Living alone in the city and no shoulder to cry on...

i also came to the city after graduating from college at the province where i was born and grew up. i want to experience living outside of the place where i was confined my whole life and realized that living alone with no family to turn to and coping up with new friends, new surroundings and new practices is not easy. And prayers helped and strengthen me through all these particularly in raising up my three children alone. Now looking back, i know that with no shoulder to cry on in times of crisis God had never abandoned me when i seek for His help.

That is so sweet. I am partly there.I moved to Pennsylvania to be with my husband because his family is here. I left all my family and friends behind. Its scary and alot of my friends and family felt I was wrong and selfish. and at times I wondered if I was but looking back, we have 2 children and a beautiful home, and I think its all worth it. I miss my family from time to time and I only have maybe 3 friends here but sometimes these friends have been here more for me then most the people I have known my whole life back home. sometimes I feel sad and alone when he goes places or does things with his friends or family without me because I realize If I were home I would have that :( I feel so alone sometimes I just keep thinking about what I wouldnt have if I werent here. your post inspires me. you are very strong!

It is very hard when you are living somewhere that you don't know all that many people, but one of the things that you should always remember is that you live in an age where you are able to talk to people whenever you like because of the internet. If you have a mobile phone then you only have to press a couple of buttons to send a text message to a friend or family member, as this would help you to feel a lot better if you could just talk to them for a little while. You are a very strong person, but you still need your friends.

That is but just a natural occurence in one's life. Being single and have to earn a living away from home, one will have to bear living alone. It may be a sad way, but whenever you are at the office, you are not , anyway. But when you begin living the married life , provided that your place of work and your husband is on the same place already, then it will not be a sad state of working anymore.

Living far away from home and being in a strange environment and strangers is somewhat difficult but what's more difficult than that is when you are living with your family and you still feel alone; like nobody really understands you.Maybe we just need to look at the positive side.If we'll be in an environment full of strangers we have more rooms to grow,people will not prejudge you for what you can and what you can't.You can really have the chance to maximize your potentials. We may feel alone but we never are because God is always there.It sometimes scary to be alone but we'll never realize how strong we are until we're alone.

In all my years, I have never had the feeling of being totally alone. I am fortunately to have always to have someone in my life I could cry on their shoulder..But the funny thing is I just don;t ..I try very very hard to deal with my issues internally..For some reason I have just likt to share that part of me...despite the fact the family and friends who has always been around me.. I am ALWAYS trying to spare the feelings of others...I don't want anyone feeling bad because of my issue...that bothers me...However, if there is something I want to say, I have no problem saying it..

Aww look how far you have come in the last ten years that is wonderful. It had to be scary living alone in a new place but you didnt let it make you run back to what you were comfortable with like so many people I know who haved moved back to the town they grew up in and gave up their dreams because they were lonely and scared.

I am glad that you are happy now and have got married and life is better for you.I feel sorry for all the people that do not have other people to talk to or cry on a persons shoulder, when that is all they need.Life is looking up for you and I am sure your partner will always be there for you if you ever feel that you need a shoulder to cry on.

I understand about it as I am of the same boat. I am living here for almost 20 years with no one to cry on. All my family and relatives are living away from me- back in my hometown. Thu I have few relatives (cousins and aunts) who lives here in metro, but they're still not near my place. So, when in times of troubles- I don't have anyone to cry on. But thanks...5 years ago, I've meet friends from online and then we got the chance to met in person. Now they are my best buddies and a shoulder to cry on.

Bhebelen: Yes. many people feel so--it is because people have to live in far off place for work away from parents. you survived that difficult period and God has helped you come out of the difficult situation. Now you should spend time for your child and other family members. be confident and you will become more stronger.

Hi bhebelen, you are not alone during those time. That's one thing I'm sure of because the Lord is always there with you. We might thought that we don't have anybody to share our problems with but He is always there to listen, He is always there to help us. Have a nice day! God bless!

Good for you that you found the love of your life. I'm for one, wanted to be with someone back then. I can relate here. Really, being with someone can make a difference, there's someone who will help you in times of trouble and someone to be with when we are happy. Good luck

A lot f people go through that. And it's all a Matter of whether they are strong enough to deal with t, or they come running back defeated. In your case, you survived and even made a life for yourself. You're not only lucky, you're also wiser now.

Great to hear you are doing well. Its never fun to be alone. Do you have kids?