Does this guy like me?

I don't see why you should refuse his lunch invitations and place so much undue pressures on yourself on what the future might hold for your male co-worker, the working relationship and you. Sometimes, I feel that we need to let our guards down a little and enjoy the light moments of companionship without any expectations or implications for it to progress into something else. Remember, the higher our expectations the harder the fall. I think you should be just as casual as your co-worker and don't have any second or third thoughts about a simple invitation. Start off with a simple friendship and let time do the rest.

You know, there is the possibility he simply doesn't want to eat lunch alone When he has others to go to lunch with, you say he doesn't invite you... but when he is alone, he does invite you. Asking if you "want in" doesn't really sound like the way a guy would invite a girl that he likes to lunch -- it sounds more like casual conversation between co-workers/friends. Having said that, of course it's possible that he's interested in you... but you're never going to know that if you don't learn more about him. You say you're single and interested in him... so what is the problem with going to have lunch? It's not a commitment, it's just a meal. It would give you some time to find out more about him outside the workplace. Next time he asks, just go :)

I am not quite sure. But if he likes you, he is a very patient man and it seems to be an ideal man Since you likes him, I think you should give each other a chance. It is nothing wrong to have a lunch with him.

err... so he doesn't ask you out when he's with many people but asks you out on days when he's alone? maybe he just needed a companion. hey, what's wrong with letting him know you like him? he might like you too you know, you would be missing out. let him know then let it go. my BF did that to his previous crushes so that he'd get over them... LOL but in my case i responded, "why didn't you say so sooner?" and that gave him the courage to court me. and now we are almost 5 years in a relationship ;) same thing might happen to the two of you, you'll never know.

Hello my friend. I think you should give consideration on accepting his invitation for lunch. Maybe it will be the first step for both of you to know each other more. You can talk about things that you like, things that he like or he didn't like. During those time maybe you would know if he really likes you or he just want to make friends or a lunch buddy or etc.. Of course you didn't have to tell him that you like him too. You just have to find out if he is for real. And then afterwards you can make your decision.

Maybe, why not? If you think that he likes you it will be too easy for a girl to feel that she also being liked with an oppositesex. I have been through to this kind of scenario and I felt like he also wants me but it was too long when he kept his feelings for me. He was a High School friend and became my boyfriend. How lucky I am to have him because he is a very nice person. :)

Maybe he is for you girl! Go for him! As long as you have not told it to anybody else that you like him, so you are pretty much sure that he is not just getting near you because he knows that you like him too...but he really likes you! Give yourself a break..I think it's about time for you to get happy...

you like him and you don't want him to know that. but you want to know if he likes you. that's a little bit odd. consider accepting his invitation and you'll find out on your own what's the truth. it's hard to say if he likes you or not just from one lunch invitation but who knows.my advice is to take the risk...if you don't play the lottery you won't win for sure;)

What he is doing sounds very respectful, so why are you refusing him? He doesn't flirt with you in the office? That may well be due to the fact that he does not wish to have rumors started in the office, or he really does like you and he doesn't want you to get the idea that it is just a casual, friendly thing. Or there may be a policy in your office about dating co-workers, so he is trying to keep it on the down-low. Also if he asks you out as part of a group, then one would assume that you are just included because you are a co-worker and nothing more, and he does not want you to think that. Lunch is fairly innocuous, so why not accept his offer and find out for sure?

Glad to know that u are liking your male co-worker and his behavior somewhat to me reflects his love and affection for you also. i know u must be feeling it a bit awkward to express your feelings for him but think u should not waste a single moment and convey your feelings to him before u realize that it is too late and that u have lost him for someone else. He does like u and u like him too. i think its time that u take a further step otherwise he will assume that u are neglecting him. What say?

Do accept his invitation. :D Honestly, It's difficult to judge whether he likes you or not, though, it is a possibilty. You can never be sure unless he tells you so. For the mean time, allow him to share lunch with you, chat with him.In that way, you'll know if your emotions for him gets stronger. And you'll also know if he likes you or not. It's a good way to get to know the person. Don't allow chance pass you by. In the end, you'll know the answer to the question " What if?".