Am I the only one that finds this messed up?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
October 5, 2012 3:20pm CST
http://www.9wsyr.com/news/local/story/Court-documents-detail-alleged-neglect-of-toddler/NDHDHThr2U-NtLVKiFe7KA.cspx
This is the story of a young woman who left her 3 year old child locked in a filthy room for 22 hours a day everyday. She'd only let him out to eat one meal a day, so she says, but investigators only found candy and cheetos in her home. From what I can tell of the article, the mom doesn't seem to realize that what she did was wrong. The article says she never wanted the child, probably doesn't love him, and the same thing had basically been done to her as a child.
I don't understand this.. how can anyone in today's society think this sort of treatment is okay? I don't care if she didn't want or love the child.. he's still a little person with thoughts, feelings, and needs! He's not a doll that can be put away and not played with when you don't want to! If you don't want to care for him.. give him to someone who will.. it's that simple. Why would anyone think it's okay to lock him up in a room all the time and ignore his screams and cries?
Now, if that's not disturbing enough, she's being charged with a misdemeanor!! And her bail is set at $5,000! Um.. really, child neglect is only a misdemeanor? Is there something wrong with this picture?
Then, add to that, the article also stated that people had been to her apartment and heard the kid screaming and banging in the room and the mom ignored him.. and this is being used in court against her.
Why aren't these people being charged also? They were there to witness the neglect and abuse, and didn't do or say anything, but that's okay?? I think if I ever visited a friend who had a child.. but I never saw the child because it was in it's room.. and the child was yelling and banging on the walls and mom never went to check to see if he was okay, I'd probably worry and call the authorities to make sure the child was okay.
Perhaps if someone had done that, this boy could have been saved months ago, or possibly even years instead of living in these conditions for 3 years.
People like this sicken me!
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13 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Oct 12
What has "today's society" has to do with it? Was it, to your opinion more allowed 10 or 20, 50 or 100 years ago? Sorry but this beats me. There always been parents like this. There are plenty of books written about it, kids been locked up. I can assure you nothing has changed. My mother did exactly the same and in 50 or 100 years there will be still parents who do this. Kids locked up, eating their own hair or dying in a closet.
The only difference is people blame a mother way more (no matter if she wants a kid, can handle it or not) as they will ever blame a father. Ofcourse all the neighbours and other relatives will say they did not know. Same with teachers, doctors etc. I even find this more disgusting. I also can't stand people who say a child is a god's gift to those who don't want or are not able to take care of a child and are pregnant. This way forcing someone to keep it and take care of it. Yes a baby is seen like that but if it grows older nobody will say that anymore. I think if someone knows him-/herself that well society should not force in name of a god or ... to keep it. Not to have an abortion. Since a child is not something you only need to take care of for a day, a week or perhaps 2-3 years. These are the kind of people who sicken me! Same with all those organisations who claim they will help. Who collect a lot of money but in reality they are not interested at all. They don't knock on doors of people who need the help the most, they let themselves be fooled, don't take advices seriously and prefer to keep their eyes closed if it comes to it.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
6 Oct 12
There are far too many options that were available to this mother. Bottom line, if she did not want the child, adoption is there. There are a ton of people that would love to care for that child. It hurts the heart to imagine a child being treated so badly.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Oct 12
This is why I avoid the news, because I hate the depression and the fear I feel after hearing of stories like this.. because I know it's not the only story of this kind.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Oct 12
THEY DO ME TO. She should be put in the same situation for the rest of her life. She & all her friends that came & heard that should all be locked up. I have never understood how ANYONE could mistreat a child. They are sick in the head as far as i'm concerned. Happy weekend to u.
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
6 Oct 12
This is so sick. It is hard to believe that her roommates and the numerous people coming and going in and out of the apartment on a daily basis did not do anything to help this child. I think they should all be charged as well as the mother. I hope she does not get out on bond. Would serve her right to stay in jail the rest of her life. Poor kid. I hope someone helps him and that he can recover from this terrible neglect and abuse!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Yes, aren't the roommates and visitors just as guilty as she for not helping the child? Just sick!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Hey, I will admit that my house is a wreck. However, the reason that my house is a wreck is because of the fact that I have a tendency of letting things in the house slide so that I can spend more quality time with the children. However, there is no one that I meet that doesn't realize that I have two children and know that it is my children that come first in my life.
As far as this being a misdemeanor, I think that it is wrong. Child abuse should be a felony in my opinion because of the fact that children's lives are molded by those things that they experience during their childhood and a child that is abused as a child is very likely to abuse children in the future.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
11 Oct 12
There's a big difference between a messy house and the filthy conditions this boy was in. The article said his room and everything in it (including himself) was covered with urine and feces. He wasn't allowed to leave the room so where else was he going to go?
Now I may skip vacuuming and sweeping, and may not have mopped in awhile.. but when my 4 year old has an accident in his pants (which has been happening lately) I clean it up immediately. He had an accident in his bed recently.. and it was cleaned up.
The cereal the kids spilled this morning that is still on the floor isn't going to hurt anyone.. but my son sleeping in soiled linens is not healthy and I won't let that happen.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
17 Oct 12
This gave me a sickening feeling.
I have a six year old, and ever since he could walk and talk he's been delighting me with all his sense of discovery. He'd learn something new everyday, and it gives me great joy to see how excited he is when given the stimulus to learn.
So, it is sad to know that this child in your post had nothing whatsoever. No food, bathroom, no love, no mother.
And the $5000 misdemeanor?! That sickens me too!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Oct 12
I'm sorry I didn't mean to give you a sick feeling. I get that feeling too when I hear stories like this, that is why I generally avoid the news these days because that's all it seems to be is terrible stories of abuse. I couldn't avoid this one as a co-worker was talking about it so I had to get more information because I couldn't believe what she was telling me such as the fact that the bail was so low, she wasn't being charged with a felony, and other people had known about it and did nothing!
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 12
This is really sickening. I totally have no idea how a human being can do that, not saying to her own child, even to other young children or any adult, I don't think a human with love can do such things. As you said, if the mother doesn't want the child, I'd prefer she send the child to some orphanage or someone who will take care of the child rather than torture him.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Oct 12
That is so sad.....we had a couple (she is a nurse) that were chaining their kids to a bed and starving them... The kids got taken away however and they were charged and went to jail for a while....now they just tried to regain custody? Thankfully the court said.....NO WAY!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Oct 12
I think they need a new law where a person convicted of child abuse in any way is surgically sterilized so they can never have other children in the future, and of course never regain custody of previous children!
@Keola12 (823)
• United States
6 Oct 12
I agree with you. It is messed up. That mother belongs in jail for child abuse. If she didn't want the child, then why would she have conceived the child in the first place. I truely believe that all children are blessings. If she didn't want the child, then she should have given it up for adoption so the child could be with loving parents who actually wanted and adored children.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 Oct 12
This is so horrible. The mother is sensible to realise thatit was done to her and now it is payback for her to do it to her son? this is so sick as she well knows that her actions were wrong. This little boy may neds years of therapy to learn to love and trust someone in life. I hope tht the ook is thrown at her and those who did not speak in behalf of the child face prosecution too. This women is human?
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Oct 12
I know! Knowing what it's like because it was done to her should make her even more against doing it to someone else! I had terrible things done to me as a child, so I knew without a doubt those things wouldn't happen to my children!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
5 Oct 12
It certainly is messed up. I'm sad that there are so many people that are not humanely able to have children, they are evil or immature but even the immature ones wouldn't do things like this if they had compassion so they got be evil and empty. A child is just so defenseless, so before leaving the kid alone why not at least to wait this child to grow up enough to not be in danger of actually.. I don't know, dying?
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
6 Oct 12
you should not feel like that,sometimes you might feel like that but misdemeanour might make you feel ,try tog et over it an child will be fine ,its just a matter of time
@lisasarah123 (93)
•
7 Oct 12
this is just horrible i dont like people like this either if the mother has done this then she should never have children ever again feel so sorry for the poor children hope she has them taken off her for good nasty lady
