Failed marriage. Married with the wrong person.

That's very sad! Are you or your husband involved with someone else? Have you tried to get some counseling as a couple?

It is very difficult to deal with such problems. I really know how it feels. Because, I also feel the same. In fact, my husband has another woman. I am very frustrated, and hardly able to deal with it. Apparently, I lost happiness. But I do not think, that I married the wrong man. But, I think, this is the life I have lived. I have no thoughts other than through this life, by doing positive things.

Hello lopenag, I am sorry to hear that. Well you should try to think about your kids more now, maybe falling apart is going to cause more damage than arguing over matters, don't you think?. Well people do have differences doesn't mean you can't live together, in fact some places I have actually seen completely opposite kinds love each other so much just because they respect each other's choices. Love is nothing without sacrifice, you might need to adjust to some of his needs, and he accordingly to yours. So try to think over, try to adjust to one another, when respect comes in for each others decisions it becomes a lot more comfortable. I am sure a breaking marriage hurts a kid more than anything else so don't break it, try. Some people may tell do what you like and that may influence you on thinking only about yourself and acting selfish. Don't do that! Think about your kids, and I am sure you will do what's best for them! God be with your family.

That is so sad. We should be more educated to have experiences instead of not having much many partners and be serious too soon. What we know about marriage or the person we want until 25, 30? Until then life should be about finding a career and not getting married. The more naive we are the easiest to us to marry the wrong person, first we must live with them, there's no better way to know someone by being really together for at least 2 years.

That's very sad and depressing. Although I can feel there is already acceptance on your part - of what has happened to your marriage. This is the very same reason why I feel nervous and different when I think about getting married. I know it is wrong to be pessimistic but at times you will really think about what's gonna happen with the marriage. However, I think if both is looking at the same direction and understands each other and is willing to talk about and fix all the issues, the marriage will survive. Otherwise, the only option is to stay out of it and remain civil with him/her.

15 years is such a long time,I can really understand your dilemma,if you two really do not willing to be together,so I think being apart may be is a good choice,and I also think that when your kids grow up they can understand your decision.And I really appreciate your attitude that even though you can not be a perfect couple you still can be a good friends.

It can be awful when we realise that we have been with the wrong person for the whole of our lives. It can almost feel as though our life has been a lie because of the fact that we don't know what is happening to us. It can be difficult to admit when a relationship is at the end because it feels as though we have done something wrong even though there is usually nothing that we can do to prevent it from happening. The most important thing that you can do is to make sure that you keep talking, as it is a lot better to remain friends than have to be enemies.

It is good to just separate when there is no way out and life becomes hell. It must be hurting but then so many years of fighting and arguments must be bitter and might not hurt that much but a feel of relief must be coming. AM I right??? Tell me the feeling of the end result. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

15 years is a bit long for unhealthy relationship. I think your kids probably already know by now. They are kids, but not stupid and they probably are teenager now. If both of you have tried all ways and nothing can fix this, it's probably best for both of you and the kids to just separate first. Sometimes, having space in between, gives a breathing time, reflection time for both to cool down and digest the situation, without intervention from one another. The kids will understand,if we explain to them logically. If you can maintain relationship and becomes friends, still have family reunion once in a while, the kids will be ok. It's better to have a healthy relationship even though living separately, rather than living together but in a spicy situation. Fighting is not a good reflection for the kids either. Hope this helps, and good luck!

Hi, I can guess how stressful it can be. Some people I know have gone through or are going through such stuff too. Yet, it is a span of 4-8 years for them. 15 years is long enough and you did try your best. When it comes to an intolerable level, it is best to step out than stay and get frustrated. When there is no love, the relation is just existing for the sake of it. Not many people understand that and think that it is wrong to break a marriage after kids. However, stuck in such a lock, it is kids who would suffer too. You can both sit, discuss and find a solution on what to do, how to end and how not to make the kids suffer.

I have felt that at timesand I hav been with the same man for over 10 years. The thing that save us was going to church and putting God first in our lives. We also took tie to have time for each other and when there are children ar involved it can be difficult. I am not saying we agree on everything because that isn't the case. I just know what it is like to have parents who are divorced and either way you look at it, it will not be easy on the children.