Women are more prone to depression
By ravisivan
@ravisivan (14079)
India
October 9, 2012 8:38pm CST
Women are more prone to depression than men. It is said that this phenomena is observed throughout the world. This is as per the recent WHO study.
The burden of depression is 50% more for women than men. The average age of depression in India is 31.9 years compared to 18.8 years in China and 22.7 years in USA.
I think women are more exposed because they bear the major responsibilities in household front and nowadays many Indian women go for employment and they earn there also and shoulder more responsibilities.
the main cause may be comparison with others and desire to earn more in order to improve standard of living. This is spreading more in India especially due to IT industry.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Women-more-prone-to-depression-than-men-Indians-worst-hit-WHO/articleshow/16746142.cms
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@work4kids2007 (49)
• United States
10 Oct 12
I think it is also a spiritual response to what may or may not be going in the persons life. I look at my life and I could get really depressed thinking about it but I am not. I have a peace and joy about where I am at and what I am or am not doing.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
welcome to mylot. You seem to be more spiritually appreciating the life. that is nice. this type of people are say 1 to 2% in life who manage to accept what is given and pull on so that they do not get into problems or get depression. thanks for the response.
@work4kids2007 (49)
• United States
10 Oct 12
But it doesn't have to be that way. I know some so called spiritual people who don't rely on God but themselves but the thing is we aren't perfect and they can't have everything or control it for that matter. I come from a big family and see it first hand. Those who have God in their life and those who don't. Those who do are more settled and are less likely to put themselves in a spot that may trigger them to get depressed naturally or chemically.
@joannbilon (111)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I think its because women are more emotional and sentimental and sometime overthink things
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
joanbilon
In fact in many house women only take leadership in deciding issues. Women being emotional or sentimental alone cannot cause this problem more. many factors such as lack of proper guidance, lack of freedom to decide things for themselves, extra responsibilities in house hold front and also office, expectations of others are some of the reasons for this. thanks for the response.
In Which industry are you working?
good day.
@joannbilon (111)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I am not saying its the only reason. Its just my opinion as some of the reasons why women are prone to depression. I am a woman by the way. Sorry if my comment isnt scientifically accurat, I should have put a disclaimer.
I work as an IT consultant.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Oct 12
I agree with the reasons you give for women getting depression. I have had depression for as long as i can remember. Probably as early as 12. I was diagnosed with severe depression with panic attacks in 2004. Chronic depression before that. Women have more of a problem with hormones and emotions too. Men keep it bottled up and end up having heart attacks.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
celticeage
Madam --you are now 60+. Yes. problems such as what you have mentioned are due to problems with hormones and emotions. You said you had severe depression in 2004. Were you given proper treatment and how it helped you? Now you have been able to overcome and participate well in mylot. good.
Your another observation that men keep it bottled up and results in heart attack is also right. Men who speak less , men who are indecisive are susceptible to severe health problems.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Oct 12
Sir- I said I was diagnosed with severe depression with panic attacks in 2004. That doesn't mean it is over since then. That mean they diagnosed it then. It took forever to find the right medication because of side effects. I have good and bad days. The meds mostly help the panic attacks. I have not overcome any of it. And yes the statement about heart attacks in men was correct.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Usually i think rav, women who gets depressed easily are the housewives. That's because they don't have money of their own, to buy whatever they would want for themselves too.
I can say that, because i also experienced being a housewife for more than 4 years after i resigned from my long time job. During those times i sometimes experience being depressed because i don't go out of the house since i have no money of my own to shop for new clothes or whatever i like. I have to ask money from my husband whenever i would like something. And sometimes i will be declined because it's not within his budget.
But since i started working again, i regained my confidence and never felt depressed at any time. If i feel lonely, i shop. It's therapeutic.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Women should learn how to take care of themselves so depression can be avoided.
Housewives can join women's association that could be a support group for them. They should equip themselves with basic skills, so they can for themselves earn money whenever they can.
As for me, when i was already feeling bored being a housewife, i made resumes and rounded the city for a job.
Because of my varied work experience, i was able to land this job. Of course, i couple it with a fervent prayer.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
simplyd:
yes. yours is based on your own experience. you are a working woman. you were a houswife only and you have seen both sides of the coin. good.
True when requests for needs of houses are declines that causes a feeling of helplessness in women causing depression sometimes leading to acute depression. such women need to be given proper counselling and treatment.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Oct 12
I think not only working people, but women who are at home ,i mean housewives are also getting into depression these days. The reason may be, they are always at home looking after house hold work, but they are well educated too, so when they compare themselves with the working women ,they may feel/think all their education is wasted ,and restricted in their life.
The older generation women were happy with house hold work , especially in India, but now every women in India want financial independence. So this may prone them to depression. As they feel ,they didn't achieve anything in life.
But i wonder , why only Indian women are more prone to depression? I mean in terms of percentage, which is high than other countries, as the article stated.
And one more point ,which i would like to point out.
We have many restrictions in India regarding women, no matter how much we are educated and in high position , we are or have to follow those and women are not given freedom in certain issues, this also may lead to depression. For us the society comes first, and end of everything, our life depends on what the so called society thinks?
Even if women is working ,she doesn't have freedom ,in what she want to do, i have seen this recently. especially in India.
Where as in other countries , may not be 100% but to some extent ,women are free to decide what they want and how they want to live.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
prashu
may be it will appear funny when I say this. yes. mylotting is one way to get over depression. but of course people should like writing and sharing of ideas with others.
also to be frank with others to some extent is good. plus more tolerance is to be developed right from childhood.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Oct 12
yes , i read the link , Indians are on top as per the article.
now what can be done to decrease such depression case?
@smtrsv (186)
• India
12 Oct 12
[b][u][i] Hello there!
My dear mylotter friend respected ravisivan sir
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I do admit with your statement “Women are more prone to depression". The basic reason is that women are more sensitive and are not so stronger emotionally as compare to men.
[b][u][i]Have a nice day and thanks.
smtrsv[/b][/u][/i]
Friday October 12, 2012.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
12 Oct 12
welcome to mylot. thanks for your response. You seem to love Nature. We have to educate girl child more and also teach them to be independent to get over depression. also tell them nothing is permanent in this world--good or bad,.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
11 Oct 12
Personally this is interesting. There are a lot of Men now being diagnosed with this over yrs. past, partly because so many people tend to want to hide it. I have had problems myself on and off over the yrs. due to past trauma and abuse. But too many times the main problem is hiding their feelings until they explode, and often this can be quite dangerous, and makes it worth trying to find ways to get more people the help they deserve.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
12 Oct 12
KrauseHome:
Meeting you after a very long time. How is your health? --diabetes and leg swelling.
yes. men also suffer. but the percentage of women is more because of suppression and partly due to globalisation and modern living also.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hello ravi,
Partly I agree that women are prone to depression compared to men.
Partly I don't agree that it is caused by responsibilities.
It depends on how everyone treat and consider their existence.
I believe that women has more responsibilities especially when it comes to family eg. taking proper care of the kids, elders and her husband, taking care of household chores and needs and being the primary absorber in times of crisis/troubles/trials...not to mention how women suffer abused mentally/emotionally/physically compared to men.
But, if we have at peace with the Lord (either men or women) we take everything lightly and cast/trust the rest to God.
Just my opinion (speaking from my own experience)
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
12 Oct 12
jaiho:
yes. I have seen women who were suffering a lot and who make others suffer. My mother suffered a lot -- my father was a gambler - cards, races etc. I have seen a few others also who suffer on account of liquor addiction of their husband--
mainly the causes are --gambling, liquor, women, infidelity.etc.
solution --only God, god and God. nobody else can help.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
10 Oct 12
Ravi bhai
I agree with your saying about women and depression, but there are so many reasons for this, money is a factor no doubt, but family problems like relation with other family members like MIL, DIL, health issues..
Where both hubby and wife work, this causes more problems, they don't have time for each other.......
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
Professor bhaiya:
You have summed it up nicely that in many cases the depression is due to relationship problems with mother in law or daughter in law, sister in law. Yes. in a few cases health issues also play a role in causing depression. I think even child management also causes depression in women -- some children have sickness or do not conduct properly --eating, sleeping etc.
Another point that both hubby and wife because they work have no time for each other is also a striking point. But in the present cost of living both have to work out of compulsion. thanks.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
10 Oct 12
i agree certainly in a way its yes and its must be proven scientifically also and they tend to be more depressed for some reasons
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
you are from chennai. One important reason for this is adultery on the part of men. Just now I saw a TV program -- in which two young women came and represented that their husbands have cheated them -- going after other married women.
In one case the marriage has taken place 7 years ago - problem in the last one year. In another case marriage was done last october and within four months divorce notice sent to the girl. No proper value system in India also nowadays. younger generation should be advised to be more careful.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
10 Oct 12
This is a great topic. Most don't realize why women are more vulnerable to depression. You gave some good background here. Thanks.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
Pointless questions:
the topic came to my mind on reading times of India, a leading newspaper from India. It is stated that this is based on WHO report. full details we can see in the link given by me.
I will say mylotting avoids depression for many people including myself.
thanks for the response.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I read also something related to that. But that is a nice to know information so we can educate ourselves on how to better handle depression and avoid the occurrence. Maybe because of the current economic condition all over the world, people tend to be more depressed especially women usually are those expose to all sorts of maltreatments, and there is something on their genes that makes them more emotional.Thanks
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
mikyung:
Women are depressed on account of many reasons but most of them are due to men's behavior. The behavior of husband affects the wife and family. Same way behavior of father affects children. Getting involved in productive work in their estimation is one way to get over depression--like mylotting, social service etc.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
10 Oct 12
Ravi, nice to hear about this news, so women's in our country were depressed a lot compared with men. I read out the article and know about more information
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
Vidhyaprakash:
In fact a reading of this would have caused thinking in you to see that people known to you are helped properly. Women who show interest and concern more in development of children leaving career are sometimes less depressed. They attach more importance on the proper upkeep of their children. That was the case about sixty years ago and slowly things are changing on account of globalisation, opening of economy, comparison with others etc.
@toomuchchange (5)
• United States
10 Oct 12
I have seen this issue as well but I have also seen men fall very hard into depression. While women do shoulder burdens, if men are married and are considered to be the bread winners of the household, losing a job or lost credibility can be devastating to a man's state of mind. I have seen friends be depressed chronically through life, just because they have had ongoing trials that do not allow them to feel satisfied. I agree that having God in our lives does make us appreciate the smaller things and waking up each day as opposed to only looking to material wealth or vices to complete life. I think that when women are asked to do things that they are not built to do, they only appreciate the ability, the satisfaction, the moral character building, etc if they have God to lean on.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
toomuchchange
welcome to mylot. You are from USA -- the advanced country. Even here considerable percentage of people are unemployed. that is why you have narrated the experience of people known to you. Lack of job creates depression in men and in turn further depression in women also. The second part of your response appears more philosophical/religious. thanks.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 12
ravisivan I think the modern generation of young women want it all husband kids a great job and the latest gizmos and beware when they face reality and even with two jobs they arenot going to be
able to buy the latest cellphone,laptops, notebooks, etc etc and they feel depressed as they want it all and not everyone can afford it all.I think its time they learned to appreciate what they have and appreciate that job and those great kids and that hard working husband and forget about longing for expensive electronic gadgets they cannot quite afford.its as if the standard of living we had growing up is thought poor and they want it all and get depressed as they feel its necessities all those electronic toys.
they should try being grateful for what they have as in other countries people think we live pretty damned good. lol.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
Hatley aunty:
Yes. you relate it to the people's desire for acquisition of cell phones and other gadgets. It may be right for some people. You know more about it because you are from usa. It is said that people get depressed at an earlier age in USA than in other countries.
yes. we must be grateful to God for whatever he has given us.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
14 Oct 12
I stayed in this motel ran by people from India. Boy they sure believe for lack of a better word, or go by, the social class system. I was writing a letter in their motel lobby and I was told it was only for having breakfast. The Indian manager was telling my son a little later that he didn't want us talking to other patrons who owned a $35,000 vehicle. I was made to feel very badly and he upset me terribly when I was shewed out of the lobby. That motel made like over $1,000 from us. We ended up having to stay there like 5 weeks. He made me feel like I wasn't good enough to talk to other people staying at the motel. Now when I think of that guy - I really don't like him at all. Sorry I got off the subject. I think the class system is a big cause of depression. People shouldn't be made to think they aren't as important if they have less money and things.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Oct 12
Not only do I think that the burdens that so many women are facing in their lives is one of the reasons that there are so many women that suffer from depression in comparison with men that suffer from depression. I also think that another reason that there are so many women that suffer from depression is because of the differences in hormones that women have in their bodies when compared to the hormones of men.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
14 Oct 12
Hi ravisivan: Although I didn't know about a medical research on this subject I can understand this information. My mom is usually more worried about the problems we have to deal everyday in my house. This is probably because women usually care more about their family and the problems they have to face in their house while men even if they are responsible too could ignore these things and feel less concerned about the daily problems that happen in the house. At the same time, women are usually more sentimental than boys.
ALVARO
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
10 Oct 12
Yes, I think that much is asked of women. They need to be more sensitive, they have to be the better kid, like to take care of their male brothers even if they are not the oldest, some teach their daughters to accept cheating, if a girl wants to date and enjoy life until 25 if she has many boyfriends she's called names... it's hard. We got be strong and follow whatever we want to do cause it's in the end it's just sexism created by society, women can do everything man can.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
10 Oct 12
katie
Women can do everything men can do. right. in fact women do more than men also --carrying a child. Responsibilities are more. I have different views on dating --you say more freedom should be given to young women. It has to be on a calculated level so that their mental health, physical health is not affected. you have a point. good day.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Oct 12
Hi,
You are right. Women are more prone to depression because they are very sensitive and emotional than may. Women also have the tendency to cry easily than men. I think working women have more responsibilities. They have to look after their family and work outside.