Sometimes I think that I spoil my husband too much....
@MsControversy (446)
United States
October 9, 2012 10:49pm CST
My hubby doesn't have to anything but go to work and come home. It's my fault that I've got him in the habit of being so dependent on me because I'm a stay at home mom and I feel that when he goes to work all day, he should be able to come home to a clean house and a hot meal and be able to just kick back and relax. But sometimes I feel like, I do it all because he knows I will, not because he can't. When he wakes up in the morning for work, he always gets a hot breakfast. I never make him eat cereal or anything like that. He gets omelets or pancakes or scrambled eggs, I make his coffee and prepare it for him. I iron his clothes, make sure he has everything when he leaves. Make sure the house is always tidy. I run the vacuum everyday, I keep up on the laundry and dishes. When he comes home, he has dinner ready and waiting on him. I follow him around and pick up his clothes as he slings his shirt over the back of the chair and kicks his shoes off under the coffee table. I pour his drinks, make his sandwiches, get his snacks....etc etc etc etc...I'm not complaining I just think that sometimes he doesn't realize how much I do too even though he is the one that works all day. And don't get me wrong, he spoils me too, just in different ways.
2 people like this
6 responses
@ajlasent (536)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I can remember myself when I was young...my grandmother spoiled me the way you do your husband, although I wasn't working then and I was just being spoiled because she loved me a lot....
I guess when we love people we tend to do things for them and sometimes we just need a little uhm, appreciation... like hearing how good something you did was, something like that... some sort of acknowledgment, I guess?
But I can only imagine the things you do every day. x_x must be very tiring... and with the kids to watch over too! You're a supermom and super wifey in that sense, I think.... :)
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 12
wow, Ms, what a great wife you are. don't forget to spoil your self too.
you are doing it right, Ma'am. you keep your house clean and so on because well hubby can not do it as good as us. hahaha. seriously
it's really great of you if you didn't go on your nerves.
I am sure you are tired and bored as hell doing that. that's why you got all my respect. house job is really hard job.
you deserve some salon treatment and spa. really you need to relax your body and mind too. your husband is the most lucky guy in the world to have such devoted wife like you.
@MsControversy (446)
• United States
10 Oct 12
Thank you! 
I like to think that he has it pretty good! Sundays are my days. The kids go off to their grandma's and he has the day off, so I take off and do something just by myself. Usually get my nails done, they grow so fast that I have to have them balanced every two weeks. Or I go to Macy's and buy perfume or new make-up or something. Thank you for your words, you made me feel good! 
I like to think that he has it pretty good! Sundays are my days. The kids go off to their grandma's and he has the day off, so I take off and do something just by myself. Usually get my nails done, they grow so fast that I have to have them balanced every two weeks. Or I go to Macy's and buy perfume or new make-up or something. Thank you for your words, you made me feel good! @kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 12
awww glad to know it. it was nothing at all.
really, you deserve it, ma'am :D
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
10 Oct 12
well, if you are home, it is good that you take care of your hubby but,i would not do that to the extent that you are. i was a stay at home mom and after a long day with the kids, i was tired and the last thing i wanted to do was wait hand and foot on my hubby. we have a 50/50 partnership which means we each do 50 % of the work around the house.
now that our girls are almost grown (one is off at college and one is 15) i still only work part time but i have been diagnosed with chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia. i do most of the chores around the house on my days off but he still helps. i think that this is fair that we both pitch in.
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
10 Oct 12
"I just think that sometimes he doesn't realize how much I do too even though he is the one that works all day. "
You ALSO work all day, except you are not paid for it (except in nature if you know what I mean). The point is that you should talk to him and explain how you feel. Maybe you will reach a mutual conclusion where he offers to do something for a change around the house out of his own initiative and that will be enough, who knows, I believe you should give it a try. You are not a maid and should not be considered such, so dialogue is very much recommended.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Hi MsControversy, your such an amazing wife and can to all the household chores, taking care of your husband and children as the same time. I am married too but dont have yet a child, my husband also the one working all night since he asked me to resign form my previous work to get some rest and relax even for a while. But i can say the everyday he tried his best to help out me in the kitchen like washing the dishes, sweeping the floors and preparing the table. He never want me to get tired because he believes that we need to share everything including household chores. Your husband is very lucky to have you because your such a wonderful wife.
