falling in love..
By eiram23
@eiram23 (421)
Philippines
October 7, 2012 9:20am CST
Falling in love is such a marvelous feeling that no one can defind how you really feel when you are inlove. Three years ago, I finally felt what does falling in love was. The feeling was inexplainable. All I can remember is everyday seems to have no end. Feels like you are always on top of the clouds, always elated, excited, feels just so perfect. Those were so perfect. But a happy relationship doesnt only mean all is well. It should be savored with some trials to test how strong the relationship is. This will serve as spices to differentiate the sweetness and bitterness of being into a relationship. once you surpass all these obstacles, the stronger the relationship will become. And in case the relationship fails, we should not be so hard to ourselves. Acceptance is the key to move on. It's easier said than done.Absolutely! Yes it was so hard. My first relationship did not push through as I dreamt it to be. I am really idealistic when it comes to love. But of course circumstances sometimes hinder what we wish for. And literally, it took me a year before I finally realized Ive move on. And now when i can think of it all I can do is to smile:). I have a lot of realizations. And I'm learning from those realizations.
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Falling in love? I want to share with him my laughter and joys.I want to hug him when I'm in pain. He is so far from other country and yet so near that I always feel he is always be here for me. He has shortcomings but I am happy to see that he grows out of these. He never complaints but he will explain why he is not feeling good for few things I've done wrong.Hmmmm....feeling excited everyday but the sense of responsibility is implied in each decision we make.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Hi zearah.. Its good to know about your positive experience about falling inlove. Im happy for you. Being apart is a big sacrifice. But if both of you love each other deeply even if you are miles and miles away the love would still be there and i believe based on what yove said, you have it!Just hold on and trust each other. You will end up a successful realtionship:)
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
As others say, you can do everything out of love. You can climb the highest mountain. you can reach the stars.you felt so inspired everyday even though you have other problems.just like what you've said. its not always Christmas when you are in a relationship. you will experience all the spice in life when you involve yourself on it. Sacrfices are on your way. Being understanding sometimes is being measured.I have a long time relationship before and took me months before I was able to move on.I have so many sleepless nights. There are times that tears fell from my eyes without noticing it. I remember those days. Just like you, i can't just do something about that now but just to smile and laugh with it. At least we learned a lesson. We realized something in life.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
there are moments is my life that i don't want to come back. it makes me sad and affects my present situation. but as you say on your discussion, acceptance is the best thing to do for you to regain your energy. on my part, acceptance took me a long process especially if that relationship lasted for so long, like around 12 years.i know sooner or later everything will just be fine, i just have to be strong enough to face all the trials that comes my way.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
but of course.. even a little wound take time to heal.. that goes with mending a broken heart. it take time depending on your outlook on what happened. if you are an optimistic person it takes faster but if you are the negativistic person you will end up a loser. Acceptance is very importing in moving on. I know its not easy to get out of what you used to be.. whom you used to be but then again as i always tell myself, there is always one good reason why things are happening and that reason is still far better than what we are expecting, I hope you are okay now:)
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Absolutely and time flies so fast that sometimes when we look back we just tend to smile and we know deep within us we're now contented with what we have.And i feel happy recalling back the past.I don't know.. ijust can't explain. It's like i was transformed from innocence to reality. And atleast right now I am more mature, more open minded about it and maybe that's also one thing we have to consider.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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8 Oct 12
Falling in love can be a wonderful feeling, but I don't think that many people really understand what it feels like to fall in love. There are people who think that they are in love, and the only way that they realise that they weren't is when they have stronger feelings for somebody else in the future. I went through this, and the person who I am with now is the person who I have had the strongest feelings for. Maybe at some point in the future I will realise that I didn't love him and I will develop some kind of crazy feelings for somebody else.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
7 Oct 12
hey this is very nice and good news. So at last you have find the right person to be your lover. Keep going and give lots of love to your lover and see that you make your love strong and long lasting forever
@Ivy_Bubbles (169)
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7 Oct 12
Falling in and out of love brings out a lot of emotions in us. It defines our being. Sometimes we get lost in it. All because we have experienced the wonders of love. If we triumphed over the challenges our love has brought us it makes us a better person than we were then.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Exactly! What happened with my first relationship lead me to a lot of realizations. I was able to sort out reasons why it didn't work. I was able to understand that falling inlove is not merely a feeling of being inlove but it is coupled with responsibilities and factors to make the relationship works. I was able to realize that love does not always have a happy ending which I was so idealistic about it then. I told myself before that whoever will be the first guy of my life should also be the last. But obviously it didn't happen. And with all those realizations I became more open minded with how relationship really works. That in every relationship, there is always, pain, tear and sadness. It's not at al times everyone is fine, It's not at all times everything works fine.
@ggubatina09 (36)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
You are really great and your partner! Congratulations to both of you. I guess you deserve each other and this kind of relationship is really hard to achieve. I would love to have the same experience as what you have, hopefully I can do better things with my partner and he will love me forever.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Oh definitely you will as long as there is trust, love and understanding between you and your partner. These three are very important factors in keeping a relationship strong and healthy. And of course both of you should be willing to work on it, if it needs a li'l of scarifice it should not be neglected.
@shreed_14 (460)
• India
7 Oct 12
Hello eiram.
I can't help but agree with you. Love indeed is a wonderful feeling. And specially the realization that there's one person in the world for whom you mean the world is really overwhelming.
And again as you said, love is beautiful but it has it's hardships. Like it goes: every rose has it's thorn.
For me my first relationship didn't work out the way I wanted it to. And it took me 2 whole years to let go of it. But we must believe that whatever happens, happens for a reason. Things, probably, didn't work out then because I had to be single to consider the person meant for me when he came. Love did strike me again when I was least expecting. This time head-on and in the form of my best-friend. And things have been going really great since then.
There is one saying which really touched my heart and helped me cope with my break-up. It goes: If your relationship doesn't work out, it probably is because of your future mate's prayers to keep you single.
And again as you said, love is beautiful but it has it's hardships. Like it goes: every rose has it's thorn.
For me my first relationship didn't work out the way I wanted it to. And it took me 2 whole years to let go of it. But we must believe that whatever happens, happens for a reason. Things, probably, didn't work out then because I had to be single to consider the person meant for me when he came. Love did strike me again when I was least expecting. This time head-on and in the form of my best-friend. And things have been going really great since then.
There is one saying which really touched my heart and helped me cope with my break-up. It goes: If your relationship doesn't work out, it probably is because of your future mate's prayers to keep you single.@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
WOW!. Im happy to hear about your successful relationship now. And if i got it right you mentioned it is your bestfriend? You know what that's totally wonderful. Falling in love with your bestfriend isn't bad at all especially if the feeling is mutual. Because of course we cannot deny the fact, sometimes falling inlove with your friend ruins the good friendship you started but like what I've said if the feeling is mutual, then definitely you will have the most wonderful relationship. It's not only that you are lovers but while you are in a relationship, you can be the best of friends and that's one important factor in a relationship, because sometimes, you don't only need a lover, sometimes you need a friend who will listen to you, talked to you. And your right, loves comes unexpectedly.It's just a matter of acceptance and waiting for the right guy to come. And I'm happy for you:)
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
7 Oct 12
Glad to hear about u falling in love and indeed love is such a marvelous feeling that it takes u to a different world. U feel like living a dream always and it makes u go gaga over that feeling all the time. u feel like spending quality time with your partner all the time and the feeling itself gets goosebumps on your body and u feel shy and lost all the time.
What say?
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
That's absolutely right:). It's been a long time but reminiscing the feeling it still brings back the smile on my face. I was so innocent then.:)And thinking of it right now, I cant avoid but laugh at myself. But Yeah it really fells so good!!. Im hoping I will fall inlove again..
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
7 Oct 12
Usually teenage love comes being associated with immense of excitement and thrills as if one goes die for each other all the time. And such love leaves behind a deep trace even if the relation does not last any more. But the two leaves nothing uninvested to get the return like love. Such kind of love should last forever. Such love never be denied or broken up. Denial such love is a crime. At any cost it should be upheld, protected and preserved. Wish you a bouncy loving life.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
I totally agree with you. Wow I'm amaze with how you immortalize your words. Thank you for wishing me of that bouncing love life:). I'm hoping I will meet the right person soon..kidding;)! But yes i'm positive about it but of course I entrust it to him. he knows when is the best time for me to fall in love again so when the right person comes then things follow:)
