thinking of my sis
By eiram23
@eiram23 (421)
Philippines
October 7, 2012 5:16am CST
It's been quite a long time now since i had a chance to talk to my sister. It's bee quite sometime as well since the last time i heard something about her. she has been into a lot of issues.. Issues which technically weren't really suppose to be big issues. I feel affected with all those unkind words she received. It could have been acceptable if it was my mom or my dad who is scolding her, telling her all those unacceptable things. But they were not. The sad part is they pretend they care but they really don't. They are taking advantage of their superiority. It could have been better if they did not compare. No one wants to be compared right? Especially if all your life you have been proving yourself. My sister has been a consistent scholar. An active student leader. When at home she do the obligations she is assigned to do so. She already sacrificed a lot. And im so proud of her. But why some seems not contented with all those pains she've been to. Why it seems she is not worthto taste a bit of happiness? Is it wrong to be happy. Are we not born with our rights? . btWe have the right to be free, to discover and to choose right? I know we have limitations though but don't we deserve also to be given the chance to prove ourselves? Don't we deserve to be trusted as well? If you will be my sister will you not get hurt if you will always be compared and doubted even with the fact that you have proven yourself? You will right? But then you can't do anything because you need to comply with their rotten house rules! Life sometimes seems unfair. But then at the end of the day i always tell her, " stay strong my sis all your sacrifices will soon be paid off. Use all those inconvenience you are going through as your source of strengt,. treat them as trials to surpass to meet success." And im pretty sure she wilj be able to achieve her dreams and the moment it will come true she can stand up high and will say i did it..I so miss my sister..
6 responses
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 12
I feel sad reading your sis story. I think not many people can stand the situation she face right now cause not everyone the strength when people put us down all the times. Comparing between two people actually good in sense to develop and motivating, but, putting down someone after comparison is not a good idea. Usually parent will do this to their children so that the worse can take example of the good one, but, outsiders like uncle or anybody, should make that as it will demoralise the children.
Well, I hope your sis can sustain the pressure and psycho they put on her.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 12
I see so your sis staying in the boarding school. If that the case, the warden or the caretaker maybe wants your sis to take the challenge to be the best. I believe she/he must doing that as to provoke your sis to take the challenge to be the best amongst the students there. She/he wants your sis to prove that she's the best in terms of education and responsible in that boarding school. I suggest you to tell your sis that is just a matter that someone knows her potential and wants her to prevail it.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 12
I see so your sis staying in the boarding school. If that the case, the warden or the caretaker maybe wants your sis to take the challenge to be the best. I believe she/he must doing that as to provoke your sis to take the challenge to be the best amongst the students there. She/he wants your sis to prove that she's the best in terms of education and responsible in that boarding school. I suggest you to tell your sis that is just a matter that someone knows her potential and wants her to prevail it.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Thank you for that. As sad as i was upon hearing her crying while she was sharing what's goin on with her. by the way it isnt our parents actually who is comapring her to someone else but other people and the sad part is that when she is being compared she is always put down and the worst she is not receiving any recognition when she did something good. It's definitely unhealthy . I mean its hard for her especially if you will to consider how she grew up. But then again, im still hap[py knowing that she is very strong. And i believe she can do it:)
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Hi there, marie...
Where is your sister?
Maybe you should be with her in those kind of times that brings her down.
People are really not contented with the bad things they do. Some always take for granted the kindness of others. So there must be another person guiding her away from those bad people.
Welcome to mylot! 
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
thank you so much adnileb. i surely will. we communicate actually though not really often because she is very busy now especially she is a graduating student and at the same time i am busy as well with my own career but of course we still have time to see and talk to each other.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Hi.. How i wish i will be there. But it will not be possible. We live separately due to my work and her schooling. You're right we can't avoid that to our daily lives. Even how much you wanted everything to be alright some people just won't let you. But I know she's a strong lady. And i really admire her for that.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Wow, how i wish you are my sister. you are so very supportive. as the saying goes" we cannot please everyone" even though its our family member. if i may ask, did your sister has done anything bad that leads your parents to be as strict as that? but i don't think so she has done something since you told us that she is a scholar of her school.i agree with you, sometimes the world is so unfair. but we just to wait, we just to be patient. if this is not your time, I'm sure later on you will shine. I pity sister but i can say that I'm proud of her because even she receives treatment like that, she doesn't change. she still do her responsibility as a student, a daughter and a sister.you can probably invite her here so can release all the emotions that she has inside, just like you, mylot is now your outlet to share your opinions, ideas and point of view on the different topics here. i hope you are glad that you find this site.as i told you, ive been here for four years and never found the site boring. this serve as my outlet whenever i am lonely and whenever i am emotionally sick or if i have achievements. never be shy or afraid to ask us if you have some concerns. I'm looking forward for a beteter treatment to your sister coming from your parents. she deserves it.just ask her to pray.
-rberon1985
-rberon1985@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Sorry, i thought it was your parents, who were very strict with her. the best solution on her problem is to look for another boarding house. it is hard to stay in a place where you are not happy or not comforatable. it will affect her daily living if she continues to stay there.can you not adopt her, i mean since you are not living with her, can you let her stay in your space? and just ask her to help you in the household chores? or if not help her to find a new boarding house for her own betterment.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
It's okay:). well as much as I want to but we are living like miles miles away.. Staying into another boarding house was actually one of her decisions. But then choosing that decision will affect not only hers but the whole fsmily. How i wish i could tell it detailed but some informations are so sensitive. But basically getting out of that place is not an option. It will only create gaps between families and we don't want that t happen. How I wish everything just fine. But then again, like I always tell her everything will pass. She've been through a lot and she is still striving hard. I know she can do it. I mean I might not be there physically but She knows Im just on her back continuously supporting her with her dreams. It's just a matter of say few months now. after that she can freely decide what she wants and she will no longer be obloged to follow those rules she has to follow for now:)
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@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
you know what, im planning actually. she was the first person i had in mind when i heard about this. she is as emotional as i am and we both have the same outlet of bursting our emotions and its through writing. oh by the way it isnt our parents who are being strict to her. the caretaker of the house where she currently live. though they seem to be like family to us.. as a matter of fact they treated me as their daughter when i was there but like my sister i dont like the way they manage people. they have alot of rles which i really can't understand why it is to be imposed. but anyway going back to her, well i know she is a strong lady. as amatter of fact even stronger than me. one thing i really admire her.. she can talked for herself. she can fight for her words. things at times i can't do for myself. i dont know. i dont consider those issues as something bad though. choosing what fulfills more your spiritual needs? thats something should not be questioned right? another issue was planning to transfer to a different boarding house, that's also a choice right? especially if you don't feel comfortable anymore. Falling in love, i never though falling in love has been a big issue..everyone falls in love..
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Hi ieram! I feel for your sister... I know how hard it is to be compared by others especially if you are always giving your best. Trying hard to please your love ones and the people around you. Sometimes the more we try, we losses our own happiness.. worst our self identity. I suggest, to tell your sister to talk to her love ones who are criticizing her... I believe everything can be iron out by good conversation... Have a heart to heart talk. We really cannot please or do everything... Sometimes we have to step out or do things that are unusually if we want to experience real happiness... Life is a choice.. And our happiness depends on the choice we make... I think its time to think for her own self now... no more do this because of her or him... because this will make them happy or what...
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
thank you so much lovelyn.. have you been through it as well?. You're righ it's really tough for her. I can recall one time when she really had to burst out bout how she feels, why she is being treated like that and seeing her suffered pains me a lot. I dont know how to explain but there are things we have to sacrifice for now. But soon she'll get out of it.
@nancyfancy (61)
• China
8 Oct 12
I also have a sister which is only four years old.She brings us a lot of fun and lots of worry as well.My parents always worried about her for her character.She is more like a boy rather than a girl on character.And my mother fears that she will not obey so much when growing up.But it's too early to consider so much.Future is still far from her.
@barood4money (376)
• India
7 Oct 12
I totally agree with you. Everyone has right to breath the air of freedom. But unfortunately we are chained up with some unnecessary limitations buy parents. But it is true. True hard work never fails. It will pay off one day. Just you have to dare to break the limitations and fly. Then only you will the sky..
