Inviting classmates

I remember that I would not invite all my daughter`s classmates. I could not deal with it. But I talked to the teacher if I could take a cake to school so that everyone would have a sort of party at recess. And then I`d let them invite 5 or 6 of their best friends for a house party.

Hi, You should invite the whole class for your son's happiness. The boy who is disliked by your son will not come and if he comes it's ok. Your discussion reminds me my son's childhood. We also used to invite his some best friends, neighborhood friends and some relatives. It was very happy times.

hi dorannmwin I suppose it would not be nice to invite all the class but the boy he dislikes bu t maybe that boy will not come sol go again ask the whole class as half of th emn will probably not come anyway Hope they all have a wonderful time.I remember a birthday party whenI did not want this boy to come and was so happy as he did not come at all.

I'd invite the whole class.

Try to get him to think how he would feel if he were the only child not invited to a birthday party. If you can get him to step outside his own feelings maybe these two kids can have some relationship. Of course 6 years old is a little young for this exercise, but he might surprise you. Blessings of parenting.

You will have your hands full. Quite often the other child will not show up. Hope you all have a good time.

Let all of them join as an assembly of peers. It would be great fun and enjoyment to them being in togetherness, Let them sing and dance to their heart's contentment

All or no one....I know that is tough but you don't know how bad the little guy would feel if he were excluded....and explain to your son in a way that he can understand that he wouldn't want to be left out either....and maybe the little guy wouldn't show up anyway....I know it has happened to someone's kid I know and they were really hurt....enemies sometimes are just friends we haven't met yet.

I would only invite a few of the kids that he seems fond of. I remember what it was like being forced by my mother to give Valentine's Day cards to everyone in the class--including the *******s (which was most of them). It was a horrible thing to do to a child, and I have vowed to never do that to any of my children should I ever have any. Children shouldn't be forced to socialize with jerks. If the other little boy is mean to your son, why should your son be forced to invite him to his birthday party? That just is not right, and it may undermine your son's faith in you--especially if you keep doing stuff like this.

Just explain that it is not polite to invite the whole class and exclude the one boy. Ask him to think how he would feel if it was him being excluded. Having said that, I would invite the whole class and who knows? The boy he doesn't lke may become likeable. Good luck as inviting so many children will be such a lot to organise but I expect that you will get help from family and friends. I hope that it goes well. Let us know how it goes.

Ok if I were you I would only invite a oouple of his friends from the neighborhood and his cousins. If you invite everyone from his class that could end up backfiring and you have everyone coming or worse that one kid that your son does not want to invite will come. Why put your son through all this on his birthday. He will not enjoy it and will end up being sad. Leave it small and simple and he will be happier. For him to cry concerning this one kid tells me this kid might be giving him trouble of some kind and I would ask him about this too. Good luck!

I met this lady the other day at the party store - and she told me she was having a birthday party for her 6 year old too. She said this year was going to be "interesting" because she did invite the whole class . . . and the point she brought up was she wasn't sure what was going to happen because she didn't know most of the kids - and that would mean she wouldn't be knowing the parents who were coming either. She felt it was a tad scary letting in these strange people whom she knew nothing about in her home! But, she was doing it. I think I would invite the whole class. It's possible too that if that one little boy should show up, he might show his better side at the party - and all could be well from then on! On the flipside, he may not show up too (as you said, only a handful usually show up when it comes to inviting an entire class). But some people only want to invite a certain few . . . like what our friend did when they had a birthday party that was budgeted and they could only invited a certain number of kids at this indoor playground. In our school, there are homework folders that go home. I've seen some parents ask the teachers or the aides to put in invitations for certain children because not everyone was being invited (and the parents never see the parents of the children and they wanted to ensure they got the invitation). So that's on option as well.

hi dear dorannmwin, for me it would depend on how big the class is as he also invites the neighbourhood friends and his cousins. Probably I would ask him to pick the two or three kids of his kindergarten group he likes best.

It is your son's birthday, and if there is a child in his class he really doesn't like, I'd only have him invite about five people from his class that he really would like to know better. That doesn't exclude just one child so that there are hard feelings. If he's only going to be 6, he really doesn't need a huge party. Why not have just a few classmates, the neighbor children, and his cousins? i like the idea of also taking a birthday treat to school to share with the whole class so that classmates not invited to the party will still not be completely left out of the celebrating. Maybe I'm for limiting party size because I would not have felt able to handle more than about twelve six-year-olds myself. It can be stressful, unless the parents of his cousins will be helping out. I took the coward's way out. We lived near a beach (well, it was an eight mile hike to the beach.) We invited everyone we knew and their families, including people from church and the entire school class. The kids and my husband and other willing parents hiked to the beach and those of us with the food drove met them there. I didn't have to worry about games because the kids were content to build sand castles, bury each other, and wade a bit. I didn't have to watch everyone because their own parents, for the most part, were there, too. It gave me a chance to get to know the parents of the classmates, and everyone had a good time. It became a tradition we all looked forward to every year. Did I mention I hate having indoor parties with games, etc.?

I have to say that I would have your son do what you said give all the kids in the class an invitation. I always invite all the kids in my kids classes because I dont want to single certain kids out and make them feel bad. Somtimes with the cost of parties you have to limit how many people you invite but we try to do things that will be low cost no matter how many kids show up. My daughter the one year cried because she didnt want one boy to come to her party she didnt want to invite him she said he would ruin her party because he is so bad. I said if that was her she wouldnt want to be the only kid in the class that is excluded either. I said chances are he wouldnt come anyway and I was right he didnt come. One time about 2 years back all the boys in the class were invited to a boys birthday and a few of the girls as well. My daughter was one of the ones who didnt get invited and she was really upset about it and my heart broke for her.

When I was growing up I got to pick 5-10 classmates to invite. It's been the same for my kids.