I want to have good life for my kid
By gem3072001
@gem3072001 (92)
Philippines
3 responses
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 12
Hey, gem :) Rather vague, but sounds like you want the complete opposite to your own life for your kid. So I guess, whatever you did or happened in your life to give you the life you have, just make sure you do not do or lets happen now in your kid's life. For example, if your life turned out the way it did because of a decision your parents made and you were suffering because of it, then you make sure you do not do what your parents did. Or make better decisions. Think about how you want your kid to live in the future, keeping in mind you want what's best for them, and maybe base your decisions on this. All the best to you :)
@gem3072001 (92)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Ive been too good to my own family...I never disobey them...I dont want to turned all my sufferings and unhappines to them but I think from were I now is because Im too good for them. I never gave them headaches. When Im starting to grow up people always compare me with my sister beause she's alot prettier than me. I want to go out and exceed what she got ...she got naughty husband I got a kind one....finding all the opposite until i find out that Im not happy now...competing with her I think I never had agood life ...I never find my own life , my life is just a patter of her life now...
@gem3072001 (92)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
It seems ur like an eye opener to me....thank u very much....I was thinking for all of that...I just dont know where to begin..For now web is my best friend where I can shout for my emotions...release my tensions ...Im afraid that without my knowledge I'm very lost and cannot control my self anymore. Again this site really help me alot...and thanks
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 12
That does sound like you had it rough, what with competing with your sister while trying to please your family, on top of other things you didn't mention. It did not give you complete opportunity to be yourself, or forge a path you could have followed to at least have a content life. It was like the real you had to make a sacrifice and took a back seat, thus now she is completely suffocated. If you're interested in making things better for yourself, I believe it's not too late. Just do what you feel like doing, so long as it doesn't hurt your family (I mean your current family, consisting of your spouse and kids; not your old family). Bearing in mind though that you are responsible for your own family now, and whatever decisions you make will affect them, whether for good or bad. Make sure your own kid is not put in the position you were in many years ago; and how you do that would be up to your own parenting skills ;) Sorry if I seem like I'm telling you how to be a parent, my intention is to maybe give you some good suggestions. All the best :)
@mortysmadhouse (226)
• Australia
5 Oct 12
Then you need to start making the changes necessary to ensure your child does have a life that you have envisioned. Sounds harsh, I know, but it's true ;) Start by making a list of what you perceive to be wrong and why it is wrong. Then go through the list again, writing hw you can improve that wrong. It's a slow process to bring about major change but it is worth it ;)
I am a Mum (& full time Carer) f two boys who both have autism, an intellectual disability of the senses. They are both at opposite ends of the spectrum. Life seemed too much and society wrong to me when they were diagnosed five years ago. Instead of letting everything get on top of me, I got to and made the changes necessary so that both boys could get to Mainstream Schooling with very little support. It was difficult but worth it ;)
To quote Dr Phil "Your children are your greatest assets; make them shine" .
@gem3072001 (92)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
All that I want to do was just in mind...I dont know were to start....I want to have an additional income but I cant find one...I sometimes feel numb and pretending not affected ...
@GemmaR (8517)
•
5 Oct 12
It is very normal to want a good life for your child, and the first thing that you need to think about is the reason that your life isn't as good as you might have thought that it was going to be. You should try to start saving money on daily things so that you can then put it aside for the future then your child can have a good life. I am already saving up for the future of my children, and I don't even have them yet. One of the things that I want to do is to be able to send them to a private school as the other ones in my area aren't that great.
