I'm sick of listening to my roommates.....!!!!
@MsControversy (446)
United States
October 8, 2012 4:18pm CST
I posted yesterday that my landlord has sold our house and that we all have to move. We live in a split level with 4 bedrooms upstairs, one downstairs. There is a couple that rents the basement and we don't see them much because downstairs they have their own fully equipped kitchen and full bathroom, plus sliding glass doors with a patio...so we don't see them often, but we hear them constantly! All they do is fight. They have been together for however many years and for whatever reason, they are having problems but all they do is YELL all the time. Cursing at each other, screaming, slamming doors....I was bummed that the landlord sold the house but now I'm kind of looking forward to moving because I don't want the kids around this anymore. When the kids are in their rooms, they can't really hear downstairs, because it basement is set up backwards from the upstairs...their bedroom is under the living room. Today they had a HUGE blowout and I had to send all the kids down the hallway to their rooms so they wouldn't have to hear them anymore. These are two of my best friends and I hate that they are going through what they are going through, but I can't listen to it anymore. I'm ready to move after today!
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@GemmaR (8517)
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9 Oct 12
It is very hard when we have housemates who fight in this way. However, they might not even realise that you are able to hear them when they act like this, so have you ever thought about talking to them about it? Chances are they don't know that you can hear them and they would be embarrassed if they found out about it. If you can't make them be quiet then you should tell your landlord about it because there is no way that people should be able to behave in this way in a shared house because it isn't fair on any of the other residents.
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@MsControversy (446)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Well, we have to move anyway because the landlord sold the house, and they know we can hear because they apologize all the time after they fight, they come up and say "sorry about that...." for whatever reason. All I know is that I'm glad that we're moving soon! Lol
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
8 Oct 12
It is terrible that your roommates are arguing all the time and that your kids have to hear this. I do not blame you for having your kids go into their bedrooms whenever this happens. I hope you can find something soon so you and the kids can live in a stress free environment. I think it is terrible that your landlord is making you move out during the holidays and he should have allowed you to move after the holidays. I wish you the best of luck in finding another place.
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@MsControversy (446)
• United States
8 Oct 12
Thank you and I agree that it should have waited until our lease is up in March, but I'm not so bummed about it after today knowing that my kids will not be exposed to this kind of language and behavior anymore. Thank you for your words. Have a good night! =)
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
9 Oct 12
I know how you feel about that, but in a different way.
Change is good. Keep telling yourself this because you don't need drama in your life. You shouldn't have to send your children away in their own home, and you shouldn't have to live in fear of what the couple will do to each other, or do to the other members living in that house hold. You're much better off without people like this in your life.
I know this because I went through something similar to what you went through with my step-father's family.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
8 Oct 12
Stay out of the way of these friends. I think a peaceful place is better as staying in between those "friends". I can understand that it's far of great to let children listen to these never ending fights but.. this is also a part of life. You can also ignore it and let the kids be where they are. If they have questions you can explain the situation but also say you don't understand why they are fighting after being friends for so long. Also this is part of life. You can also ask them what they think about the situation, if this is the way to treat a good friend or to find a solution for a problem. Kids are way smarter as you think and sending them to their room, hoping they won't hear anything or are not feeling what is going on is an illusion.
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@MsControversy (446)
• United States
8 Oct 12
Its not that I don't think that they don't know what's going on or that they're too stupid to figure it out, they don't need to sit out here and listen to two grown people who they refer to as "auntie" and "uncle" scream at each other and call each other "F'in" this and that and using the "F" word every 5 seconds. That's called being a parent. You don't leave your kids somewhere where they hear nothing but the "F" word and the "B" word and other curse words and just sit there and let them listen to it because "it's a part of life"...it may be a part of life that people talk like that, but 4 kids under the age of 7 don't need to sit and hear that at their age....not in my house.
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@Rasniki09 (183)
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9 Oct 12
Maybe those friends don't realize that they are being too loud. Sometimes when you are in a heated argument, other people' feelings are not taken into consideration.
It's good that you are moving away and I hope you find a place that is nice and comfortable for your family.
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@lopenag (12)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I understand what you're going through, and I must say, it's really a nightmare! I've experienced the same for almost 4 years. They were shouting, arguing and fighting almost every night. I was unlucky to find a better and quiet place to stay, so I have no choice, I have to deal with them.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Wow, it's kind of crazy of them to act like that.. why be together when it's like that? But they say some folks love to fight! Not me! Nor do I like listening to others doing it! How can they blithely carry on like that, surely they know they are disturbing others, and not just occasionally!
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Oh man that would be awful to have to put up with hearing all that yelling and fighting all the time especially for the kids to have to hear it. I think it is really rude of them to act like that knowing its loud and will bother others. Perhaps they dont realize how loud they are being . You could say to them sometime that you can hear them fighting a lot and maybe let them know you are there to talk if they need to. Its unfortunate that you have to find somewhere else to live but it sounds like in a way it will be a relief to get away from their fighting.
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Oh man that would be awful to have to put up with hearing all that yelling and fighting all the time especially for the kids to have to hear it. I think it is really rude of them to act like that knowing its loud and will bother others. Perhaps they dont realize how loud they are being . You could say to them sometime that you can hear them fighting a lot and maybe let them know you are there to talk if they need to. Its unfortunate that you have to find somewhere else to live but it sounds like in a way it will be a relief to get away from their fighting.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
Oh they are two of your best friends. So maybe you can talk to them not to be yelling or fighting with loud voices because your children can hear them.
Perhaps they will heed your request.
