Gaining back my trust.

for me, you should first tell him what you actually feel about this matter: maybe you feel a little ignored, rejected and neglected. there is nothing wrong if you would share him your perspective and i believe, since both of you are living together, you ought to be transparent to him and be more open minded about sharing your inmost feelings no matter how little or insignificant it is because this feelings may still affect your relationship with him.Please dont be insensitive with one another, you may likely go colder and farther from each other. Then ask him if he could have some changes especially with this matter. I also suggest if you could at least listen to his side and, though it maybe hard to understand it, at least listen to him than to argue and to pinpoint his shortcomings. this may even lead to quarrel and misunderstanding. Remember you are trying to win him not to show him that you are right and he is wrong. dont try to win an argument over your love ones cause you may lose them. I know its hard to maintain a relationship but it is even harder to restore a broken relationship. I know God is with you He surely provide you with the right heart and attitude to deal with this situation. God bless you

It's sad that he had changed that way. I've heard similar stories that you will know your boyfriend's real attitude when you're already living with him. You will know him a lot more. Try to build an open communication with him. Let him know that what he does hurts you. On the other hand, try to be more understanding of what he might be going through.

It is very hard for trust to be rebuilt when it has been broken. If you had an agreement with him that he would tell you everywhere that he was going when you weren't with him then I would say that you should talk to him about it. However if this is not the arrangement that you had then you should ask yourself why does it really matter so much if he goes out and you don't always know where he is? If you trust him then you should know that he would never do anything to hurt you, and if you don't trust him then you should be thinking about whether he is really the right person for you, or whether you should be looking for somebody else in your life.

i think it would hurt me too if he does that, but i try not to let it get to me and shrug it off. Then ask him how that event went and be honest about my feelings about him not telling me where he went off too. Of course, I don't want have to know every little detail but a note telling me that he's off there or somewhere would be very appreciated. at least I would be aware, it's part of being a couple i think.

Hey i can understand the situation u are going through. i know how much u love your boyfriend but they u also have to give him some space in the relationship so that he does not at any point of the relationship feel that u are not allowing him to enjoy his life fully and that u are being over possessive about him and that might make him more conscious and insecure. So better allow him to enjoy his life so that your relationship is not hampered indirectly. What say?