When was the Last Time You Asked Anyone to Tell a Lie For You?
By theSids
@thesids (22180)
Bhubaneswar, India
October 6, 2012 12:37am CST
Hi friends and lotters
Of the many things which is common to all of us is We all have told lies. No denying on this. If you did, you would be telling a lie.
Last day I was at home with parents and brother's family. Brother's cell phone rang up, the 8 year nephew picked up the phone and when he said who the caller was, brother told him to tell the caller that he was in the shower and would call him back in about 30 minutes... Hmmm something almost all of us did sometime or the other, right?
This is what caught me. Though we may never want to say a lie, but we all are asked to do so at some point of time, maybe by anyone, due to any reasons and worst of it - though we dont want ourself to lie, we ask someone else to do it for us.
So what is your story here? C'mon, this is a chance to get honest for sure as it is not anything which only you do... we all did it sometime or the other.
Have a great weekend
cheers,
theSids.
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16 responses
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
6 Oct 12
Hi Sid
Sometimes back ( i dont' remember the day/date & time) i told a lie to a friend and that lie made her smile. I also started a discussion after that event and all my friends/ members of mylot advised me so kindly to follow 'honesty' and not to depend / say lie to anyone.
so.... i don't like to lie anymore.... do u feel i'm telling a lie here?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Oct 12
hi viju
I very well remember that discussion and also my response on it and I still would go with it not because it was a documented response but because I believe in that response completely. Anything for a smile as long as it doesnt hurt others and is between you two.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
6 Oct 12
Sid,
I very well remember your response too and i appreciate your beliefs.
ok, see if don't want to tell a lie, i can't lie. But if someone else asks me to tell a lie and if i lie, it is a lie only. right? Like in your discussion, instead of your nephew, if you picked the call and your brother asks you to do the same, you had two choices there - without giving the reason that he's in shower, you can straightly tell the caller he'll call back after 30 min. right? Or you would lie/ support the call with a lie there?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Hi Bhai!
I have told small lies to get out of being delayed.What I can remember I must have had my mom tell someone I was ill when I just didn't want to go somewhere. But that was at least 30 years ago or more. Sorry to be so vague. These days I am so truthful but kind at the same time. If I don't want to go, I say I can't. I have something else to do. the person doesn't need to know the other thing is watching t.v. like any other night!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Oct 12
Hi behen
I believe it a kind of circle in life. When we are so young as my nephew we are asked to tell lies (just like the one his dad asked him to do) and then, as we grow up we do realize and feel that we should not be lying but then circumstances and situations at times force us to ask others to help(like my brother asking his son to lie for him, I remember we often had to lie on our dad's behalf)
But personally, I dont prefer lying these days and try to be as honest as I can.
Oh yes, I have a couple of emails to respond to today
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 12
Virtually every day! If I am to be 100% honest here, mainly because of the relationship I have with my parents, I get on well with my mum but not my dad and my dad doesn't know anything that I do, apart from going to the gym. You see I suffer with depression and I see a therapist once a week, mum tells dad that I am off to the gym so she happily lies for me, because she knows that dad doesn't understand me and he doesn't think depression exists and no son of his would ever have mental issues! I guess it's a lie, but a white lie, what he doesn't know won't hurt him. It's comical really because I do go to the gym 3 times a week, but to my dad he thinks I go nearly every day!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Oct 12
Hi wolfie
Moms... they are the best friends and can go to any extent to save their kids. I admire you and mom. I have a couple of moms sharing their experiences on this discussion here and the story is almost similar when it comes to their children...
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 12
I can say I tell lie all the time...lol
like when my daughter does not want to eat her food, I said, " come on just two spoon please.."
But after she eat two spoon, I feed her again and again and I said to her to eat one more time..
So i try to not involve anyone to do this kind of sin..
let me take the consequence..just me
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Oct 12
Hi ifa
Moms can never commit sins this way and they are exempt from this word "sin" as long as they do it for the good of their child and this is what you are doing.
And by the way, it is not a lie. It is just not telling the daughter how many two spoonfuls would be give
@shreed_14 (460)
• India
7 Oct 12
Hi there.
Well I do that very often. What I do is ask my mom to say I am not at home when I get an unwanted call.
But the most recent is my asking my friend to tell my lecturer that I hurt myself and had to go see a doctor and hence couldn't attend the lecture. The truth is, I did go to the doctor but with my sister as she was unwell.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
I really cannot remember when, but how only , sids.
Whenever my daughter would buy a shirt or something which she would ask from me for money, i would tell her not to tell her father how much it actually costs . That's because my daughter always want a shirt that is branded and that costs more than the ordinary shirt.
So that her father wouldn't say when he asked her " That is so expensive" , i would ask her to just say that it's just like this low .
It's a lie but it's a white lie so they say.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Oct 12
Hi SimplyD
This is what my dearest cousin sister does. She always gets the best for her so cute and young daughter (4 years) and when her hubby asks for the price she says slashing the prices to half
I once asked her how does she manage as she is a housewife and doesnt earn, she revealed that she saves some money from her hubby's wallet and also from the other expenses at the grocery
Maybe a lie, but I see a good reason behind it...
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
Good for her that even if she is a plain housewife she manages to stash away some money for her daughter.
As for me, it will always come from my salary, so i have to lower it , just so that my husband will not know that i have lots of extra money.
Now you know the reason for the lie.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
28 Oct 12
Hi thesids
I tell my fiance to answer my phone and tell a annoying caller I was not available sometime last month . I tell my fiance to tell the person I was am not home . I agree with you , I think we all do this at times .
I also do this for my guy and my friends whenever they ask . People will just ring and ring for hours .
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
6 Oct 12
I agree with you, thesids, about telling lies. But I don`t remember exactly when was the last time I asked someone to tell one. Probably not so long ago. Sometimes white lies are told even out of love.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Oct 12
Dear Marguicha
Of course dear. Many of the lies which I tell these days are only out of love and some are due to my goal - of making at least one face smile a day
World would be difficult and boring if we didnt have some of these lies to tell...
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
11 Oct 12
LOL! Yes, I have been in situations where I didn't want to talk with someone on the phone, so I didn't answer the phone and yet someone else in the house did. I teach my children not to lie, so I definitely would not tell them to lie for me. Instead, I would immediately busy myself with something, such as washing the dishes or vacuuming or doing laundry, and ask them to say that I am in the middle of something and will call the person back later. It not only keeps them from lying for me but also makes me accomplish something that I probably should be doing anyway.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
I just asked my friend to lie for me this morning. I was running late in a lunch that we set up with a few of our friends. It was entirely my fault because I woke up pretty late so I ask her to vouch for me. I don't know what she told our friends but I guess it worked because none of them seems pissed off that I delayed their lunch.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Oct 12
Hi tessa
Aw! I do this almost everyday You see, I wake up late then do things to patch up and best is to blame it on anything.
I must also say that you have a good set of friends who understand the reasons and dont make a fuss when you arrive late for lunch
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
Oh well,memory loss is rising up for me again here,lol! Ah yes! Now I remember,I told my nephew to tell Crystal that the medicine she is about to drink has a good taste and that he(nephew)had tasted it before,to encourage her to drink it,lol! But yes,she did,only it stayed too long inside her mouth before swallowing it,waaa!!!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Oct 12
Hi mtr
I remember that was a discussion which I missed from you - when Crystal was ill and you had asked lotters to share how to get her take the tonics and medicines. But this is the way my mom too handled the situation years back when I was ill with some fever and those tablets and tonics were so very distasteful. Personally, I do believe that a lie for someone's good is not considered a lie
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 12
I cannot recall when is the last time I asked someone to tell a lie for me. Most of the time I would only ask friends to keep some secret for me. I do not suppose that keeping secret is telling lie. Anyhow, I am sure that I told my friend to lie for me before. Just that I cannot seems to recall it for the moment. Most probably they are white lies which were aiming at doing good.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
I can't remember when was the last time I asked someone to tell a lie for me. But it just usually happens when I have to make an excuse to my parents because they were very strict over me so that I have to tell a lie for me to experience and enjoy my life somehow. :)
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
Hi, sids...
When was the last time?
I can't remember, they're so many!
But most of them are of course, white lies.
Lie to cover up for something good.
Like the one you mentioned, telling you're not there just because you don't want to talk to the person or you're maybe busy.
Thanks for asking.
I am thinking of minimizing it right now.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Yes we all lie in our lives. Whatever the reason the lying is always worse. We sometimes lie to keep from hurting or offending but when they find out it is worse than if we'd done that first. Well it is a flaw of our human race but we can get passed it sometimes.
I don't like to ask oth ers to lie for me very often but the last time was my sister. I had asked her to not tell someone i had gone to see someon eelse. it is a long story but i will leave it at that. I hope I won 't ask anyone else to lie for me.