it. Although it might hurt me at the time, it would be much better to be able to get out of a relationship with somebody who didn't appreciate me. It would be very hard for my friends to break my heart, but I would much prefer for them to do that than just let me get on with it, as there would be nothing good at all about that. Making such decisions is never easy, but it is just something that has to be done at times, and there isn't all that much choice in the matter.

I agree, I prefer my friends to tell me the truth than hide it from me. They say that, hiding the truth is better than hurting the one they love- but for me it's the other way round. I would rather hear the truth than to comfort me with a lie.

I think true friend should be a friend to you no matter whar theh circumstances a=may bring, If my hausband or signiificant other was cheating on our reklationshp and a friend could clue me in on what was happening, I would be ewually as hurt if that friend did keep it a secret from me.

yes, i would want someone or a friend to tell me the truth, it would hurt but it's for the better. if i find out the truth someone is cheating on me, it is better to end and stop the relationship, because the trust has been broken it is hard to take and gain it back, also if the person really loves us and cares for us why would they lie and hurt us this way? i believe it is crazy to continue and stay in this kind of relationship, although it may hurt if we truly love and care about the person but they don't feel the same way about true commitment to us, then we will only continue to suffer so it is better to let go and move on, find someone better and who is truly committed and loving us, to make us happy.

Well I think in that case I would and wouldn't want to know if that makes sense. Finding out would of course kill me initially but in the long run it is better to find out so you can move on with your life and start the healing process. Of course at first it is going to hurt like crazy though.

i AGREE W/YOU. A good friend should tell u something like that if she was sure it was true.

Few years back, I had a talk with a close friend of my husband. I told him, if ever he knows anything about my husband doing some "other" business, I asked him not to tell me about it coz I just might not be able to handle it well. But now, I think I am brave enough to know everything about it, (if there is, but i hope there is none ) Then I'll have the reason to torture him emotionally!

I agree with you. I think that if they really care about me, they would definitely tell me what's going on. I can't imagine a friend who would just let me be in the dark even though she already knew about it.

Of course. I would rather hear it from them than someone else, and I will be sorely upset and disappointed if I learned that they know of this and yet they didn't say anything to me. I would do the same for them if I am certain that they're being cheated on, so I expect the same courtesy from my friends. That's what friends would do.

Cheating should be known by the person who is being cheated. You're right that the person who is being cheated should let go. It is just a worthless relationship...

It was a brilliant idea, i agree with you my dear friend, because cheating in a relationship is not good specially when you have already a family. The thought is you are not comfortable if your husband is out of your house, and late at night when he came home. You are always thinking if where did he go and where did he spend his night. But if you have a good friend who knows everything with your husband. You would really need to know for your own awareness, because it can affect your children and im very much sad if it will came to the point that you need to separate or divorce.

I truly supports your words. Cheating is a big crime. And supporting the cheater is also a big crime. Everyone should support the truth.