My annoyance about my parents, girlfriend, and job. Please help me!
By Mattxu
@Mattxu (62)
China
October 10, 2012 12:09am CST
More than one year ago, I graduated from the university. At the same time I got a great job. I'm very satisfied with my first job, but the only problem is that the site of my company is far away from my hometown. It's more than 18000 kilometers away from my hometown.
Then, I met my current girlfriend at the site of my company. She is beautiful, femininity, hardworking and independent. I love her very much. Everything goes well and I fell eudemonia.
Some days ago, my parents said they missed me very much and they wanted me to work in a company which is near from my hometown.They said they wanted my son could call them grandfather and grandmother everyday in the future. And if I worked in my current company, they could only hear few times in one year. They would be very sad about that. I could understand my parents' feeling, and I figure that you could aslo understand it.
Besides that, they helped me to find a company which is near my hometown through my relatives. To be frank with you, this company is more great than my current company.
My girlfriend is considerate to me. She is supported to me. She aslo consider that I should go to that company and filial piety is very important. She said I could go to the company near my hometown firstly. Then after about one year, she will resign from her current company and come to the site where I am. Not long ago, her current company dispatched her to a foreign country. So she wouldn't resign from her current company recently.
In a word, I have two choices now. One is that I will go to the new company, but I need to shoulder the burden that my girlfriend may leave me. You know, everything may changes. The other one is that I will stay at my current company, then I will be a undutiful child. I also don't want to say "I'm apologized" to my parents.
Which one should I choose?
Please help me. Thank you!
1 response
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing the discussion. I can understand the situation u are going through and u must be pretty much perplexed about what to do and what to avoid. i think u have to keep your priorities clear at present. u have to decide who is more important for u in your life. i know no one can replace your parent's position in your life. Its your duty to be with them all the time and allow your girlfriend to move out to another country and if she is settled there, then u can call her back after some years of experience to your city and then u both can decide what to do next.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for your response again. Well definitely you need to thing about this thing very deeply after all it is your life and all your decisions are very much crucial for your life. If u take a wrong decision then u might end up disappointing and hurting many. So speak to your mind and consult your heart and i m sure u will get the answer to your queries.
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