Who should lead a relationship?
@tinetine161992 (431)
Philippines
October 6, 2012 8:31am CST
Who should control a relationship? I believe that it's a give and take. Both should make uneffort to make last but still like a team sport or driving a plane or bus their should be a leader or a pilot. Somehow lead the relationship for better. Some says guy should lead because they are the man and stronger. While woman believe they should be the one, why? They are more patience and good in managing things. I think woman should lead the relationship why? They have more stronger in terms of temptations that may lead to a broken relationship. Its just my opinion how about you?
6 responses
@MsControversy (446)
• United States
6 Oct 12
I agree with beamer on this one. There should not be a leader, but there is a role that each plays within the relationship. The man is the strong-arm of the relationship. He is the protector and the provider. The woman is the nurturing one. She is the caregiver and she is submissive. But don't get confused in thinking that submissive woman is a weak one. A submissive woman will carry the weight of the family on her back and her man not even know about it. A submissive woman knows how to make her man feel like a man without giving him too much power. The bottom line is that there should be no "leader" in a relationship, but the two parties do have a roll to play. That's where a lot of relationships have their turmoil, you can't have two dominate people in a relationship, because all they will do is fight. You can't have two submissive people in a relationship because nothing would ever get resolved. Your partner has to balance you out and be everything that you're not and vice versa.
@Mellamoameera21 (6)
• United States
6 Oct 12
The man should be the leader/the head of the relationship. Men were created to be the leader, the provider, the defender, and the protector. Sure, in a relationship, it is suppose to equal. But, when it is all said and done, the man is suppose to be the head. We as women make decisions with our emotions; whereas, men make decisions with their heads. The man is the dominant figure of the relationship, so therefore, he should be the leader.
@MsControversy (446)
• United States
6 Oct 12
As it was stated, there should not be a "leader" because in turn there would be a follower. I don't believe nor do I care about why men were created. This is 2012, not 1955. Men should not make all the decisions. Relationships are about compromise. You need to agree on the decisions. Your husband is not your father, he is your partner. Partner means equal. Like I said, there is no leader. Only a role that you play.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
I see your point on this matter. But I still feel that there shouldn't be a leader since if there's a leader, there would be a follower, and in any modern relationship, there shouldn't be neither one. It's a mutually run partnership with things divided between the two. One may do more things than the other out of necessity for example, but it doesn't mean he or she is the leader. Well, this is my opinion. 
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
6 Oct 12
thats not the point here,the crux of the issue will be the male who has to lead for a great and prosperous relationship forever ideally in some cases
@sarah77yuan (81)
• Sweden
7 Oct 12
it all depends. some men may be more temptate than women. in my opinion, someone who is really powful and have the ability to do some thing beautifully with wisdom and grace, then he will be the nice person to control a relationship
@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
No one is to lead. But a woman handles the relation all to well compared to men. Most women are dedicated and focus in a relation while men can be easily tempted and divert their attention in so may things. Controlling a partner will do no good into a relation. It is a matter of give and take.
